Cheating wife

A very rational thought there. When you put up with a wedding you invest so much finances in the wife and should things go south you stand to lose so much. Iko Omera fulani alioa dem shinny eye na loan hapa tu mtaani. After honey moon si jamaa amekaukiwa ki mfuko na dem akamtoka. Thick and thin to her was more like rhymes. Kwa hayo machache harusi ni kwa D.O.
Huyo mujamaa alitembeza mucakwe ama zii. No difference with some mf buying an X5 just to binja a gal child
 
A very rational thought there. When you put up with a wedding you invest so much finances in the wife and should things go south you stand to lose so much. Iko Omera fulani alioa dem shinny eye na loan hapa tu mtaani. After honey moon si jamaa amekaukiwa ki mfuko na dem akamtoka. Thick and thin to her was more like rhymes. Kwa hayo machache harusi ni kwa D.O.
I see a man planning a big wedding especially hawa wa committee and I see a big fool. That is putting too much on the line and involving too many unnecessary parties. Alafu kwanza ikuwe it's with a woman that has never even spent a week in your house na ata hujaweka mimba. Kama ni kufanya hizo big weddings then the woman better have proved her worth by bringing forth about three of my offsprings and being on her best behavior for about 10-15 years in marriage. Otherwise until then kama ni kuoana ni kwa A.G.
 
Going by the comments, I can't believe the number of men willing to take back a cheating wife and become cucks because of the kids and societal pressure. Can't be me. I'd rather deal with the misery of not seeing my child than knowingly sleep in the same bed with a woman dripping another man's cum from her pu**y in the name of being near my child. Gentlemen, you need to have some fucking self worth.
 
Yani you guys have been so dumbed down that you have accepted to be cucked .Your happiness comes last .You'd rather stay in an unhappy marriage because what will people say wakiskia you divorced your wife .
What you dont know is that kids are very quick in picking the negative energy between you and your wife and they'll turn out more fucked than you can handle .By the time you are getting to 60 ,you'll be an uhappy man who wasted his prime years in an unhappy union .Bad thing it will be too late to do something by then .Uliza Prof Mugenda

Ps;Two happily separated people make better parents than two unhappy adults pretending they are married
Ukweli. before going our own ways, the tension and toxicity in the house was overwhelming and you could see that the kids were being affected. right now, they are at their happiest because they get the love from both of us since we dont stay together to spread the negative energy
 
Bro i will tell you what i told my friend who also asked why i run away from my wife,


That even Amazon Owner, richest person in the world, Bezos decided the investment is not anything to tie you down on a unhappy marriage.
Bro YOU DID NOT INVEST MORE THAN BEZOS na he Left the Group. As a man when you decide to leave, LEAVE and dont count what you did.

But leave with a very good strategy then file a case BEFORE HER IN COURT for Custody bro. Do this after you have decided its over.

The 30k deposit for filing that case will be the biggest investment in your whole life. IF THAT WOMAN FILES A CASE ABOUT YOU FIRST IN COURT FOR MAINTENANCE BRO YOU WILL BE DEAD MEAT. You will be sending her money, not seeing your children, having a escort when accessing the children because she will say, you were physical to her, drunk dad, dead beat. That will hit you for the rest of your life.

And one rule, as you are here planning and asking for advice SHE ALSO IS GETTING ADVICE from somewhere else. She will be told Jamaa akikataa hurudi, hit him where it hurts most, that is deny him access to his kids. No better way than going to court and fabricating things.

So my advice.

1. Take a step back, look at things at the grand scheme of things. WACHANA NA POMBE IT WILL CLOUD YOUR JUDGEMENT. Sai you need a very sober mind.
2. Make a lifetime decision.
3. Act on it 100%.
4. If you decide to leave bro, GO TO COURT FIRST. The peace of mind you will get by being the Plaintiff will be gigantic in proportions. You will control the case. Delay tactics, she defending herself,you will be heard first before her, she cant file another case while the first one is progressing, even after case has been determined if she files a case you will say its just revenge and malice.

YAANI GOING TO COURT FIRST will be the biggest invesment in your life. Alafu wewe you have big kids hao watakupenda sana if you get access first.

Imagine you being denied access then Imagine your 10 yr old boy being told BABA NI MBAYA,ALINICHAPA,ALITUTESA, she will poison those kids na you dont see them. Those kids will hate you kabisaa. Its a cruel world huku nje.

