Sometimes back, I posted regarding my demented dad. I wanted to enroll him to a nyumba ya wazee, but talkers persuaded me not to.
In recent times, he has become really difficult to handle. You cannot hold any intelligent conversation with him. All he says is like " na hio kiatu yako ni mzuri" or " na hio sufuria ni kubwa sana" or such other shiet.
Sometimes, he will insist that he wants to bathe at 1pm. Mum will struggle to warm his water and put it in the bathroom. The water will remain untouched up to 7pm, when he will complain that it’s cold and he wants it reheated.
If he leaves the compound, that’s total disaster. One, he will go to a neighbor’s place and say he wants his cows. Woe unto the neighbor who has cows, coz dad will insist that ni zake. Two, he will greet anybody he meets on the road and want to piga mushene with them. Including school kids.
Plus he has this annoying habit of tucking his trousers in the socks. And sometimes, he will tie a towel around the waist and insist on going out of the compound.
I swear if I will be alive in Jan, anaenda nyumba ya wazee akawasumbue huko. I now understand why parents with mentally challenged children chain them to their beds.
You should have put him there the first day you thought about it. You do not have the proper training to handle a person in his condition. It is not your fault or his that he is that way so I do not see why you should inconvenience yourself living with him.
1st,stop complaining.ur dad is old n needs care you should have taken him to a good home.
2nd am sure ata wewe ukiwa mtoi amekukimbiza sana bara barani akikuchapa ukavae suruali,so acha maringo ndogo ndogo.mzazi ni mzazi,you wouldnt be where yiu are were it not for him.it a sad situation to be in but stop bischin about it n sort it out
Have you guys taken him to a doctor, because some folks develop alzheimer’s at that age.
Alzheimer’s disease
progressive mental deterioration that can occur in middle or old age, due to generalized degeneration of the brain. It is the most common cause of premature senility.
Obviously none of you has the time to take of him because probably each one of you has other responsibilities. You are probably thinking how you will be viewed by the outside world if you “dump” your father in a nyumba ya wazee. Please take the old man to people who will have time and resources to take care of him, for your own and his own good. Do it like yesterday, don’t wait till January.
He needs close family and care in his current condition more than at any other time in his life. Unless he becomes violent, I don’t see any reason to banish him to a home. We lived through that in my grandpa’s final 5 years. It’s hard but not anything you can’t live with.
I recommended you nyumba ya wazee because personally I used to visit one during my high school days to do some volunteer work. There is one in Kikuyu karibu eye hospital. Trust me atashhugulikiwa vizuri na both workers of the home na wanafunzi wa neighbouring schools
He might leave you a generational curse esp if you remove him from land he bought with his own sweat. You are between a rock and hard place. Seek opinion of all other family members. If you do something on your own even your mother might turn against you n blame you for anything that may go wrong afterwards. Ile kelele atapiga akiwa mumemtoa kwake au kunugunika itawa affect one way or another. My grandpa was this way in his last few years. Kwanza akiamulia kutusi grandma, grandma anashinda akilia. Ma uncles wakienda anawauliza Wao Ni watoto wa nani. Eti wakiona watoto wake wawambie hata Wao hawatatembelewa Na watoto Wao. Ndio wanamwambia Ni sisi watoto wako. CPU yake Ina reboot,takes time then inafungua. Anawabariki. Last few years human beings turn to kids breh.
The family is divided on whether to enroll him or not. Mum is sometimes for the idea (esp when she has spent a whole day searching for him) and at other times she’s against it.
Folks are becoming too westernized. It isn’t in our culture to dump people who get elderly or sick. If you or your siblings can’t spare the time, employ someone to take Care of him.