Dilemma

A pal of mine is having a wedding this Saturday. Its all good since he is a senior bachelor 35 plus. About 2 months ago I pledged 2k in his wedding committee.
That’s not the problem. See, am a schools tenderprenuer and the Matiangi’s stringent exam cheating measures really did us in as no other personnel were allowed in school and we had unfinished works. You can’t get paid for incomplete projects and its only yesterday afternoon was called and told to proceed with the work starting Monday next week. Meaning my finances are basically ferked.
Yesterday night the guy called me and told me that I had not sorted my pledge. The nigga also added that the pledge is different from what he also expects I will put in the wedding bahasha. The nigga doesn’t drink so I knew he was serious. Now this guy I attended his dowry and gave him 2k In July and why the hell should he feel so entitled to my cash. I felt like giving him a piece of my mind but I stopped myself since What would have followed would have been expletives by their dozens.
I feel like not attending the wedding altogether. The 2k I had thought I sort him after payments go through. What would be your advice? Birrioneas I know would fund the whole event so my fellow peasants your input would be appreciated.

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Cc @Some Say

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I only contribute during dowry payment just to be cultural.

Hii kulipia watu kwenda Dubai honeymoon sitambui.

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Kama hauna doo, hauna. Ukipata utampa akikataa uzikunywe nusu crate!!!

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Cant relate sorry.

Mimi hushindwa why a grown ass man needs to be helped to marry. Tutakula bibi na wewe?

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Yenyewe contributing 2k to that guy ni matusi. I make that comment based on your stature in life. As a mid level tenderprenuer, I place you within my stratum. I contribute between 10 to 20k.

That’s your real placement

Be honest, keep it plain and simple, Hauna pesa at the moment, ukipata you’ll support as much as you possibly can, akileta nyef nyef he might as well go kick rocks. Why the heck does a 35 year old need help to marry, Hiyo miaka yote amekua akifanya nini!? We can understand if it’s a 20 year old boy who is stupid enough to marry at that age, but a guy who has only 15 years to retirement!? No! what you really need are new friends wenye wanajielewa kidogo…

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you can only give what you can and your “friend” should not pressure you. mambo na ati the had already budgeted for your pledge does not hold, just tell them to adjust…yes, I know that sounds cold but it is pragmatic…

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Check yourself. You have stupid friends? Why is he demanding. Did you fuck him?
Are you telling us half the story?

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:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D2k:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:DWedding:D:D:D:D:D:D:D

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Just tell him you’ve thought about the 2K and the bahasha thing carefully and the only condition he needs to meet is on their honey moon they should tag you along…

You on the other side make sure once in a while you keep touch na wife na umweleze vile you happy for them and the ninja is your closest friend…Promise her ata your wedding wao ndo watasimamia…Do all you can to win her trust, Mkifika honey moon DFHKM hkm…

Akisema hawes ambatana na wewe honeymoon, hapa hizo expletives zako ndo time ya kuzitoa…apana bembeleza…

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The best wedding I attended was 2 months ago. Total budget 18,500. 18k for the rings and 500 church wedding cert. No reception. And it was on a wednesday. We were only 20 people. And the couple are rich.

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birrionea. you give what you can afford

@BigMark huchukua slices kutoka mabibi juu alifinance wedding. Hizo ni dividends kwake.

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you don’t owe anyone a wedding!! @ 35 He should be thinking of serious issues other than wedding

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Mimi apana birrionea, 2k ni rent yangu… Nacheka ju some idiot said that laughter is the best medicine:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D

2k ni ya bundles ama post pay

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Na nikisema hapa eti sitafanya harusi ya church kuna watu huniingilia. Wedding tutaenda kwa ag mimi, yeye na witnesses. After that tuende lunch java na life iendelee.

Is it so hard to explain to him just as you did up there? A true friend would get it at once

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2k is a lot of money. Wengi wenu hapa mkispend 400 ya chupa mbili za pombe na mkose slices mnakuja kulia hapa.
My take, in this day and age no one should force anyone to fund their wedding. For people without money, a big wedding is a waste of resources trying to impress people who don’t necessarily wish you well.

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