Dillema....

Just hit 40 the other day.
I have a fear of growing old alone…
I have no energy left in me to play women anymore,I just want to settle down once and for all.
4 out of 4 of my baby-mommas are Not even up in the running for my life long partner!
Infact, an ex girlfriend of mine from way back when has materialised in the past two months!

We dated in our early twenties and she has a 20 year old from some Ninja that I know. Fucker never was in the boy’s life at all so her son is rebellious and proving to be quite a handful!!

Me and her never lost contact all through our relationships and we were always proved to be good shoulders to cry on for each other… On more occasions than not, I have offered her " mboro" support… kikikikkkk…

She is ready to move in tomorrow but she has been " kept" by some rich jungu in the last few years although she promises that she will move in and never contact the jungu if I marry her. She needs nothing from me but just simple love …
I’m abit apprehensive juu najua amedinywa na countless Naijas etc juu enyewe hi msupuu but I can’t help but wonder if she is just trying to get back with me juu ashatumiwa and nobody wants her now that she is beginning to age…
I still have feelings for her though and we have Chemistry…

On the other hand, I met a jungu a few weeks ago and for the first time, I thought I was falling in love with a jungu woman!
She runs her dad’s shop and she is 37. Never married and no children , great company and Bootiful!
They are all aware of my kids and all the baggage I come with and they are both ready to settle down and move in.

I have to worry about my baby-mommas and how they will react to the news of me being in a totally fresh relationship and there is also my kids to think about!..

And I don’t want to grow old Alone!

I’m in a dilemma … HELP!!!..

You are the only one who has the key to your destiny. Your life is too mangled up for any input from outside.

Thanks.

Kafunda hata mimi in my thirties though married i am planning on visiting @Liberty aniombe niwache my navy seal ways . Niishi in peace na mkukuyu wangu but wewe ni shetani huwes settle down

Haya
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Hapo ndo nmefika…

Since you have reservations about your ex, and chances are she won’t leave the jungu because she is already comfortable. Kazi yako ilikuwa kufikisha threshold ju jungu hatoshi.

So option ni 37yr old jungu, whom you haven’t mentioned anything bad about.

hapana jali buda,hata mimi niko hio stage,its time you put yourself first and find what makes you happy,you have sacrificed alot [SIZE=1]i presume you take care of your 4 kids.[/SIZE]

I’m seriously considering going white!
Have been with a few in my younger days but nothing serious…
Maybe she is meant to be my life long partner till death do us part.
I’ll be honest, I always thought my African sistas were more attractive but this one ticks all my boxes.
Labda ni juu ya kuzeeka.

Hiyo ni Wajibu.
And I couldn’t be with a woman who felt like they were competing for my time and attention with my kids.
This is my problem.

My kids come First.

didn’t I hear life begins at 40? You are still young, worry about ageing alone when you get to 60.

You are one lucky fella who finds women to consider marrying in every turn. Marry where your heart is. At least they say love conquers all. All the best Kafunda.

Nakupenda ni vile napenda @Miss Finest Wine more

Don’t make long term/life-changing decisions while resting your head on the bosom of a woman after a shag.

Sadness of life

It’s ironic to judge your ex ati ametumiwa na Naijas. You how much have you hanyad even fellow men! :eek::stuck_out_tongue: I would advise you join a monastery you won’t be alone na hopefully you can do some good works.

Wooi @Ka-Buda bora usizae watoi wengine. Waaah I don’t know what to say. But wish you well.

I have made it very clear that I don’t need anymore kids.
Infact, I am considering a vasectomy. They are free on the NHS siku hizi.
I was advised by the GP to loose weight kabla and I’m working on that.

That’s not Nice!..
Women hanya with their emotions and feelings where men only hanya with their dicks!
Not same!..

@Ka-Buda Bro, what do you want?

Be careful about making a decision concerning settling down with a life partner based on the ‘fear of being alone’.

However, whatever you choose, be very clear about ‘why’ you made that choice.

This is true regardless of age…