Masaibu ya First born: SAIDIA NA IDEAS

General
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Kuwa first born of 8 inamaanisha kuna a few problem children which the clan and fam is looking at you to hold their hand in Nairobi. Now one of my problem siblings is coming to stay with me for 2 weeks as amepata job 20k. :cool::cool:

Now to handle him ndio sijui juu kijana is a drunk gambler. Just finished campus na Ana nguo moja tu all his things ameuza ama amenyanganywa na debtors.:confused:.

Another thing ni a high disobedience/bulshiting index. He will tell you one thing in full confidence kumbe uongo too. Will apologize very sincerely but repeat without thought. Mimi nashindwa Kama atauza my house things juu this kid ni total problems. Ideas za kucorrect hii kijana zikuje.

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Huyo muchukulie Kama mtoi wako . chukua nyahunyo akule za rasa akileta noma mangumi zitembee akikushinda akwende ocha

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Mwambie upfront utam.accomodate for say 3 months aki accumulate pesa ya kuanza life.

Weka rules of engagement ajue aki cross path yako anakanyaga nje. Na hakuna ku extend hiyo 3 months.

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20k is enough to get him a bedsitter and cater for his basic needs. nunulia mtu matress na gas ajipange… mbona unabembeleza mtu mzima its time grow the fuck up.

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Lipia yeye rent ya bedsitter ya 4 months,nunulia yeye gas na mattress,inform your relatives of your actions alafu ambia kijana atembeze kiatu.Life will quickly give him a kick to the rear and you’ll sleep soundly when that happens.

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Kumu accommodate Si issue bora afuate rules zako.

Kama hauna Bibi , aoshe nyumba na viombo na apike na asilete ulevi kwako na hakuna kuleta Malaya kwako

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The best thing is for him to have a tough landing, so he knows how to handle himself in the city.
Alternatives exist.
If he stays with you, he has to pay you rent.
If he stays at your place, there’s no drinking in the house or coming after certain hours
Other option, get him a house, pay first month rent and maybe mattress na meko, to be considered as a loan that has to be repaid as soon as first salary comes in.
To be honest all this is wishful thinking because the underlying problem is alcoholism.
Rehab would be a better place.

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This is surely proactive. Punitive measures lazima ziingie. Ujinga iachwe nyumbani

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Fantastic vile umeambiwa na huyu.

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Ata naona aanze tu single juu sikumbuki nikianza maisha nikiingia bedsitter. Hio mshahara yake ya kwanza ndio naangalia sana

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Kama unaishi eastlando, unamtuma kawangware otherwise ukimtafutia karibu atashindanga kwako na issues

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Chuja jamaa ndio anipange na maisha

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This is a very good point juu kusumbuliwa ndio shida kubwa

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Sasa nitachungaje this jamaa successfully. Lemme tell you. This guy had a fully famished house ya bachelor akiwa campo. Mother bought laptop, bed hd matress vyombo za glass carpet ata stools gas sufuria. The guy amelipiwa rent na pia curtains and everything. Alikuwa mfalme kingstone as mother had bought him kila kitu. Mpaka sub woofer ati ndio kijana enjoys music. :D:D

What Happened is amegamble away all these things, zingine madeni amekopa zikafanya things be carried away. He was a pirator akikuja nyumbani alikuja vile amesimama akasema hakuna kitu alikuwa nayo. The kijana has been bought for a gas 3 times. Has tricked mother about non existent trips since time imemorial. Mpaka kukula fee… :frowning:

2 weeks ago alishikwa na mihadarati kwa nyumba ya mathee. Sasa Mather akaanza maombi na kumuitia counseling. … Mazee shida tupu

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Ungekuwa msee wa tei Ile dei anakuja akupate uliwa tindi. Then umsomee ground rules zako na umshow Kama hatawezana ajitoe.

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This one has myriad problems. Just avoid hosting him. Tafutia yeye nyumba single and buy the basic necessities for him.

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And that is where the problems begun, the mother is the problem, babysitting a grown up badala ya kuwa mkali kama lioness anaanza kubembeleza.

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Hapa siwez kubali. Unatumiwa mashida ukiona. You already know that it will not end well so you better be labelled as a bad guy now rather than later when he’s effed you.
Advice the parent to seek professional help for him.

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Abort mission maze, hii ni ngumu. Usikubali hio ghaseer ikuwe comfortable kwako, ata kama ni bro. The best solution ni hiyo ya @Randy, rent him a house and pay like 3 months upfront na basic stuff like gas na kitanda. Akiuza hizo vitu uoshe mikono.

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You can try mentoring him.
Tell him its a clean start for him.
Maybe he has changed now that he’s got a job…
The problem is ,what kind of a guy are you?
Kama wewe ni mlevi na malaya tu then your bro will follow your path…
Its better u rent him a house and furnish it , akulipe ka loan polepole…