In this era we live in I’ve seen children in the streets fending off for themselves at a tender age ranging from the age of 12 and above which I find abnormal (in most cases I think it’s due to poverty) but I see zeal in them, some of them are those we see in traffic selling pure waters, etc…
While some men/women at the age of 25-30 are still living under their parents roof, still being fed by their parents. I also find this not a good standard for a person of that age.
This prompted me to ask this question, at what ideal age should an individual start an independent life?
Probably you should look at the issue from financial perspective rather than an absolute age. You should move out as soon as you are financially able. Its up to you to make yourself financially able whether you are 20 or 50
Born taos were raised with few difficulties so they can’t imagine venturing by themselves without mom and dad’s help. Lakini watu wa ocha first chance they get to leave mashinani they just go, because they imagine town life is better. In the last 20 years it hasn’t been easy for most young people to find the kind of jobs their parents had.
I think 25-26 is a reasonable age to be considered as fully independent.
but lets take those in abroad for example hustling…ok lets say hustle haijaenda poa and they decide to come home na wako above 30…is it allowed wakae kwa wazazi ama waondoke…
This is an interesting topic. I think also moving out depends on the cultural practices of the community. For example, wahindi tend to live together. You find in one house kuna like 7 generations wanaishi hapo. Any kenyan indians in the village watuelezee hi maneno?
However go to many middle class estates utapata tubaba tuko almost 40 still clinging to their mothers’ aprons. I know several I grew up with still living at home, not married. Sana sana ni boy children wako na hii tabia.
There is no specific age really. Forget what the societal norm is for a while. It could be 18, it could be 60. I know a millionaire mzee who constructed a big mansion with the houses for his 2 sons inside. He has all the money, and the sons are also rich on their own. But they all live under one roof, just separate ‘homes’. Na ni shagz, and they are fine
Akufukuzaye hakwambii nenda. Ukiingia secondary uanze kunyimwa pesa na ujengewe keja karibu sana na gate unajua its time to pack and leave. Nilikuja university the first semester nikaimagine kule narudi nikaona zii. I had to survive by whatever means huku Nairobi.
Mostly because women marry up. Its not that women are special or “smarter” etc. If a brother and sister have the same mindset, the sister will escape through marriage, but the guy will remain trapped in the stupor.
A child should be raised properly and given good advice by parents/caregivers. Someone will feel a natural urge to be independent. There’s no need of giving a time for it. Everyone wants to be independent asap. When you find over 30s still living at home & depending on parents, kuna kitu haikufanywa poa. By nature one wants to be their own boss, so if one does not get a proper upbringing, they are highly likely to fail in life.
Kila familia ina mambo zake. Wengine wazazi ndio wanaishi kwao.
Doesnt matter really, wao walikuzaa mkaishi pamoja na wao wako tu wanakupenda… wewe ni mtoto wao… will ni kwako… Saa ingine Hakuna brainer hapo. itafika time utatoka tu.
Just do what concerns you… achana na mambo za familia ingine