Living with a woman as your wife is not an easy thing and requires a lot of wisdom and foresight. Many are the instances, especially in modern times, when women decide to usurp the man’s place in a household, as the defacto leader and head in the home. It’s such moments when conflict sets in, a couple start fighting and disagreeing on every other issue, and everything goes haywire.
As a man it is good to know how to prevent such instances beforehand, though some of the times, there are wayward women who would like to breed conflict for their own ulterior motives.
All along, I have noted that there is one trick to counter this in advance. And that is realising, as a man, that you can survive this life without a woman. Not only knowing, but even going a step further and letting your woman realize that you can live and survive without her. This is the moment that a man starts living without unnecessary stress. It’s also the moment that a wife realizes that she is living with a human being who is not ready to be a pushover. Woe unto that man who often belittles himself by always telling his wife that, “darling I can’t live without you.”
The reason why lovers are killing each other in this country is because of this “I can’t live without you” mentality. You find a man who has lived with his wife and kids for 25 years discovering that his wife is dishing out. Instead of being resilient and walking out, he decides to kill himself or her. You find a couple who has been together for 15 years. All of a sudden the man sinks into alcoholism and mistresses. The wife feels that she has invested too much in him and can’t set him free and walk away. She stabs him to death or cuts his ‘transformer.’
And not to mention the latest cases of young lovers killing each other over similar issues.
What happened to ‘o Karîma ngagûa’ concept. (A concept in traditional society where a man believed that if there were too many problems or complicated issues in his family, he should walk away to a very far land until he drops down on a certain hill). Reminiscent of Craig David’s song ‘Walking away’.
Ukweli, kuna siku moja we were chilling hivi mimi, comrade wangu na his parents tukipiga ma story about a close comrade who had just lost his wife ndio my comrades dad akasema ya kwamba if his wife dies he will marry another woman hivo tu live live and the wife alikuwa beside him, the wife started crying on the spot and the guy did not comfort her mpaka the lady just excused herself.
Hayo madharau makubwa kabisa
Don’t think he needed to be overt with the wife, your comrade’s dad. his wife should just know at the back of her mind that she’s replaceable
Huyo muzee Ni A M.G army ,he made it clear khupipi is REPLACEABLE,hio ndio iliteta machozi ya kujaribu ku manipulate the man to change his decision ,lakini A.M.G army man alipita hio shit test.You think if the husband died khupipi hataleta ben 10 ya ku replace the husband.
Huyo mzee has an abundace mindset, he is definetly a life member of the A.M.G army.
Sitadanganya he has his wife wrapped around his pinky finger, the man is a provider but he cheats ile mbaya.
Unasema pole pole elder. The man generally does not give af.
Mimi I came to discover late coz I married early and msapere alinisoma kitambo akazaa hizi ngamia nne haraka nikatulia . Ningejua best idea ni kuchapa Dem kama watano ball bila kuoa any of them then you keep YOLOing till you reach fifty na kuoa kadem ka 30 years . Then kazae junior mmoja utulie then u summon all the five kids plus any other wild oats (DNA certified) na kuwaambia unawapenda unawaweka kwa will . Mwenye kichwa ngumu akitaka arudi kwa mamake
Na story za child support ingekua aje? Hiyo ndio inatumalisa especially kama wewe si peasant
kuna watu huku inje wanatembea na mental illness na hawajui.
shiet! huyo jamaa ni mwenda
:D, he is actually a very smart man, its just that he knows how to handle a woman. You should not give women to much and you ahould not guve them too little but always remember that less is always better.
:D:D:DSereee. Wewe tu ndiye two-humped Bactrian camel kwa hiyo equation
Omwami Mimi ni dromedary camel
I do this all the time. I walk away leaving women with jaws dropping all the time not believing nimem-drop bila Hata kum-slice. Never bothers me a bit. I will treat u nice with lunches and dinners but if you feel special bado u hoarding nunu over my head… I drop u. Hapo ndio dem huwa haamini, the way anaona alikuwa ameangukia tall, dark, loaded and standard.
Ferk that type of negativity with someone you’re cohabiting with. You can get sick long term and that’s the only person beside you, utaona maisha magumu sana. Treat people with care and establish mutual respect. Best thing ni kutafuta bitch anakupenda na utulie na yeye. That old man and some people here are just sadists.
Let me tell you an actual trick that will help you have a calm life. Treat women like children because emotionally they’re indeed children. Akitaka lollipop mpe, tell them sweet nothings na utaishi poa. Hiyo maneno ya sadistic alpha behaviors will just turn your home into negative space for you and you will die an old bitter man with blood pressure.
I agree with you, but i must say that with women you can not be seen as a man that does not have a backbone,no principles, no values and no self respect as she will see you as a weak man. But you should definitely treat everyone with respect including your significant other.
True but important thing to remember is values and principles come from within you and not from how you treat people.
kwanza kabisa as an alpha male wewe ni meffi in my eyes. Secondly, it is TILL DEATH DO US APART. mlitaka huyo mzae aseme nini tena?
How I wish most on here would read and internalise that.