o you hear of a Mr. or Mrs. Right
and you always wonder how comes
yours never show up right? You are
not getting any younger and are
tired of all these people trying to get
into your pants but your Right has
not showed up? Would you like to
find him/her? Then keep reading.
The problem with relationships is
they involve people. And I don’t
mean that in a bad way.
Relationships must involve people-
and am all for the one man and one
wife Biblical concept of marriage. It
is so frustrating seeing people get
hurt and most often than not, the
victims are ladies.
So am gonna give you tips on how to
easily, and put emphasis on easily
get your Mr. or Mrs. Right.
- Empty your cup
When you wanna start a
relationship, it is very important
your ‘empty’ your cup. Quite
theoritically and practically. You first
need to empty your mind and heart
of all things you are attached to that
keep pulling you back to your past.
Was it a bad relationship? Were you
sexually assaulted? Was he physical
on you?
All those nasty stuff that happened
in the past are exactly where they
need to be-the past. Get up, dust
your feet and prepare to move on.
take as much time you need to make
those things your past-the memories
may still exist but should not be a
core determinant of your future. - Throw away that checklist
Yes, many bloggers have come up
with a checklist for your Mr. or Mrs
Right. Individuals too have come up
with their checklist. He must be cute
and handsome, driving, owning,
working a home bla bla bla bla.
Yeah guys too have a checklist. Not
materialistic, simple, homely,
beautiful-wife material etc. Again I
repeat, throw away that checklist.
Humans are very complicated people
and life too is. We cannot rate
human beings like a restaurant
menu-what you see today may not as
well be there tomorrow. That face
may be distorted. That house could
burn down etc - Stop Comparing
Remember the two points above?
Yes I was coming to this point. Stop
comparing. Every single person has
traits amd characters unique to the
next person. If you compare the
haves and have nots of the current
potential Right to the previous one,
you are simply trying to get back
what did not work in your life.
He was driving and the current one
does not? Maybe when you broke up
you should have taken the car with
you-if that is what was holding you
to the relationship! She was great in
bed and the current one aint? Stop
using sex as groudns for potential
mate! Actually you need chill till
after marriage!
In short, the biggest mistake we
make is trying to compare or match
one person to the other-
unfortunately that is simply an
impossibility. - Adapt
Once you meet a person who is
interested in a committed
relationship, and after choosing to
give it a try, start adapting. LEarn
the person and adapt. Find what
they like, learn their personality,
know what makes them angry or
happy and adapt to those situations.
Adapt yourself to this person’s life
and lifestyle. Now with this-don’t get
me wrong-am not asking you to
compromise your principles and
adapt yourself to compromising
situations to save a relationship. For
instance, am not asking you to
become a robber with him.
Adapting means for instance, he
lieks movies not soaps-make a
gradual change to accomodate his
movies. - Mould your Mr./Mrs. Right
Simple as that. Find that person you
wanna love, and love her completely.
As much as you adapt to her life,
she will also adapt to yours and
together you can moud the
relationship to what you want it to
be.