A question for enlightened elders: Why is it that ladies bail out as soon as a relationship begins to become serious..

Mnisaidie hapa…

I have been reflecting on my past encouters, and I have realized that all is usually well as long as I maintain a casual relationship/flings, but as long as things begin to pick pace (become serious of sorts) most of them bail out.

This has happened thrice- making me the common denominator.

Two of them said something to the tune of not feeling “emotionally connected”- whatever that means. What does it mean btw?

Means you are a beta male

Because they know u are a low-value negroid who deserves nothing but sloppy seconds. Work to become a man of value like me and them hoes will be grabbing you as soon as you walk down the streetm

Means you are betachieth simp

You a beta male whose purpose is to buck while alpha male get laid
Best of luck perennial beta in your future beta endeavors

Tafasali elezea mimi kama mtoto mdogo… Im in my mid 20s i’m really working hard around the clock kunukisha kitunguu, and seriously saving. I’m sure by 30 i’ll have made major strides. Other than that I am very outgoing, and sijawahi ogopa kuapproach.

I rarely spend any cash on anyone, at least for now… Then mbona wakatae relationships and yet they are okay when things are casual/ surface level…

I am confused. It is usually the other way round, dudes preferring to keep it casual na kukimbia karura when the ladies ask “what are we/where are we headed…”

Men conquer the world, women conquer the men.

Once she has conquered you and give in to her demands, she looks for the next man to do the same. In her brain, ‘if it was easy for her to manipulate you and ,put you in her pocket, what will other women do?’

That’s why men should not chase relationship, it’s the womans job to do that.

Yeah, most people husema kitu ka hio… but mine I feel is kinda reverse… as long as we are casual things will be cool hadi a few months down the line watu wakianza kukatch feelz… hapo ua najua nimeingia matatani… and its them who bail out, si hata mimi… so sielewi

That is why I have decided to ask,

Especially hii part ya “not feeling emotionally connected”

Any thoughts?

this

:smiley: everyone is different. And not everyone is looking for a relationship.

It’s tiring having to always reaffirm someone. Sometimes you just want to get some and get out …

Women are gatekeepers of sex, men are gatekeepers of relationships.

That is why in this village we all have coordinates of local green zones.

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This sounds relatable… Ni tu time ikisonga ua naangushiwa hii, whether tumekua official or not

“I’m not feeling emotionally connected”

The most recent hata si ati anataka ikue official or anything. She mantains that she is not feeling connected, but still when we meet ananipea.

So what do you suggest I should do?

Ebu soma tena kenye nimepost, I feel ni kama sikujieleza vizuri

Na inakuwaga umekagua mare kagu kagu

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I am working to become a man of value. Currently i’d say i’m ahead of my peers, serious work in progress and by 30 i’m sure nitakua far.

Kenye sielewi is “not feeling connected” especially if it is a casual relationship… care to elaborate?

You is basically “John the baptist”…:D:D

Yes. Kama hakuna dalili ya kupewa, I usually cut lossess haraka na kusonga kama ijiri.

I’m particularly interested in hii…" not feeling emotionally connected" mbona mse atake kufeel connected yet sia ati ni dem wako official au bibi?