Hii hasira watoto wako nayo nowadays inatoka wapi?

TrumanCapote

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#1
Do you remember what it was like to be 13,14,15 even 20,21? It was like being in a perpetual state of bliss, so why are kids nowadays so angry and violent? What is really happening? Now even 12,13 year old girls are killing each other. Something is wrong somewhere. At that age, I was trying to get a hot novel to read over the weekend Sidney Sheldon ama sweet valley high.


 

Lionheart

Village Elder
#2
Do you remember what it was like to be 13,14,15 even 20,21? It was like being in a perpetual state of bliss, so why are kids nowadays so angry and violent? What is really happening? Now even 12,13 year old girls are killing each other. Something is wrong somewhere. At that age, I was trying to get a hot novel to read over the weekend Sidney Sheldon ama sweet valley high.


The teens of today aren't like the teens of your time. Today's kids know too much, too early. They have also been fed the narrative that they have rights, so how their immature minds use that info is a complex problem. We know from experience how exciting raw emotion can be. Take for example, that heady feeling of being "in love" at adolescence, without the chains of parental control. When you look back now, it may not even make sense. You were at a point where the world appeared to lie open and free for your taking. You could do anything.
It is an amazing phase of growth before children become adults. If that emotional and mental energy is channeled to a good cause, it makes great people as young adults. If it's left to burn like a wild fire, it consumes the person, and there may not be much left to build on in making a responsible person in future.
 

TrumanCapote

Village Sponsor
#3
The teens of today aren't like the teens of your time. Today's kids know too much, too early. They have also been fed the narrative that they have rights, so how their immature minds use that info is a complex problem. We know from experience how exciting raw emotion can be. Take for example, that heady feeling of being "in love" at adolescence, without the chains of parental control. When you look back now, it may not even make sense. You were at a point where the world appeared to lie open and free for your taking. You could do anything.
It is an amazing phase of growth before children become adults. If that emotional and mental energy is channeled to a good cause, it makes great people as young adults. If it's left to burn like a wild fire, it consumes the person, and there may not be much left to build on in making a responsible person in future.
Impulse control is a huge problem. If your parents are not strict you can mess big time.
 

Lionheart

Village Elder
#5
Never forget that young people today have a boldness that's shocking. Threats can't work as they may have done 20 or 30 years ago. When Magoha insinuated on CitizenTV that maybe it may be good to revist the ban on caning in schools, I was horrified. That would be bringing war into the classroom, and we may have to start dealing with worse than just burnt school property. We are in a volatile era and digital communication accelerates events pretty fast. This is the image that came to mind:
https://tremg.files.wordpress.com/2020/06/protest.jpg
 

Finest wine

Village Sponsor
#6
Never forget that young people today have a boldness that's shocking. Threats can't work as they may have done 20 or 30 years ago. When Magoha insinuated on CitizenTV that maybe it may be good to revist the ban on caning in schools, I was horrified. That would be bringing war into the classroom, and we may have to start dealing with worse than just burnt school property. We are in a volatile era and digital communication accelerates events pretty fast. This is the image that came to mind:
https://tremg.files.wordpress.com/2020/06/protest.jpg
If caning is brought back Kenya itawaka moto. This is because some of these kids are not disciplined at home by the current generation of slay parents. Disciplining should not just be the teachers' job. I really feel sorry for the Kenyan youth. For instance, I looked at how the whole Covid situation was handled nikaskia huruma sana.
 