So ACT FIRST. IF SHE SHE CAN CHEAT SHE CAN DO ALOT BAD
Best advice ever from a man to another man. Believe it you have helped an almost dead soul.
 

ntash

Village Elder
I took my time to go through the comments before giving my views.

I have counted the families I knew either or both parents where chewing outside and tjey stayed together.

From the look of things, it seems their kids didn't even achieve even half of their potential. Am suprised even kids of those parents we kept attending fees fund raisings are doing better by far.

This shit is real.
 
Talkers I need some advises here.I have been married for the past eleven years and we are blessed with two kids(boys) 10yrs and 4yrs consecutively. Now the issue is,recently,as my kid was playing games using her phone a message popped in and I decided to check ni ya only to find it was from a certain guy akimuliza kwa nini ame-block kwani wako na nani.I confronted my wife and she denied it saying ati in jamaa who disturbs her akitaka kumletea order za mayai.Later on nikakuwa curious nikaingia fb yake only to be hit by the same guy akimshow kwa nini alimnblock and the way he loved her ati ata kajamaa kanaeza jinyonga.All this my wife has denied akasema she was just flirting.I sent her away on Saturday but akaenda na watoi kwao but the whole thing is killing me.I've invested so much in my marriage I loves my kids damn much and am not imagining life without them.Kulala imekuwa ni issue am just drinking daily.Guys how can you help a brother?How do I move on?(
Advice
Respectively
Wow! You would think it would make you happy that your wife is ignoring the guy.. Alafu ukamfukuza!!! Yenyewe maturity has nothing to do with age
 

jmoy

Village Elder
Yani you guys have been so dumbed down that you have accepted to be cucked .Your happiness comes last .You'd rather stay in an unhappy marriage because what will people say wakiskia you divorced your wife .
What you dont know is that kids are very quick in picking the negative energy between you and your wife and they'll turn out more fucked than you can handle .By the time you are getting to 60 ,you'll be an uhappy man who wasted his prime years in an unhappy union .Bad thing it will be too late to do something by then .Uliza Prof Mugenda

Ps;Two happily separated people make better parents than two unhappy adults pretending they are married
Are you married and for how long?
 
Growing up I had a lot of respect for marriage especially married ladies as saints. Then I entered the corporate world. Mambo nimeona I usually now ask myself, if a woman can do this to a man she has 3 kids with, what are men who I deem to be worse than women to the nth degree do?

As for marrying at 50 bcz then you are so called position of power, once you get children with anyone your position of power diminishes in unfathomable proportions. If you don't want someone having power over you then don't have children with them bcz they have a lot of power over you than anything you can imagine. Even those children can make your life hell later in life out of bitterness for leaving their mother. I've seen a man who managed to bribe his way to full custody of his son, the boy never saw the mom till he was grown and went to search for the mother. As an adult. Right now huyo kijana hates the father and torments him vibaya. Never underestimate the bond of a mother and a child. Utashanga.

For the alfa mails who are shouting loudest about how hawawezi kuliwa Bibi, lemme tell you of a colleague I had we shared an office, the husband was very possessive he had people monitoring her movements, some were taxi drivers right outside our office. The lady was madly in love with a married guy in a nearby building. She went to an extent of asking for a transfer to an out of town branch bcz this was a small town, she started meeting the guy in very remote motels after she had her fill she asked for a return transfer. Btw her husband was a criminal and she wasn't even afraid of that. She was also sleeping with her married exe who lived in another town weneva she went there for out of town work trip which she instigated after planning the tryst with the exe. Further to that she was sleeping with several bosses in their offices on weekends for favors. She would just say, she's been called in to work. So if a woman wants to cheat on you, not even the fear of death let alone the fear of you leaving her will stop her. And she will find a way to do it even if you hire a private investigator to track all her movements. It's the way you tell a child not to do something and they will find a way to do it behind your back just to prove that they can outsmart you and that you are not the boss of them. Humans rebel against even God sembuse wewe binadamu.

As for leaving, just know that there's no guarantee that your subsequent women will not cheat on you. Better the devil you know than the angels you think are out there who maybe a lot worse than the one you thought was a devil.

A man who has slept with a woman he knows is married will never threaten to kill himself bcz she has blocked him. Such extremes are for pple like Naftali Who have never tasted things and are still in the pursuit of sex.

