Dear Young Men of My Generation

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March 31, 2016Posted in For Guys Only, Musings
Dear young men of my generation,

[Disclaimer: I use the word ‘’men’’ here to refer to the males (mostly known as boys) of this generation. I usually use this word VERY sparingly, because I find that it is overused and abused. Those who know me can testify to this fact. But for the sake of the seriousness of this piece and the respect that I think they deserve, I will use this word freely. Savor this moment gents!]

[Disclaimer #2: This letter is really long, but DO NOT BE DISCOURAGED. You can come back and read from where you left off…but PLEASE READ!]

Anyway, so Dear Young Men of My Generation,

I write this letter with the utmost respect for you. I know that you are under a lot of pressure from society to make something out of yourselves. Sometimes this pressure is so much, you just let go and stop caring. I wouldn’t blame you. I don’t really know what it’s like, having the responsibility of the world on your shoulders, coupled with your parents’ expectations, and society’s rules that seem quite unattainable. In addition to this, there is a culture that has developed quite rapidly of bashing you and blaming ‘’men’’ for horrible relationships, broken marriages and bad homes. Sadly, you are the main victims and most of the time, you’ve grown up in homes without dads, yet somehow, society finds it fit to blame you for being not ‘’man enough.’’

Or maybe, you come from a family where everything is alright, well, it seems to be alright because both your father and mother live together. But the truth is, outsiders don’t really see what goes on inside. Inside your home, inside your room, inside yourself. The struggle(s) that tear at your soul. No one sees that! Yet they expect you to live a stellar life, because you come from a stellar home and everything has been handed to you on a silver plate (or is it gold?) with a serviette on the side. It’s a shame that no one stops to wonder or think of the effect that a strained marriage, or a nearly broken home, or financial instability has on a young male child.

You watch the world from the eyes of a curious and cautious warrior. It’s instilled in you from an early age that you are a man. You are the leader, the one people will look up to. The provider. However, more often than not, that fire dies out because you are not equipped to become a warrior. Before your training even begins, you are shunned and disgraced for being not being man enough, for acting like a woman, yet that’s all you’ve grown up around. Being pampered and called ‘’daddy,’’ ‘’my kaboy’’ etc etc. The very society that softens your manliness later emasculates you by accusing you of becoming the very creature that they created.

You then turn the blame to your ‘’manly urges.’’ You believe this lie that is sold for free on the streets that all men want is a ‘’lil’ something’’ all the time. You become a slave and fall into the trap of things that true men have learnt to control. True men are not driven and tossed by the winds of desire and sexual pleasure! No, true men stand up and refuse to fall into a trap of seeking pleasure above all other things. Self- control, courage, dignity and service are some of the visible traits of a man who is ready to tackle the world.

My fear for you, men of my generation, is that you have not realized (some of you, well, let’s be honest MOST of you) have not realized that you are warriors in the making. Your fire to conquer- not girls- but injustice, cowardice and hopelessness amongst other things has been squished out by numerous factors. I won’t even complain about men not being chivalrous anymore because that conversation has no place in this discourse. This letter to you is written in the hope that you will realize what special place you hold in this society. You, my friend, are the future of my generation. Please do not fall into the trap that women are self-sufficient and can do everything by themselves. That is a lie. Its falseness transverses logic and cannot be a sustainable way to live your life: in fear of female domination. What scares me is the readiness with which men (boys) sit back and watch others take the lead and not say a word! Where are your ideas? Where is your creativity, and innovation? Your character and your courage? Where are the wacky, out of this world million-dollar ventures? Since when did men stop dreaming big dreams? Where did your dreams fade to?

Why has this generation of men become so preoccupied with FIFA and Call of Duty and GTA and all those other video games (that I have no clue about!?) Why has virtual reality become the dads and uncles and wise counsel of tomorrow’s fathers, uncles and leaders? You are our hope. And the saddest thing is that you do not believe me. You do not believe that potent statement. Ok, hold up, let’s be real here for a minute, FIFA is life, FIFA is the antidote for stress. It is super fun and absolutely productive in teaching men how to multitask! Ok, that’s slightly below the belt, but this letter would not be complete without me paying homage to the greatness of FIFA and it’s ingenuity. It is innovative, creative and keeps getting better every year. Many girls have been stood up because of this game, men of all ages have forgotten to take out the garbage and carry out other mundane chores due to the greatness of FIFA…may it live forever!

HAHAHA!

