Kuchezwa

Baby Panay

Village Elder
#1
A friend of mine amechezwo and is in a bad shape. His last born daughter Tash isn't biologically his. He has had his suspicions and after insisting he gets a DNA test done, his fears were confirmed. He has three kids and actually Tash is the one that gives a damn about him. The kid loves him so much. When he goes on a business trip the kid insists to be put on the phone to speak to him. The other kids are okay but they favor the mother.
Now the man feels like dumping his wife but he can't bear the thought of living without the kid. I adviced him to dump the wife coz he can't stand her but keep provide the family. I ain't married so I can't totally understand what he is going through so I want to know what you think.
 
#3
I know of afew sissies who can go back to such torture. Emotions can change and as the kid grows up he may not be guaranteed her once shared affection. However, the fact that she is not his will never change. So he is walking on a tight rope. He'd better count his losses and move on. Kitambo in maasai land it was okay kuzalishia bibi ya mwenzio but that child will never be yours. Times have changed though and that is hardly practised.
Ama akae ngumu kama MaDvd.
 

Baby Panay

Village Elder
#7
I know of afew sissies who can go back to such torture. Emotions can change and as the kid grows up he may not be guaranteed her once shared affection. However, the fact that she is not his will never change. So he is walking on a tight rope. He'd better count his losses and move on. Kitambo in maasai land it was okay kuzalishia bibi ya mwenzio but that child will never be yours. Times have changed though and that is hardly practised.
Ama akae ngumu kama MaDvd.
Damn right! Wanaume hupitia mengi.
 

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#13
Makosa ilifanyika. Alee mtoto. What if it was in reverse? Could he have expected forgiveness from wife?
The foundations of marriage are trust, honesty and faithfulness. If we got married and exchanged those as our vows, I have a responsibility to honour them. During the earlier days, not so long ago, in the Maa community, in our traditional African setting, mzee @FieldMarshal CouchP would sire a child with you but that child would remain mzee @gashwin 's . Simply because marriages were only for procreatory purposes.
Times have changed. We marry for more than procreation. There is trust and faithfulness involved. However, the burden of betrayal would have been heavy if any of the promises were broken. There are diseases and the current economy requires that some carefully watch the number of kids they have. As long as the basis of the relationship was formed, any counter measure against it will be seen as betrayal. So anyway, whatever decision will be made, the matter of fact will remain that someone was betrayed and he will live to remember so.
 
#14
It's a tricky situation for all concerned. My advice to him would be put the kids 1st. Let the wife know he is aware, that would assist defuse any bad feelings. They talk with the wife to see what's best for the kids. Afterall, they need both parents. The point is, shield the kids from any bad blood between him & the wife.
 

Baba Toto

Village Elder
#16
He should use this information to blackmail her for the next twenty years.
Every time she hustles him for money, complains about him cheating, becomes demanding or refuses to treat him like a king, he only needs to pull out the 'f**k you kunguru, you can't tell me bullshit' trump card.
These are the laws of power. Use leverage to influence people.
If he dumps her, he will lose the kids and the power he has over her.
 

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WuTang

Village Chief
#18
Unlike us, women know everything about their fertility cycle. Mwanamke akizaa mtoto with another man na ameoleka it is 100% deliberate. Let him cut his losses and move on.
Akimsamehe wakae naye, the woman will continue getting dicked by the man. Atakuwa akipewa sloppy seconds, hoes are just hoes. The sole purpose of a marriage is procreation, ningekuwa yeye ningekuwa naconsult a divorce lawyer.
 

WuTang

Village Chief
#19
He should use this information to blackmail her for the next twenty years.
Every time she hustles him for money, complains about him cheating, becomes demanding or refuses to treat him like a king, he only needs to pull out the 'f**k you kunguru, you can't tell me bullshit' trump card.
These are the laws of power. Use leverage to influence people.
If he dumps her, he will lose the kids and the power he has over her.
That leverage won't hold, a woman will always accuse you of driving her into another man's arms. You can never win such arguments with manipulative hoes.
 

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