I copied this from telegram group 'deadbeat dads and randy men… ’
Talkers kindly give you opinion ndio nipatie hao wamama wanangoja…
So kuna this guy I’m dating, I’m 26, he’s 32. He lost his job tukiwa pamoja and getting another has been a problem so far, but fam, the guy alibarikiwa game. This guy… wacha tu. Juu ya hio, the guy akikam kwangu he does virtually everything. Atapika whatever, ata chapo (he’s a darn good cook btw), ataniserve, vyombo hua ananiachia, but that’s a small price to pay for the super meals this guy cooks. Every morning the guy will do all other usafi in the house. He is a total clean freak (which I’m not - lol) and a perfectionist. It’s been almost 3 and a half years since we started dating, and he’s been a gentleman. So yesterday the guy told me savings zake zimeenda chini sana, anataka nimsaidie na 50k. Mind you ni mara ya first ameniomba pesa, but nimekula zake mob sana, including time flani I was jobless. The job I have pia ni yeye alinihook up. Shida ni nikifikiria io 50k I wonder whether he’s worth it. Sijui kwa nini inaniuma hivi. Nimeona watu hapa wakicomplain vile kupea bf pesa huharibu relationships, and I don’t want that to happen. Anyway, as I was thinking about it I remembered that akiclean hao he never goes past the door. He always says huko nje ni mimi nitaclean. It really irritates me guys. It really does. It’s an ego thing for him, I think. Hatakangi maneiba wamuone akiosha nyumba na dame ako ndani. My question is why he can’t do these things proudly out there for the public to see. It’s a declaration of love. Right?!! So why is he ashamed to be seen doing dirty work for me? So I decided to tell him nitampea io pesa if he agrees to be doing hadi huko nje, asiwahi achia kwa mlango tena. You know what fam, this guy refused akasema niwache tu atafute means zingine. What bothers me is that he didn’t even fight. Hakucomplain, he just said no and that atajisort, and he moved away from io story ni kama ata haikumbother. It’s been 3days now. We still talk, but hajawahi raise io story ya pesa tena. Shida ni he always comes on Friday, but he didn’t turn up yesterday. Now I’m wondering why. Did I go too far? Should I give him that money? What if he leaves? Is that 50k worth him leaving after all this time? Help!!
Some 26 year olds can lend a billion shillings to the GOK my fren. Lakini mimi siwezi chukua pesa ya mwanamke. Nilikopa mmoja tu 26k nikiwa intern na nikamlipa na interest. Aliniheshimu sana, but i know the case would be totally different kama ningejaribu kumchezea.
Some 26 year olds can lend a billion shillings to the GOK my fren. Lakini mimi siwezi chukua pesa ya mwanamke. Nilikopa mmoja tu 26k nikiwa intern na nikamlipa na interest. Aliniheshimu sana, but i know the case would be totally different kama ningejaribu kumchezea.
He asked that amount knowing that lady would afford, but reality hit him hard… mwanaume ni wallet. Huyo hawezi rudi huko tena. He was helping that lady to do household chores where he could, but now that he needs some cash from her she wants his dignity too. Being nice won’t make a lady love you, man has to fulfill his obligations. Kama huwezi, hutoshi mboga, tembeza kiatu
i think its too late to fix this huyo guy alikuwa mpoa and ukam let down i think he asked for the 50k coz he knew you can but ukaweka sanctions ati lazima apige duster huko nje next ingekuwa afue ngotha zako pia aanike huko nje,shenzi sana wewe huyo akipatana na single mother ako pesa kiasi atapewa hadi key za dinga we shinda hapo na hio 50k yako.
Hizi ndio double standards madem huleta sasa, mara ooh, equality, gender balance, what a man can do blah blah blah, then ikifikia actions girlchild analeta excuses. Jamaa ameshawahi msaidia mara mob, ni yeye alimtafutia job plus anamfanyia hizo umama zote… That mbish doesn’t deserve the ninja period.
BTW, this nigga is gay. Yes you should treat your lady like a queen but hii ya kusafisha nyumba ndio umama inaharibu heshima. In all my years sijawahi ona my dad, grand dad or male relatives going this far and their wives would never even agree to it and all of them wako kwa ndoa zimekaa for years.