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Honor to inlaws when spouse dies

Nyadist

Village Elder
#1
A buddy is a situation where his wife passed on.. She had eldery parents who she used to support since she was most stable amongst her siblings.. Now! What is way forward for my guy.. Does he owe them anything... Pengine pesa za wife kwa account, ama amount from mchango send off.. Ama monthly stipend.. Hataki kuwa kosea heshima even though their marriage dint last more than three years.. Way forward wangwana... Kindly..
 

Eng'iti

Village Elder
#6
A buddy is a situation where his wife passed on.. She had eldery parents who she used to support since she was most stable amongst her siblings.. Now! What is way forward for my guy.. Does he owe them anything... Pengine pesa za wife kwa account, ama amount from mchango send off.. Ama monthly stipend.. Hataki kuwa kosea heshima even though their marriage dint last more than three years.. Way forward wangwana... Kindly..
angalia it from the other angle, unaona if it were the woman amebaki na bwana kufa, would it have been possible the other way round?
 
#12
A buddy is a situation where his wife passed on.. She had eldery parents who she used to support since she was most stable amongst her siblings.. Now! What is way forward for my guy.. Does he owe them anything... Pengine pesa za wife kwa account, ama amount from mchango send off.. Ama monthly stipend.. Hataki kuwa kosea heshima even though their marriage dint last more than three years.. Way forward wangwana... Kindly..
Labda apewe sister ya the late... Hapo ni 50/50
 

imei2012

Village Elder
#13
Are kids in the pic? An uncle lost his wife and the wife left a young one behind the inlaws "offered" a younger sister to the wife "to come and help with the toddler" though he politely declined they keep in touch and lets the kid visit them
 

Nyadist

Village Elder
#14
Are kids in the pic? An uncle lost his wife and the wife left a young one behind the inlaws "offered" a younger sister to the wife "to come and help with the toddler" though he politely declined they keep in touch and lets the kid visit them
Yep a little kiddo, she died during child birth..
 

4makind

Village Elder
#15
It's not his responsibility but he should help the in laws within reason. The late wife siblings should work towards providing for their parents.
 

imei2012

Village Elder
#16
Yep a little kiddo, she died during child birth..
Then his priority is the kid ....he should not sever ties but maintain a calculated distance it's now the remaining kids to Carter for their parents after the demise of the wife..this is an African setting and just like one talker has said should the reverse had happened would the wife stick around the dudes parents ? Maybe visit once in awhile but your guess is good as mine
 

Purple

Moderator
Staff member
#18
Yep a little kiddo, she died during child birth..
I had an inkling this is what happened. So sad! Too many otherwise healthy, young women are dying during childbirth.
If your friend is financially capable and the parents are in dire straits, he should continue assisting until a point where the lady’s relatives are in a position to take over.
 

jaymoh

Village Elder
#19
If he is from the mountain he should do this.
Go and take Bride price as he had already stayed with wife and hadn't divorced.
If they had a kid he should be visiting them from time with a shopping kiasi.
But any other support he should cut.
 

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