Lemme adress some issues:
1)Physical development/appearance: If a mentally retarded woman over 18 is sexed by you, you will go to jail, so the issue isnt how developed a person looks. Awhile back we were hearing of a case of a woman in vegetative state for 12 years giving birth. Why was the man involved arrested yet she was over 18? Very simple SHE DID NOT HAVE THE CAPACITY TO GIVE CONSENT.Brain development shows teens have the brain of a child . And really that is the issue. THE LACK OF CAPACITY TO GIVE CONSENT by virtue of having the thought processes of a child.
Even 5 year old kids are curious about their sexuality now if a 5 year old child tries to make sexual advances towards you, will you say the child is soliciting you for sex? You know as the adult, the same way , you have a fiduciary responsibility not to give a child a matchstick or a sharp knife even if they solicit for it. You can not have sex with a child because they solicited you. If today you get your son on top of your househelp will you accept the narrative that its the boy who solicited the sex?
Anybody below the age of 18 does not the MENTAL CAPACITY TO GIVE CONSENT. Any culture that doesnt acknowledge that is a country that doesnt respect human rights period and sees its citizenry male and female as just a means to an end not dignified humanbeings.
- Many girls begin getting sexual advances when theyre still children. Before they even have breasts. From male agemates and older males as well. Now for teachers, in our society, theyre like leaders. Children,students get aspirational crushes on their teachers. If you’ve ever been a lecturer, a tutor , a teacher,even doctors,counselors,nurses- you know that. You also know that as a teacher you have a fiduciary responsibility even when dealing with adults not to begin a relationship until the student is no longer in your class. THAT’S FOR ADULTS. The problem we have in especially male sexuality is that the power differential is a big part of the male desire. So if you are in a position of power like you are an adult and this is a child or you are a priest or a teacher or even a boss, the vulnerability of those you wield power over arouses sexual desire in men because male sexual desire to a large extent is about dominance and power so who is more powerless and vulnerable than a child and one whose education is in your hands? Its that messed up sexual self concept that is then influencing this - and if you wanna prove it , its in the poorer parts of the country . Its rare for kids from wealthy families or even middle class families to be abused by teachers. A poor kid has even less power, if its a girl,she needs pads and maybe she’s hungry - so its a mash up . In societies where women/girls are not accesible like moslem countries.Like Afghanistan and Pakistan - Men prey on boys - so that example of Pakistan and 14 years old age of consent - its a moslem country a woman cant consent to sex, you’re married or you’re not, if you’re not, you will go to jail regardless how old yall are. So what happens is the accessible group is street boys who are poor. You can still see the same sickening dynamic -where they give the street boys food for sex. Its the male sexual transactional paradigmn to exploit. Children. Boys. Girls.Street people,poor people ,mentally/physically incapacitated people because sex to men is tied with an erotic pleasure from the power and ability to exploit. Thats why a man will go to a househelp because she’s vulnerable so it makes him feel powerful. Whoever is available and vulnerable to gain that sense of sexual power from. Period.Male sexuality is toxic.And those who cant regulate themselves must be dealt with by the government otherwise our society will become a jungle . How the hell does a whole class of 13-15 year old class 8 drop school bcz of male teachers impregnating them.Its completely unacceptable in a sane society.FIDA should file criminal charges, sacking isnt enough and isnt enough of a deterrent for something thats become so pervasive.
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Growing up, and I grew up very sheltered. I could see the societal male predatory attitude to girls even children. At age 9,men even 20 make advances. You could see school girls being propositioned by touts on the road,shop keepers. Its just the environment. Now in high school I went to girls only boarding school. Here is where I understood how a responsible male teacher behaves towards hormonal teenage girls. I must say, girls would come on to teachers all the time but the teachers put the boundaries because they were the adults.They didnt say, I have hormonal teenage girls propositioning me so I am a man what can I do. I will give a personal example. My chemistry teacher liked me alot, and I had a crush on him, however , he used the ‘chemistry’ to ensure I performed very well in his subject . Not once did he behave inappropriately towards me , if he was on duty and I am caught in the wrong, he’d not let me off , as a child ,it was exhilarating to be liked by a teacher , a very smart one at that. At that age you are very vulnerable and you dont or cant think straight like an adult would. And there were many times teachers or people on teaching practice had crushes on teachers and vice versa, but the adults always put clear boundaries and ensured things never went out of control. The entire 4 years I was there I never heard of any affair between a teacher and a student and I think very highly of that school and those teachers to date. Maximum respect. Being a teacher is a calling, to mold lives, to give values, to encourage and motivate students that in their admiration of you the teacher they can do more and be more than what they think or see themselves as capable of. One of the philosophers talks about this , how his students love and infatuation with him as a teacher ,helped them scale the heights. A teacher is a parent. The same way you can not molest your son or daughter because theyre shapely,handsome,tall,funny,smart and all other attractive qualities we enjoy in the opposite sex.As a teacher when you touch your student or have an emotional affair with them. YOU RUIN THEM. Many people world over credit their turn around to teachers. Countless people, including myself, from my class 6 teacher Mrs . Kisali to my High School Heady who was like a mom to us, I know the power a teacher wields . Anybody abusing that power for good for sexual gratification with a child. They dont just deserve the sack for desecrating the noble vocation of teaching, equal to that of healing, of parenting , of being a priest. Such people deserve many years in jail to have time to think about how much theyve ruined society. When a child is introduced to sex prematurely, it distorts their self image, it impedes their growth and destroys positive role modeling and how to relate well with authority figures. You can just see with R Kelly how child sex abuse can destroy many lives.
The deepest problem for me lies in the perversion of mentorship. In the classroom intellectual crushes are useful. They goad and inspire you. They draw out your best work; they break through limits, challenge, transform. They are part of the thrill of academia at its best. To maneuver within that crush, to manage and exploit it, is part of the trick of teaching. To act on it in the crudest way by sleeping with the student is to crush the whole endeavor.
Its unacceptable when an entire class of girls in class 8 not even Form 4 are all pregnant and by teachers.This is an abomination. Kudos for this and with Prof.Magoha coming in I know teaching will regain the dignity and noble status it inherently holds,by sex pests being weeded out.