Did you know that it is statistically proven that the "perfect" and most successful relationships are between a woman who was a first child and a man who was the first born male in his family?
(i carried out the research myself so don`t bother googling it)
It is also fact that women mature faster than men both mentally and physically.
Armed with these Facts and new realizations i can see why my marriage didn`t stand a chance!
I mean, my only true love and now ex-wife was two years older than me.She is the first born child in her family while i am a last born in a family of 6. When you are a last born,you feel forgotten and the only attention you will get has to be earned by either being good But mostly for getting in trouble.
I remember being a troubled teenager especially in boarding school for my High School education i got suspended at least once every term in my first two years. Once i even went home all excited for my half-term break and as soon as i got through the front door my dad took a long look at me over his newspaper and called out; "Riu ningi nikii weka?" - "What did you do this time?". My mom had forgotten to tell him that i was coming home for halfterm.
Women who are first-borns are very mature,focused ,ambitious and very responsible with the burden of setting a good example always hanging over them.My wife is a perfect example of this while i was the total opposite.
At first when you get together in a relationship its all fun and games and while you realise the differences in what your priorities and values are based on the above mentioned Facts,you tend to brush them off in a jovial and "love conquers all" attitude.
But then comes the true underlying Facts of Nature and Responsibilities that your different circumstances hold and which you cannot escape from just because you are now married.
A first born child`s responsibilities dont end when she/he gets married. They are still looked upon by not just their siblings but by their parents to look after everyone mostly materially but also emotionally etc.
If you are not married or in a serious relationship yet and you still believe in Love,Marriage and Family,Factor All these things in before you make the big leap of Committing yourself to Someone else.
(Free Advice from @Ka-Buda)
(i carried out the research myself so don`t bother googling it)
It is also fact that women mature faster than men both mentally and physically.
Armed with these Facts and new realizations i can see why my marriage didn`t stand a chance!
I mean, my only true love and now ex-wife was two years older than me.She is the first born child in her family while i am a last born in a family of 6. When you are a last born,you feel forgotten and the only attention you will get has to be earned by either being good But mostly for getting in trouble.
I remember being a troubled teenager especially in boarding school for my High School education i got suspended at least once every term in my first two years. Once i even went home all excited for my half-term break and as soon as i got through the front door my dad took a long look at me over his newspaper and called out; "Riu ningi nikii weka?" - "What did you do this time?". My mom had forgotten to tell him that i was coming home for halfterm.
Women who are first-borns are very mature,focused ,ambitious and very responsible with the burden of setting a good example always hanging over them.My wife is a perfect example of this while i was the total opposite.
At first when you get together in a relationship its all fun and games and while you realise the differences in what your priorities and values are based on the above mentioned Facts,you tend to brush them off in a jovial and "love conquers all" attitude.
But then comes the true underlying Facts of Nature and Responsibilities that your different circumstances hold and which you cannot escape from just because you are now married.
A first born child`s responsibilities dont end when she/he gets married. They are still looked upon by not just their siblings but by their parents to look after everyone mostly materially but also emotionally etc.
If you are not married or in a serious relationship yet and you still believe in Love,Marriage and Family,Factor All these things in before you make the big leap of Committing yourself to Someone else.
(Free Advice from @Ka-Buda)