Dear Men of My Generation, man up. And I mean it. But not in the way that the media portrays it. Being laid by many women is not being a man. It just shows that you are a human being who lacks self-control and is a slave to his desires. Driving big cars is not being a man. How many Ranges or Benzes can make a man? In the days of King Solomon, camels were the Ranges of the day. Do you think that having camels from one edge of the sunrise to where the sun set made him a man? No! That’s how ridiculous is it to base your manhood on the cars you drive, the watches you have or the video games you play. Your possessions do not make you a man. Being physically attractive, does not make you a man (uh-uh.) Now some girls may disagree with me on this one, but it’s the truth. People grow old. Organs sag, it’s a fact of life. Beautiful people become ugly. (I’m sorry for being so frank, but someone has to!) Having a good education or a job does not make you a man either. These things come and go, knowledge becomes obsolete, information becomes outdated, then what!? You lose your masculinity because your degree is no longer in demand? Stop looking for your identity in your education, or your sporting ability or your charisma and how the girls love you. Stop trusting your silky smooth voice, because one day, it will depart and leave you high and dry: Sounding squeaky and the girls will move on to the next singing sensation! Sorry Boss!

So what makes a man? His character. His honesty, integrity, courage, work ethic and diligence. Being prudent, responsible, brave, intelligent, respectful, sincere, ambitious, persistent and perseverant, among many other character traits. It is said that you attract the people that you are most like. Think about it. Who do you spend your time with? What are the kind of people you identify with? Those are the people who are most likely to show you what your character is like. But wait, why are you looking outside of yourself for validation? You are created with a unique set of characteristics and only you can decide what kind man you want to become. Please, dear warrior, begin to look at yourself like one. A warrior, a champion, a defender. One day a little boy or girl will call you their father. Will they be proud of you? Will they be pleased to call you their dad? Does that thought scare you? Do you even think about becoming a father? If not, please begin to. Think about your teenage son, would you be proud if he did the things that you are doing, or have done? Would you encourage him to follow your footsteps and walk in your frame of mind? Are you making the mistakes that you are making for him, or do you not care about the consequences of your actions today and how they will affect him?

My heart goes out to all the men who are striving to become respectable. Who are investing in their future by making now worthwhile. Who have fun, but are responsible. Who think about the consequences before carrying out an action. These men value the words that come out of their mouths, they do not use profanity and are sensitive to the feelings of those around them. They are courageous, concerned, and assertive and know what they want in life. Their character is also in check. They have integrity and dignity. They are diligent. They admit their mistakes, learn from them and move on. They work daily on themselves and know what their weaknesses are. Kudos to you guys!!

Do not be deceived by these girls who dress skimpily, using their bodies as bait for your destinies. Anyone who tries to pressure you into doing anything that is not right doesn’t have your best interest at heart. You must learn to be firm and in control of your faculties, dear men. You cannot allow yourself to be driven by your desires. That’s not manly at all. There are so many things that can cause you to stumble, fall and lose your way. You are a warrior, one who many people will look up to. Do not give in or give up. Do not look down on yourself and wish away your responsibilities. You deserve respect, your opinions and ideas matter. Your voice should be heard. Your story is worth listening to. So speak up and speak out. This country needs its young men to rise up and be heard. Africa needs its young men back. Men who are willing to fight real injustice and not just virtual enemy soldiers on Call of Duty. We need to see this hidden and timid army becoming strong, powerful and respectable. Your words should stir up anger against corruption, rape, illiteracy, disease and poverty instead of encouraging it or protecting those who pursue and preserve these evil things. We are waiting for you, but for how long will we wait? How long will we suffer as you struggle to make money off your bets on Premier League games or as you lock yourselves in your rooms fighting demons that torment your souls or as you discuss the latest hot girl, as if she can save your own soul! How long will we wait?

Lastly, I want to say this, no man can be man enough without the originator of manliness. Without the instruction manual, without the manufacturer’s guide, the purpose of an invention can never fulfill its optimum potential. So many young men have lost hope in the God that gave them life and have turned to theories and arguments made by mortals to prove their disbelief in the God who gives their lives meaning. You can have the best character, the best education, the best cars, watches, video games and ideas, but without the Source of Life, then your life counts for nothing. Without the example of Jesus, then the content and essence of this letter is made invalid. He is the ultimate example of what being a human being and being a man in specific is all about. It is easy to get angered by the rhetoric of people who glorify one gender over the other or who look down on men because their struggles are not easily expressed, however, not knowing God, not being in a relationship with Him is an even greater cause for anger and rage. Why? Because outside of God, all life is meaningless. He gave everything away so that you can have life in abundance, life to the fullest, so tell me, without this God, what kind of life are you living? His conditions are not a set of rules, of do’s and don’t’s. His conditions are based on his love for you, his unconditional, ridiculous love that knows no bounds; that stops at nothing to engulf you and teach you what it really means to be a man.

