Cousin (35) ditched employment na akaanza bizna juzi. His first year was tough; but he has cultivated contacts, increased his scope and made a good name for himself. His future looks very promising going forward.
As he was starting out last year, alipatana na huyu dame msupa (29), a lawyer, church girl, decent who claims she has never even stepped inside a club. When things were extremely down, it is this girl who bailed him out chini ya maji (I couldn’t have known had the guy not told me himself).
The major problem is, she lives in her own house and wants the guy to move in. The guy says it’s un-African* for a guy to move into a woman’s house and insists that he will hang onto his one-bedroom rental until
he is able to build a house for THEM.
When the girl complains about the space (her house is huuugge), he suggests that they rent out the girl’s house and move to a bigger rental.
As far as I know, my cousin does not cheat on the girl; and they are really head-over-heels in love.
I was in a similar position a few years back but my pride wouldn’t let me live in a woman’s house. It is not about African values or anything but the situation doesn’t sit right. If the woman owns the house, then she is the head of the household and that cant work for me.
He should never think of that. I was once called by a chic I was nyemerealing and was doing better than me financially. She asked me whether I had called her with a different number and asked for money but the call got disconnected before I could finish talking. Of course I hadn’t called her and despite this being an opportunity for free money, I told her NO and upto this day I have never asked her about it and whether she was testing me. But the respect after that time ilienda juu. Women will also respect you if you can handle your business. Man rule No.1 If you are broke never ask money from a woman, go to your friends, chama, shylock. Anything but not your woman!
When I met my yet to be wife, the situation was similar. She was living in a bigger house in a more affluent estate than mine. When we made the big decision, we simply moved to a bigger house that could accomodate all our individual belongings. As a man there’s no way I could agree to move to her place.
Wacha hiyo mine is opposite.My elder step bro,an introvert in his late 40s works in a top govt agent & earns good cash.He has bin in relationships but sasa akapata a fly chic in her mid 30s was working in customer service for a blue chip company.Started dating her wen she was staying in a bedsitter but dame was dogging my bro big time kukosana on & off.Wacha bro decided to marry her(worst mistake) got 2daughters but hapa ndio maneno ikaaanza.
Bro had to move out of his OWN house after 5yrs(he bought the hao finished mortgage kitambo) 2stay in a rented one bedroom hse left watoto with his wife.Reason:Bro got HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE mpaka doc advised him awache tei & red meat.Bro has bin visiting bibi & still providing kila kitu(food,clothing hata shemeji hawezi buy ata tissue…)+ her drinking habits yet shes now a senior manager earning 6digit doe!!Worse still bro bado visits & does shopping 4watoto+food & fucking shemeji still does Berbarque parties kwa nyumba ya bro mpaka shes fucked by a pilot in their own matrimonial BED!!!
Sema kukaliwa chapati but met bro ako sawa working on divorce.Mungu hatakubariki Joe.
Ukienda kwa dame ni coomer pekee… my neighbor ni dame but chali yake yuko down… wakienda kukunywa najua hakuna haja ya kulala mapema itakua vituko. Watakuja wachapane na vitu za chali zitpuwe nje ya gate mpaka boy analala kwa corridor mpaka morning. Hata aliulizwa kama ashawahi kulipa rent. Moral… Never, ever, [SIZE=7]ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever [/SIZE][SIZE=4]hamia kwa mwanamke.[/SIZE]