There’s this lady I’ve been dating for two years now. We happen to be members of the same church and I ought to have taken the relationship to the next level by getting my parents to her place for our introduction last month but I had a rethink and postponed our introduction due to an issue that might cause a problem in the future
I noticed my girlfriend is the stingy type. When I mean stingy, it’s on the high side. Assuming she’s just averagely stingy I wouldn’t really be bothered but this is gross.
I work as a bank teller (contract staff) and my salary isn’t really much while she works in Shoprite. Even from the little I earn, I’m always sensitive to her needs and I tip her whether she’s stranded or not since I love her but how can I explain being with a lady for two solid years and I’ve never for once received any gift no matter how little it is? Not even something as little as toothbrush or hair cream
Initially, I didn’t see this as a big deal probably because I grew up with the mentality that it’s a taboo for a man to expect gifts or little support from his girlfriend when he’s in dire need
but I’ve now grown to realize that “give and take” is one of the key elements of a good relationship
Even if I get stranded or go into debt, my girlfriend acts nonchalant and she’ll be the
last person that will ever render a little financial assistance to help my situation. You might say I should sit her down and discuss it. Yes I’ve already done that and I made her understand that I actually postponed our introduction for no other reason but because I’m still indecisive if I want to spend the rest of my life with a selfish woman but her response shows she takes pride in being stingy
I even used logic to whine her younger brother recently just to be sure if she’s stingy to me alone but the boy confirmed it that her sister is very stingy. I decided to carry out my findings on her brother because I believe he should know her better.
You might want to talk about sex but my belief is that sex is just a mutual pleasure and does not define what a woman gives to you in a relationship especially a relationship that will lead to the altar
What’s getting me worried is that we’ve come a long way but I don’t want to end up with a selfish woman because it’s written all over her that she cares so much only about her own well being
Please advise your fellow brother. Do I have a reason to be worried? I’ve been jumping a lagoon for a woman who can’t jump a gutter for me especially when it comes to giving. Should I tolerate this level of stinginess from a woman simply because I’m a man?
P.S: I’m still with her because she has other good traits
Please pardon my typos. I wrote this in a hurry