Lionheart

Village Elder
#7
If caning is brought back Kenya itawaka moto. This is because some of these kids are not disciplined at home by the current generation of slay parents. Disciplining should not just be the teachers' job. I really feel sorry for the Kenyan youth. For instance, I looked at how the whole Covid situation was handled nikaskia huruma sana.
I think some of today's parents are also running homes in a hands-free style, where kids get to do as they wish, because people have bought the idea that kids are a bother when they are home for holidays. As you put it, they are "slay parents", having more time to be on social media that babysitting. So kids just grow up somehow, they eat absent mindedly, get fat, spend time on internet and TV, and time just passes. Too much time spent without guidance fills the mind with useless and even dangerous stuff. A kid of 10 should not have the guts to utter any swear words and respect between people should be emphasized, actually at a national level. We probably need schools for mothers and fathers too. Anger management should also be included in school courses, and for teacher training as well. In short, we actually need a total overhaul of the way we think and act. As for the management of the whole health business, I would need a brain transplant to begin to understand it.
 
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Finest wine

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#8
I think some of today's parents are also running homes in a hands-free style, where kids get to do as they wish, because people have bought the idea that kids are a bother when they are home for holidays. As you put it, they are "slay parents", having more time to be on social media that babysitting. So kids just grow up somehow, they eat absent mindedly, get fat, spend time on internet and TV, and time just passes. Too much time spent without guidance fills the mind with useless and even dangerous stuff. A kid of 10 should not have the guts to utter any swear words and respect between people should be emphasized, actually at a national level. We probably need schools for mothers and fathers too. Anger management should also be included in school courses, and for teacher training as well. In short, we actually need a total overhaul of the way we think and act. As for the management of the whole health business, I would need a brain transplant to begin to understand it.
I agree 1 million percent. On parenting. We got to do the lion's share at home which is why I advocate for banning boarding schools. You don't get to know your child fully in their formative years and the most dangerous teen years. Besides, I think we are exposing them to stuff i.e shosho media, uncensored TV at a v early age. We need to know what they are watching, know their friends, know their interests and indeed instil good manners at a v early age. I really hated my Mum's disciplining then but I appreciate it now. We need to go back to the basics and believe in the mantra that mtoto umleavyo ndivyo....and all that. I can almost guarantee that a child who answers back to teachers answers their parents back too.

I also believe we are spoiling them with money. I know quite a few Kenyan International students here who cannot cook you 1 bean. They survive on ready meals and takeaways. These lot cannot hold down student jobs like waitressing, supermarket cashiering, retail etc. They fly back home at the drop of a hat.

Schools and parents need to emphasise on sports and reading books.

On Covid....I did not mean the science of it. I meant the way they 'lounged' at home for almost a year and are now behind syllabus. Meanwhile, those who come from able families continued logging in from home while those from poor families stayed out of school and they are going to sit for the same exam in April. Meanwhile Covid monies vaped into the thin air.
 

Lionheart

Village Elder
#9
I agree 1 million percent. On parenting. We got to do the lion's share at home which is why I advocate for banning boarding schools. You don't get to know your child fully in their formative years and the most dangerous teen years. Besides, I think we are exposing them to stuff i.e shosho media, uncensored TV at a v early age. We need to know what they are watching, know their friends, know their interests and indeed instil good manners at a v early age. I really hated my Mum's disciplining then but I appreciate it now. We need to go back to the basics and believe in the mantra that mtoto umleavyo ndivyo....and all that. I can almost guarantee that a child who answers back to teachers answers their parents back too.

I also believe we are spoiling them with money. I know quite a few Kenyan International students here who cannot cook you 1 bean. They survive on ready meals and takeaways. These lot cannot hold down student jobs like waitressing, supermarket cashiering, retail etc. They fly back home at the drop of a hat.

Schools and parents need to emphasise on sports and reading books.

On Covid....I did not mean the science of it. I meant the way they 'lounged' at home for almost a year and are now behind syllabus. Meanwhile, those who come from able families continued logging in from home while those from poor families stayed out of school and they are going to sit for the same exam in April. Meanwhile Covid monies vaped into the thin air.
All these things just leave me asking, are we really so muddle-headed that we can never get anything right? Do serious people exist? Sometimes you try to understand what the grand plan is--like what the collective vision is--and you draw a blank. In the streets you can see we are quite busy, but it's hard to know if we are moving, or simply running on a treadmill.
 

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