Usiolijua ni usiku wa giza. Divorce is not a joke my friend. You may one day look back and wish you just looked the other way bcz of the troubles divorce will bring to you and your children. Think ten times. Are the opportunity costs of divorce worth scarring your kids for life. For an uncertain future with some imaginary ideal woman who you think will never cheat on you. Do a cost benefit analysis. Look at effects of divorce on kids. Think about your wife once she is single bringing different men home in the presence of your boys and the effects it will have on their psyche. Is the evidence that you think you have worth all this trouble? Or is it jumping from the frying pan into the fire?

On a light note, I wonder if all women followed the advice here, how many marriages would still be existing. Double standards are real.
 
Growing up I had a lot of respect for marriage especially married ladies as saints. Then I entered the corporate world. Mambo nimeona I usually now ask myself, if a woman can do this to a man she has 3 kids with, what are men who I deem to be worse than women to the nth degree do?

As for marrying at 50 bcz then you are so called position of power, once you get children with anyone your position of power diminishes in unfathomable proportions. If you don't want someone having power over you then don't have children with them bcz they have a lot of power over you than anything you can imagine. Even those children can make your life hell later in life out of bitterness for leaving their mother. I've seen a man who managed to bribe his way to full custody of his son, the boy never saw the mom till he was grown and went to search for the mother. As an adult. Right now huyo kijana hates the father and torments him vibaya. Never underestimate the bond of a mother and a child. Utashanga.

For the alfa mails who are shouting loudest about how hawawezi kuliwa Bibi, lemme tell you of a colleague I had we shared an office, the husband was very possessive he had people monitoring her movements, some were taxi drivers right outside our office. The lady was madly in love with a married guy in a nearby building. She went to an extent of asking for a transfer to an out of town branch bcz this was a small town, she started meeting the guy in very remote motels after she had her fill she asked for a return transfer. Btw her husband was a criminal and she wasn't even afraid of that. She was also sleeping with her married exe who lived in another town weneva she went there for out of town work trip which she instigated after planning the tryst with the exe. Further to that she was sleeping with several bosses in their offices on weekends for favors. She would just say, she's been called in to work. So if a woman wants to cheat on you, not even the fear of death let alone the fear of you leaving her will stop her. And she will find a way to do it even if you hire a private investigator to track all her movements. It's the way you tell a child not to do something and they will find a way to do it behind your back just to prove that they can outsmart you and that you are not the boss of them. Humans rebel against even God sembuse wewe binadamu.

As for leaving, just know that there's no guarantee that your subsequent women will not cheat on you. Better the devil you know than the angels you think are out there who maybe a lot worse than the one you thought was a devil.

A man who has slept with a woman he knows is married will never threaten to kill himself bcz she has blocked him. Such extremes are for pple like Naftali Who have never tasted things and are still in the pursuit of sex.

Usiolijua ni usiku wa giza. Divorce is not a joke my friend. You may one day look back and wish you just looked the other way bcz of the troubles divorce will bring to you and your children. Think ten times. Are the opportunity costs of divorce worth scarring your kids for life. For an uncertain future with some imaginary ideal woman who you think will never cheat on you. Do a cost benefit analysis. Look at effects of divorce on kids. Think about your wife once she is single bringing different men home in the presence of your boys and the effects it will have on their psyche. Is the evidence that you think you have worth all this trouble? Or is it jumping from the frying pan into the fire?

On a light note, I wonder if all women followed the advice here, how many marriages would still be existing. Double standards are real.
Only mad men get married. This i know to be true.
 
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mwania

Guest
Growing up I had a lot of respect for marriage especially married ladies as saints. Then I entered the corporate world. Mambo nimeona I usually now ask myself, if a woman can do this to a man she has 3 kids with, what are men who I deem to be worse than women to the nth degree do?

As for marrying at 50 bcz then you are so called position of power, once you get children with anyone your position of power diminishes in unfathomable proportions. If you don't want someone having power over you then don't have children with them bcz they have a lot of power over you than anything you can imagine. Even those children can make your life hell later in life out of bitterness for leaving their mother. I've seen a man who managed to bribe his way to full custody of his son, the boy never saw the mom till he was grown and went to search for the mother. As an adult. Right now huyo kijana hates the father and torments him vibaya. Never underestimate the bond of a mother and a child. Utashanga.

