It was just yesterday when I was in my usual stage ya Kenya Mpya, nowadays it is hectic to get a bus plying the Thika road route. I decided to chill and lean on the walls of the closed shops and wait as a civilized person for my turn to board the bus- my way of protecting my phone and other valuables.
This short yellow-yellow chic, joined me to the right and started interacting with her phone. I looked at her and noticed that she was the social type. What came into my mind was this question: how do I break the Ice? I was tired so I decided to let it go, kesho pia ni siku. My way of developing self-control to avoid acting needy.
Out from nowhere a guy ( in an overall) appeared with a tin of ice cream- I thought ni makanga wa kenya mpya ju nimeona njaro zao. He invited her to join him, at first she hesitated but eventually she gave in, in the end, they were sharing the spoon.
Looking at the facial expression of a Buda in front of me, who was also witnessing the turn of event, it suggested that the girl appeared cheap. I laughed inside and left the scene, didn’t want the jealous side of me to take over.
Lesson to learn: When you have something to share use it to start a conversation.
I stopped “approaching”. Nowadays I just start yapping and if it builds up, sawa. If it doesn’t, in the words of Jay Zed, “on to the next on on to the next one…”
Hii Nairobi if a random woman approaches me I freak out and contemplate what kind of ploy am being pulled into. So can imagine venye msichana anaeza think ukim approach out of nowhere in the streets… Maybe kama mumeshakaa kwa mat.
Just start a random convo, where I am from kuna alot of sneaky assholes so sometimes I keep to myself but if the lady looks inviting na hajacross mikono kwa chest kama some KDF offficer, I usually use the jam to break the ice. It works. Then I check my watch all the time to look ‘busy’ apo anajua mujamaa ako wira