Nothing hurts more than kutombewa.I think that pain and heartache comes close to loosing a relative and what`s the difference anyway,kama bibi ama mpenzi wako amekubali kuvulia mwanaume mwingine suruali; then she has killed your relationship and she is gone...,she is dead.and she has killed you and your dignity.And who can blame you if you have access to a gun and cannot control your temper? Ata the justice system in most countries is very linient when passing judgement on matters related to "crimes of passion".