For the alfa mails who are shouting loudest about how hawawezi kuliwa Bibi, lemme tell you of a colleague I had we shared an office, the husband was very possessive he had people monitoring her movements, some were taxi drivers right outside our office. The lady was madly in love with a married guy in a nearby building. She went to an extent of asking for a transfer to an out of town branch bcz this was a small town, she started meeting the guy in very remote motels after she had her fill she asked for a return transfer. Btw her husband was a criminal and she wasn't even afraid of that. She was also sleeping with her married exe who lived in another town weneva she went there for out of town work trip which she instigated after planning the tryst with the exe. Further to that she was sleeping with several bosses in their offices on weekends for favors. She would just say, she's been called in to work. So if a woman wants to cheat on you, not even the fear of death let alone the fear of you leaving her will stop her. And she will find a way to do it even if you hire a private investigator to track all her movements. It's the way you tell a child not to do something and they will find a way to do it behind your back just to prove that they can outsmart you and that you are not the boss of them. Humans rebel against even God sembuse wewe binadamu.

As for leaving, just know that there's no guarantee that your subsequent women will not cheat on you. Better the devil you know than the angels you think are out there who maybe a lot worse than the one you thought was a devil.

A man who has slept with a woman he knows is married will never threaten to kill himself bcz she has blocked him. Such extremes are for pple like Naftali Who have never tasted things and are still in the pursuit of sex.

Usiolijua ni usiku wa giza. Divorce is not a joke my friend. You may one day look back and wish you just looked the other way bcz of the troubles divorce will bring to you and your children. Think ten times. Are the opportunity costs of divorce worth scarring your kids for life. For an uncertain future with some imaginary ideal woman who you think will never cheat on you. Do a cost benefit analysis. Look at effects of divorce on kids. Think about your wife once she is single bringing different men home in the presence of your boys and the effects it will have on their psyche. Is the evidence that you think you have worth all this trouble? Or is it jumping from the frying pan into the fire?

On a light note, I wonder if all women followed the advice here, how many marriages would still be existing. Double standards are real.
You have a point. However, women should also take the same measure when it comes to cheating husbands. That is the cause of the current problem that has now properly entered the womenfolk as they are cheating at equal measure as their husbands. If we all declared zero tolerance to cheating, we would make real strides into eliminating the problem. A generation of children will suffer for the benefit of the future families. As it is now, cheating is a disaster. Women are as aggressive as their husbands in the quest for Mipangos.
 
You have a point. However, women should also take the same measure when it comes to cheating husbands. That is the cause of the current problem that has now properly entered the womenfolk as they are cheating at equal measure as their husbands. If we all declared zero tolerance to cheating, we would make real strides into eliminating the problem. A generation of children will suffer for the benefit of the future families. As it is now, cheating is a disaster. Women are as aggressive as their husbands in the quest for Mipangos.
Zero tolerance or none, human beings are just wired to go against the rules for as long as they can get away with it or are convinced in their minds they can. That's why people still commit crimes in spite of the fear of rotting away in jail and people are still super promiscuous and they have seen how bad HIV can be. Outside controls are usually not very strong motivation and humans do things based on motivation. If the fear of the repurcussions isn't as strong as the motivation to cheat, nothing will stand in their way. Internal controls are the best where you yourself decide that cheating/promiscuity/adultery is not worth it you, or it's immoral, or it's beneath you.

When I see pple trying to stop their spouses from cheating by checking phones, social media, tracking movements after work hours, I just laugh. Do you think you can control a human being kama ni Mungu mwenyewe ameshindwa? Your spouse has people at work, in the gym and even in church who all they need to do is ask and the people will sleep with them. Just for asking. With no calls, no sms, no whatssup, no evidence.They just need to set a regular day to meet say every other Wednesday. And it could happen over lunch break. Many hotels have hourly rates bcz it's booming business, lunch hour romps. Usually between married folk bcz single people demand more even if it starts out casual. So hii kuchunga chunga mtu my friend, it can not stop a damn thing from happening. You really have no control over an adult even though kubweka rules and spying makes you feel you are in control. You are not. That's just a delusional defense mechanism to protect you from the despair of realizing how powerless you really are and how much power the other party has to make a fool of you, take you for a ride and infect you with an incurable Sti like HIV. To me it's the hugest gamble people take in life, to put such trust and power in the hands of a fickle human being. But the returns are pretty great. So you just have to hope for the best, it's a non refundable bet kama Ile ya Spotrspesa, ikiblow imeblow, BORA UHAI.
 

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