I need of someone to talk to. A mentor, a counsellor, adviser, guardian angel, a believer, anyone?
Basi ongea tuskie…
Am in a situation where i have nothing; but what i need is right near; all i have to do is compromise myself my morals and belief and pap, am sorted. Struggles in my forehead.
Kijana, uko na miaka ngapi?
Imetosha
Haya… what is your situation? Hatuwezi pea advice vile kujua what to give advice on…
This hell hole is not …
I hope someone reaches out in private…
It would help if you used your usual handle
I know a person who can help you by telling jokes. Listen to some here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hdzyX-mMrYs
morals dont pay for shit, do it then mend it badae when you are sorted
Never compromise on your morals, that’s the first rule.
I would be unjust if I told you we all have the same capability when it comes to patience and reseliance.
The patient ones are the successful ones, your situation could be temporary, don’t bend to temptation.
Some of us had nothing for a very long time, but we were patient and things worked out well. Of course patient and work hard as well, network and take small jobs that people let pass.
Young man/lady I am a couple of decades old. I have been thru some ups and downs. There is something about hard times that happen to a person’s soul that can never ever happen when life is moving along smoothly. Growth. Moral Strength. Tenacity and Resilience can only come through hard times. Never ever in good times. So the first lesson you must learn is that challenges are part and parcel of life. When you think of any type of hardship ,it can be lack of money, lack of health,lack of love,lack of one thing or the other,loss of one thing or the other one. Dont look at it as a punishment you must come to a place of acceptance and if you accept hard times and losses as a part of life you will not suffer the way many people suffer excessively because theyre in resistance. Some decades back I lost alot of money in pyramid scheme,if you think having nothing is hard, try having alot and then losing it, many who were similar predicaments committed suicide. However my mother told me something that has helped me alot over the years, she told me ,baby in life you will lose so many things and in the end you will even lose what every humanbeing considers to be the most important thing . Money? NO! LIFE! Isnt that what Satan told God after he had taken away all of Job’s children and property?
He said ,skin for skin , a man will give everything he has for his life. So even Satan who lures people with riches knows, the life ,the soul of a man has more worth than money, than family and friends to a man. Anyway, I was disturbed for a few days but I decided to look at it another way, what if I had never had the money I lost,what if I had given the money to save the life of a loved one, what if I had given it save my own life. I stopped focusing on the unfair nature of the loss and imagine I was ok,I was happy,it never affected me. Meanwhile others who went through the same thing, commited suicide. What was the difference ? It was in the way we looked at the loss.
The key is in the way you look at the lack or loss in your life. If you focus on it day and night, it will torture you. But your mind has the power to disregard. You can disregard that thought that lacking or lossing something means you must suffer and be absolutely miserable. Suffering to a large extent is optional. And most suffering happens in the mind. When you resist something rather than accept it and focus on what else is good in my life. And let me tell you , it takes very little for a humanbeing to be happy. You can just decide you are going to be happy. The people who have taught me this are some very poor people Ive interacted with. I have all kinds of friends , I have even street people ,homeless people who are my friends and these are the people who have taught me that you can be happy with very little. Like they really have nothing, they live under a bridge, they never have money, they eat from dumpsters, yet theyre fine, they have community and they take every day as it comes. Hutawahi pata chokosh amekaa chini kuwaza what will I eat on Sunday. Never. And these guys bana God takes care of them, they eat, they have good health, they dont fall ill, ile kidogo atapata maisha inaendelea. And lemme be honest,many people with alot of money are lonelier than these street kids and less happy as these kids.
Now , there is an atheist I like he is called Pepe Mujica or Jose Mujica , he was the president of Uruaguay, this man was in solitary confinement for seven years with nothing , not even a book to read, nothing but him some ants and his thoughts for 7 good years and he is often asked ,how did you survive and not lose your mind and you know what he says, A MAN IS A STRONG ANIMAL WHEN HE HAS CONVICTIONS!!!
That means that you can survive any kind of hardship for convictions that you hold deeply and strongly. When I hear you say, I am getting tempted to take an easy way out, let me tell you, in life hakuna easy way out of anything, you pay now or you pay later - but pay you will. Hata kujoin Alshabab ni kusacrifice your morals and beliefs. Are your morals and beliefs worth sacrificing to gain whatever you desire because they are so many ‘opportunities’ to sell your soul, if thats the kind of person you wanna become. But somehow I feel you want to be a better person. Let me tell you I have lost huge opportunities and many of them for refusing to compromise on my beliefs and my morals and I was young and I am not so young anymore but hakuna usiku nishawahi lala nikisema I wish I compromised ningekua mbali sana saa hii. God has compensated me with things money can not buy, being at peace and feeling awesome and very proud about myself.
I am a Christian and I want to you to talk to God about this, tell God to give you a way out because you do not want to compromise because the devil has no solutions only traps that look like easy solutions or quick fixes. God is faithful. I will also tell you something else. When you are down. The best friend you can have is God. Because humanbeings are predators they prey on your need, they prey on your desperation, they prey on your vulnerability and your fear and sadness and hopelessness. Thats why sikwambi uende kwa pastor ama hata kwa counselor. God is the ultimate counselor and pastor. Make a regular schedule for praying, say lunch hour, hata kama ni chini ya mti, the same hour everyday, go there and pour out your heart to God. Empty everything. Like how you would to a best friend in earnest ,sincerely and nothing is too minor talk to Him about anything and everything that is bothering you. I can promise you in just few days you will begin to notice a shift in how you feel. You will have more peace . You will feel happier. You will feel you have someone to lean on. You will feel you have a partner in this struggle you are going through now. I dont claim to have answers because even at my age I have so unanswered questions and issues in my life but God can give you strength and peace for any problem no matter how hard it is , God is a very present help in times of trouble. So yes you can inbox me we can talk but me I can only show you the Way Maker, thats all I can do . Once you gain peace of mind you will gain clarity on many things and start moving towards an action plan that can move you forward. But the first step is you must gain internal equilibrium .Thats what matters most in tough times. May the Lord see your thru. Blessed.
Makena hiyo reply yako ni refu sana hata I am sure op would rather die than read it.
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Pls change avatar karibu ni faint kwa ofisi
haya yote na mengi, just learn to solve your problems. this world we face many problems and we must be solving each one of them. kaa ngumu braza