This topic or question is directed towards married men or vijana who are in a come-we-stay situation. Nowadays, women wako na a very irritating sense of entitlement, specifically when it comes to financial matters. Wengi wameamua they will not pay bills as long as wako na wanaume.
Hapa ndio swali iko. As a married man/come-we-stay, are you the only one who brings the bacon home? Or, how does your gf or wife contribute to your financial wellbeing? Did you have this discussion before getting married or moving in together?
I’ve really tried to think how a man earning 40-50k a month can intentionally cater to the basic and secondary financial needs of TWO ADULTS, given the state of today’s economy. Mi sioni how I can support a relationship where the woman feels she’s too sweet to roll up her sleeves and CONTRIBUTE SOMETHING TO THE TABLE.
Very easy for me as a dedicated planteshen worker i try my best to always double or triple earn what my wife gets… So that i don’t give a fuck what she earns i provide everything in the house even when I’m on leave basically naishi na mentality ya pesa yake ni yake na zangu ni zao
Don’t move in a with woman if you cannot foot all the major bills (rent, utilities etc) comfortably.
That means you need to focus on you, your education, career, making money etc.
If you struggle with paying the aforementioned, what if she gets pregnant and you are struggling paying rent, bills etc waiting to split the bills with her. :oops:
Men focus on making bank, a lot of it and the rest will fall in place.
Kijana, a woman does not contribute to your financial well being. If you’re waiting for that please do so whilst waiting for Santa, spotting big foot and the unicorn in the sky.
Mwanamke nikukuzalia and kukulelea watoto period, whilst managing the household. All the rest (financially) is up to you, the man.
By the way, never ever waste your time doing a come with stay with a woman. Absolute waste of time for you both and your resources. Move in with her only if she is your wife. Period.
Kijana ii maneno ya planteshen si yako, wachana na maneno ya feminist ya 50-50 that will never work in our set up, jua pesa ya bibi ni yake yako ni yenu wote. Angalia venye mababa zetu walikuwa wakiroll kila kitu kwa boma anagharamia bila usaidizi ya masaa hii yenu sijui mlitoa wapi
I came to realize men are comfortable kukopa pesa from friends and relatives than kwa Bibi. And it’s not like their wives don’t have money. If you will not involve your wife when things are thick then don’t expect her to endure during the rainy day. Samaki mkunje angali mbichi