My dear friend, one day you will be a husband. One day a girl (lady) or woman (older lady, haha :D) will entrust her life to you. She will be giving you everything that she has been, is and will ever be. Hopefully, she will bear children and those children will be your responsibility, your lineage, your legacy. They will carry your name, your character, your traits. Your likes and dislikes. They will learn from you things that you will not even (consciously) teach them. They will carry your principles and values into the future, to their children and grandchildren. Can you now see the far-reaching impact you have? The great privilege of influencing more than one life? More than one generation?

All I have left to say is this: Thank you. Thank you for your sacrifice, your willingness to look outside of yourself to become a better person, to awaken that warrior within you. This thanks is given in advance as a sign of my belief in the men of this generation- my generation. It starts with you, and the fears that you have to tackle now. To be courageous you must not eliminate fear, but learn how to live with it and control it, how to make it work for you. I’m not asking you to be Superman, or Batman (or whoever won the fight ) but to strive to be the best version of yourself that you can be. To look upon yourself with respect and honor. To wipe that smear of disgust off your face when you recall your regrets and mistakes and face them with valor. Those are the reminders of where you have been and how far away from them you can run. Please have the audacity to do the right and honourable thing. It’s weird to use that word, ‘’audacity,’’ because today, doing the known wrong this is acceptable, but doing the right thing, attracts sneers and stares, gasps of shock as if doing the right thing is such a bad thing! Thank you for being the men that Africa has been waiting for for so long, that your family has been waiting for, your crew, your estate, your university, your school, your church, your band, your business group, your class…I think you get the point. Thank you for showing up, (or at least considering, thinking about starting to possibly evaluate the pros of what I’ve written in this letter!)

Yours truly,

Njoki Mburu.

Please have the audacity to do the right and honourable thing!

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Buda after uwache pombe ume change, una post tu vitu educative na matusi zika pingua… Uko poa Lakini?
Btw nice post

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Nishafika mimi.

for How much did you acquire your wife?

Do you use surge protection?

Hapo hajatuambia poa kuhusu FIFA, ama vipi @screwplus ?

Talking for myself here but I know some who share my view. Marriage is a shitty engagement, with too much risk and its rewards can be found without risking marriage at all.

Its 120k.

Why has this generation of men become so preoccupied with FIFA and Call of Duty and GTA and all those other video games (that I have no clue about!?) Why has virtual reality become the dads and uncles and wise counsel of tomorrow’s fathers, uncles and leaders? You are our hope. And the saddest thing is that you do not believe me. You do not believe that potent statement. Ok, hold up, let’s be real here for a minute, FIFA is life, FIFA is the antidote for stress. It is super fun and absolutely productive in teaching men how to multitask! Ok, that’s slightly below the belt, but this letter would not be complete without me paying homage to the greatness of FIFA and it’s ingenuity. It is innovative, creative and keeps getting better every year. Many girls have been stood up because of this game, men of all ages have forgotten to take out the garbage and carry out other mundane chores due to the greatness of FIFA…may it live forever!

Gaming iyo ni lazima…kwanza sisi wa Call of Duty we are already trained soldires tupee M-16 tutakulipukia mtu:cool::cool::cool:

Didn’t read it but @FieldMarshal CouchP kuja hapa upeane mawaidha.
Si huwa naona ukiita watoto wakusaidie ukilemewa.

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Xgamer tech wanatukamua kwelikweli.
But isorait.
price to pay kama huna connections majuu

Nice article, but video game is very important,for gamers,kati ya ps4 na x-box one gani imeshikilia?

hehehe quite true. hata manyumba za watu wazima are being designed with a gaming room somewhere

are you seriously asking this?

ION read the 1st 3-4 paragraphs. TL;DR another misguided / un-needed article written by a female as a guide for “boys” to “grow up” into “manhood”. Of course, all this is from the perspective of the female’s view of masculinity.

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:D:D:D

I will never understand why a grown man would play a computer game. Hizo ni za watoto na adolescents. Mi apantambua utoto. Rusheni missile, THAAD active.