[B][I]Look at this idiot. His marriage has broken down and instead of thinking of taking care of his son(who appears to be abused by the mother), he is thinking of reuniting with someone who has moved on
Hi Philip,[/I][/B]
I am a constant reader of your column. I am 33 years old and I have been married for five years with one child. My wife and I dated for seven good years before we decided to get married. We both hail from them same rural area, in fact we come from the same village. Things started changing immediately we settled down, our mothers who were once friends became enemies, each talking ill about the other. They don’t greet each other any more and this has affected my family a lot by causing constant wrangles in the house.
In April this year, I came from work to find an empty house, everything I had bought during the time we were together (I am the sole breadwinner) had been carried away by my wife. I called her to find out what went wrong and why she carried my belongings away and she told me that she cannot allow another woman to come and use the things we used to share together.
It now happened by coincidence that one recent Sunday, I met her walking around with my son. My sons health has already deteriorated completely, he had wounds on the head, neck and on both legs, he looked stressed and depressed, nobody had bothered telling me that my son was sick.
I took him to hospital and when we were done, he refused to accompany his mother back. Due to the nature of my work I was forced to lie to him and tell him to go with his mother and that I would come for them later.
What should I do, should I take legal action against my wife and her mother or should I just call my wife back considering the fact that this is her fourth time to leave.
I have supported her all through and constantly reminded her that I am the one who married her and not my mum and I will stand by her should things go wrong.
It also seems as if her sisters play a bigger role in her life than I do. They used to send her everywhere without my consent and knowledge and whenever I questioned them, it would cause problems and lead to arguments. They would complain that I am trying to stop her from associating with her family and relatives. Now what can I do, what actions can I take considering the fact that she has completely wasted my 12 years. Please advise me.
Musa