In campus there was this couple who the lady would always be clinging to the guys arm. One night I woke up kedo 3am to go. pee, nikasikia running water n saw male clad kwa mlango ya adjacent bathroom. Msichana wa wenyewe ameamka usiku wa manane kuoshea bf manguo. Halafu after hiyo job yote they didnt even end up together. I am not saying helping is bad but ingine ni utumwa. And men what I know of their nature if you give them an inch they'll take a mile. Personaly I have a rule even with all males except my relas that I only give money that Id give as a gift. I don't buy anything except consumables. I once gave a guy 100k to pay his fees out of pity bcz,I lost his half meter in a pyramid I introduced him to,luckily alikuwa mungwana he paid mpaka na interest juu. I shudder to think ingekuwa majamaa wengine kama ningeona hiyo pesa tena.
Myself am a very generous person but imebidi I restrain myself bcz people take it as a weakness to exploit. I now prefer helping in an anonymous cause than helping people I know. Women naturally are giving but Wueh men can really exploit women if they don't force themselves kukaa ngumu. Good women get misused so its better to just be a very stingy person ndio the vampires can leave in peace wakikosa chenye wamefuata.
Women are too too user friendly, they need some training on how to say No. Otherwise they can sucked dry by sharks of men we have nowadays!