Kids and Books

This neighbour of mine, a Mama Danny, wants me to talk to his son, Brian, a Form 1 kid. Eti he doesn’t read when at home. Excuse? Eti while at school they’re woken up at 4 am for preps and sleeping time is 9:30pm. This Brian stubbornly says he’s compensating for the ‘struggle’ he goes through at school. Kuamka 4 kusoma sio mchezo according to him. The mum is worried because the son cannot solve simple mathematical problems that are similar to class 6 work. Simple Algebra inamsumbua and all the son does is watch movies till midnight!
Huyu mtoto asaidiwe vipi? Schools closed about 2 weeks ago. Naona that’s a lazy kid and the mother should be tough on him, laying stern rules to be followed in the house. I’m not a Kofi Annan but I’ve told the son to think about what he wants to be and work towards it. He could be thinking that 4 years in high school are an eternity. Generally most kids nowadays don’t read much on their own, they want to he pushed. What would you tell the kid or the mother?

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She needs to stop being his peer and start acting more like a parent. I would never have been allowed to say the word “no” when I was a child. This new age parenting is a bisch!

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eeeh hata mimi nataka kujua, but for me, it would be “choices and consequences”

What are his other extra curricula likings? Maybe the mother should start exploring and pushing him towards those lines? Because a form 1 kid ought not to be nudged to study. It should come naturally, at least, as a hangover from the discipline acquired when he was studying for K.C.P.E. Maybe at form 2 discipline somehow diminishes because of their cheeky tendencies.

He he.

I said no once. The beating I got, it was like they were seeing the demon in me that they they were trying to beat out

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I pity adolescents dating growing up sahii with this twitter whatsapp accessibility. In short we are looking of a major abortions, pregnancies and all that drama in a few yrs. Sikuhizi ata kupata ball at school is not news! Its the filth of this generation that makes kids wanting to be Superstars and not a neurosergeon like Ben carson! Stupid generation ata hawajui ben carson ni nani, so disapointed!

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:D:D:D:D even without the threat of a beatdown hanging over my head, I could never talk back to my parents. All my moms had to do was give you a look and you knew it was either tow the line or die!

Obedience and respect cannot be enforced on a teenager or even a 4 -5 year old. You have to start from the minute they’re babies. I just laugh and smdh when I see kids throwing tantrums in public because its clearly something they’re used to doing!

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On the other hand, forcing the kid to read at home may not work, if she really wants the kid to read during holidays, she should pay for him extra tuition.

LOL the only extra-curricular activities dat niccur has probably revolve around his nutz! He’s a teenager! It ain’t like he’s spending his time trynna find a cure for cancer or uncovering lost historical relics!

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Football, perhaps? Drawing and painting? I don’t know…

Son watches movies till midnight. Dismantle the TV or dont pay for it - its that simple!! My house my rules!

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The mom needs to be tougher on the kid. Tell her to sell the TV and DVD and enroll the child in some holiday tuition with the money, especially something that’s skills oriented rather than just studying what’s in school like a computers camp

At his age, his moms is waaaaaaaay to late if she’s about to START finding that out.

If you sat down and let you kids run free then you can’t wake up when he’s 14 and try to start guiding him then.

Children’s interests come mainly from whatever their parents decide to offer/allow/encourage in them. If you let him play video games and chill out all through childhood, you can’t expect him to take up reading, visiting science fairs, or other unrelated things at 14. You have to cultivate these things in him. Otherwise, its like putting a maize seed in the ground and expecting a crop of cabbages

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Talk to him like your son. Dryfry the mum thus killing 2birds with

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Do you dryfry mama Dan? She sounds like a single mother plus her son is in boarding

Ha! Are you reading my mind?

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does everyone on this forum live next to mama dan? :D:D:D:D:D

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Yup, the mother should also ask the kid what his hobbies and interests are and see what she can do towards that end. They need to have a serious talk. Tuition could be an option but how will it help if the kid doesn’t take an initiative to do read by himself or do constructive stuff? Another good option is relatives. Maybe there’s a grandpa, uncle or aunt who does something the son would be interested in and could thus engage the kid in something constructive and open his eyes. Parents should parenting immediately after birth, not waiting until the kids are in puberty.

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Maybe you’re the mum na sijui. Hehe. Dryfry, nay! Can’t even think of it.

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Niseme mara ngapi I’ve never even dryhumped? She’s married.