It hurts to see a sixty old granny struggling and hassling in life.

#1
You have all seen old women I estates who struggle even to pay rent. You have seen them mostly going to market places with Ciondos or even doing menial jobs. Sometimes you feel emptiness when you hear them negotiating for fare. During their times men had large parcels of land but they choose the "vanity life of Hawking punye". You can't compare them with those cucus in rural areas who have some land. Even though poor those married Cucus have some status and don't have to worry about rent. The funny thing is that their grand daughters never learn. They are doing it more than their grannies.
 

thesavage

Village Sponsor
#6
You have all seen old women I estates who struggle even to pay rent. You have seen them mostly going to market places with Ciondos or even doing menial jobs. Sometimes you feel emptiness when you hear them negotiating for fare. During their times men had large parcels of land but they choose the "vanity life of Hawking punye". You can't compare them with those cucus in rural areas who have some land. Even though poor those married Cucus have some status and don't have to worry about rent. The funny thing is that their grand daughters never learn. They are doing it more than their grannies.
The structure of society is scripted in the respective species' genes. Individuals who stray too far from that script are likely to encounter a lot of problems, even death.
 
#11
About five years ago, we used to volunteer - (cook and feed the elderly and buy them essentials such as blankets) to an elderly group in Gatina slums. Lavington United church would facilitate this for us. These elderly people would come just to be fed, some as old as 80+ and ailing.

Their heart breaking stories varied. Most of them had kids who disowned or abandoned them and also they made wrong choices in life, this includes men too.

Young folks have something to learn from these people. Married or not, make sure you have a plan of where to go after retirement and at the age where you can no longer work, without necessarily depending on your children.
 

Kidete

Senior Villager
#12
Sometimes it has nothing to do with being engaged in prostitution.

It could be a lack of ambition in life because an individual settled in a comfort zone (stable job/business)

Anyone who lives in Zimmaman might know of that old man who used to sell charcoal at the corner of Mirema heading to deliverance church. It’s unfortunate that he did business and lived in the same tiny wooden shack for all those DECADES!

I’ve lived in Zimma for more than 10 years and often wondered why that old man had a miserable life. But looking at his life critically, you might say that he made a major mistake.

That old man has resided in Zimma for more than 20 years. He had the opportunity to sell and possibly monopolize gas cylinders in the entire estate but he seemed content with the money he got from charcoal.

As more people moved into Zimma, dealers who used to buy charcoal from him on wholesale switched to gas suppliers to satisfy the rising demand of 13kg cylinders.
 

Finest wine

Village Sponsor
#14
About five years ago, we used to volunteer - (cook and feed the elderly and buy them essentials such as blankets) to an elderly group in Gatina slums. Lavington United church would facilitate this for us. These elderly people would come just to be fed, some as old as 80+ and ailing.

Their heart breaking stories varied. Most of them had kids who disowned or abandoned them and also they made wrong choices in life, this includes men too.

Young folks have something to learn from these people. Married or not, make sure you have a plan of where to go after retirement and at the age where you can no longer work, without necessarily depending on your children.
I often read guys here talking badly about care homes in the West. They just have no clue at all. These old folk live a good dignified old age life. Their needs are taken care of from hairdressing to social activities. One of my elderly neighbours was ill for sometime until she needed a carer then she was moved to a care home. Her son was not that bothered. Waa she passed last year. He quickly surfaced to sell her flat at half a million pounds. I did not.get the feeling that he was mourning her.
 
#16
I often read guys here talking badly about care homes in the West. They just have no clue at all. These old folk live a good dignified old age life. Their needs are taken care of from hairdressing to social activities. One of my elderly neighbours was ill for sometime until she needed a carer then she was moved to a care home. Her son was not that bothered. Waa she passed last year. He quickly surfaced to sell her flat at half a million pounds. I did not.get the feeling that he was mourning her.
Very sad indeed and that's the same case with elderly people here. Most of them have children who abandoned them and life happened to them. Worse still, if they were poor and couldn't afford to buy land in shags and build.

We aren't as privileged as the West to have homes for the elderly, therefore it's absolutely critical for people to start thinking about their life in old age and plan for it early enough. As for the poor ones living in the City slums, anyone compassionate should reach out to them and help them, instead of judging them. It's totally unnecessary to judge.
 

Finest wine

Village Sponsor
#18
Very sad indeed and that's the same case with elderly people here. Most of them have children who abandoned them and life happened to them. Worse still, if they were poor and couldn't afford to buy land in shags and build.

We aren't as privileged as the West to have homes for the elderly, therefore it's absolutely critical for people to start thinking about their life in old age and plan for it early enough. As for the poor ones living in the City slums, anyone compassionate should reach out to them and help them, instead of judging them. It's totally unnecessary to judge.
I agree. V little goes a long way for them. Problem with our Kenya is that hata healthcare is not available for them.
 
#19
That old man has resided in Zimma for more than 20 years. He had the opportunity to sell and possibly monopolize gas cylinders in the entire estate but he seemed content with the money he got from charcoal.

......Young people can be unwise, inexperienced and shortsighted in matters of life and can therefore be quick to judge others as less succesful. When we judge a person, we tend to compare ourselves with them, we tend to assume that we are better than them and that gives us a good feeling. Every person has or has had goals and has worked or is working towards their achievement. For instance, in this village there is a talker somewhere [may be YOU] who is working hard and is confident he will be rich and wealthy in the near future [I hope it will come to happen], there is another talker whose primary goal is to have a university degree, another one is to lose weight and another one is working hard to gain muscles and impress women...etc etc. When you judge the old man, you are comparing your goals and vision with his. May be you are thinking you could have done better, I suppose. Going back to your comment sir, i wish to ask you this "Do you think monopolizing gas cylinders was his goal? Not really. May be he was of the opinion that by specializing in selling charcoal, he will definately make it....but as we all know life never presents you with what you prepare for....

You have observed how he seems content. Yes CONTENT, this is what every human being is lacking and is ever striving for. I personaly see it as an achievement . As i am like you, or like any other talker, we are struggling to achieve our goals [Becoming rich and wealthy and live the dream] and we are thinking achieving them in life will give us the peace and happines that we all long for. The old man may be he has achieved that. HE is satified and content. He has learnt there is more to life than JUST MONEY. He learnt many years ago that all he needed was peace of mind and inner happiness and what people see and talk about him will never make his life any better. He is happy that way. Contented.

Ktalk Mbirrionaires should let you know how establishing a business and seeing it grow can be a complex assignment. The old man has tried but dont judge coz he never looked at things from your strategic lens....;)

By the way the old man is not a relative...:D:D:D
 

gosh

Village Elder
#20
Hata mimi nimejiuliza hill swali mara kadhaa. Why would such an elderly man/woman be competing for space with young people? Since my dad retired, he never even want to spend a night in the city unless ni circumstances zinademand. Wadau, kama uko na pesa na umefika 40/50 years nunua hata shamba ujenge rural home. Mahali unaeza enda ulime lime, uangalie tung'ombe twako, tukuku na mbuzi. Sio kuanza kubishania space na vijana. I also realized that many people don't have such plans. Plans ni kuishi mjini hadi ufie huko.

And even as you educate your children, buy your family a home or build for them one in the towns msijisahau. You were born alone and you will die alone. There is no guarantee that your children will take care of you in the old age. In fact, hoping so is very meaningless. Prepare for your own old age. Usianze kusema watoto hawakujali hio miaka. Don't forget to invest for your old self.
 

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