The subject of fidelity is often a tricky affair that not many want to discuss but the truth of the matter is that infidelity is ubiquitous, practiced by almost everyone, everywhere.
One lady friend of mine once told me that she was aware that her husband was sleeping with other women and that 'it was normal' and she saw no problem with it as long as he 'continued to respected her.' She even admitted to reminding the husband to always practice safe sex.
Some may find this queer at first, or even think that her perspective is a product of sheer foolishness, but give it a second thought: infidelity is rampant, and it seems to be a human weakness which only a mythical few can achieve.
What this woman is doing is acknowledging the obvious; her acceptance or non-acceptance will not change the outcome.
What seemed like folly has now turned out to be intelligence. As long as the man 'respects her', continues to provide and 'practices safe sex', she remains contented.
The majority of women would ditch relationships at the first sign of infidelity, only to find themselves in other similar relationship, or even far worse. It is the game and not the player.
Similarly, the famous adage by an unknown elder: 'kunguru hafugiki', may seem to be just but a saying to a new villager and also to an inexperienced fellow...but it serves as a grim and unequivocal reminder of the adulterous nature of women.
If we were to adopt a similar open approach towards relationship, where we acknowledge the unfaithful nature of our wives/ girlfriends, derive satisfaction from the bare minimum: conjugal rights, companionship, chores completion and a nuclear family set up, and in essence become completely unperturbed and placid by extramarital affairs, we would lead happier, stress-free lives. Inauma lakini itabidi uzoe.
One lady friend of mine once told me that she was aware that her husband was sleeping with other women and that 'it was normal' and she saw no problem with it as long as he 'continued to respected her.' She even admitted to reminding the husband to always practice safe sex.
Some may find this queer at first, or even think that her perspective is a product of sheer foolishness, but give it a second thought: infidelity is rampant, and it seems to be a human weakness which only a mythical few can achieve.
What this woman is doing is acknowledging the obvious; her acceptance or non-acceptance will not change the outcome.
What seemed like folly has now turned out to be intelligence. As long as the man 'respects her', continues to provide and 'practices safe sex', she remains contented.
The majority of women would ditch relationships at the first sign of infidelity, only to find themselves in other similar relationship, or even far worse. It is the game and not the player.
Similarly, the famous adage by an unknown elder: 'kunguru hafugiki', may seem to be just but a saying to a new villager and also to an inexperienced fellow...but it serves as a grim and unequivocal reminder of the adulterous nature of women.
If we were to adopt a similar open approach towards relationship, where we acknowledge the unfaithful nature of our wives/ girlfriends, derive satisfaction from the bare minimum: conjugal rights, companionship, chores completion and a nuclear family set up, and in essence become completely unperturbed and placid by extramarital affairs, we would lead happier, stress-free lives. Inauma lakini itabidi uzoe.
