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edd K

Village Elder
#43
Many beta males and feminists will not agree with me (anza na @gashwin ), but I will say it anyway because I don't give a shit. Do I think women should be empowered as a whole? Sure. But you as a man should be smart about it. For married men here, you should know that empowering your wife financially or intellectually will always work against you and probably cause a divorce. I don't blame women because that is their nature and they cannot help it. A woman is wired to date UP. She agreed to marry you because she perceived you as her superior both financially and intellectually. Educating her or starting a business for her will almost always work against you in that relationship and madharau itaanza hapo. The internet is full of stories about niggas who thought it was wise to start a business or educate their dumb wives only to end up in a nasty divorce. That is how 99% of women are so don't provide one example to try and prove this fact wrong. When you take away the bullshit and lovey dovey nonsense of young couples, the real reason many relationships last for long is because the man is always in a superior position financially and intellectually compared to the wife. The wife always needs the man financially and intellectually, otherwise she is gone. That is how she sees value in him. If you try to close that gap by empowering her, she will seek a nigga she deems superior to her (divorce is inevitable). She will trade up. I like women as much as the next guy. In fact, I wouldn't ask anyone to prevent a woman from empowering herself because that is her individual right. Just don't be dumb enough to do something that will work against you in a marriage. If you want to empower anyone, empower your children, not your wife. In the past I would never understand why a rich guy would take his wife to Maasai Mara for a week but never open a kiosk for her, but I know better now. So, if you are about to do something stupid like educating your wife or starting a business for her, use that money to buy an asset and thank me later. Otherwise, you will be the victim in a nasty divorce a year or two from now.
true and many will not accept this.....but the message is home...
 
#46
In my humble opinion if you want a good relationship, romantic or otherwise, your primary goal should be the pursuit of virtue. And I mean virtue as the Greeks understood the word which has been corrupted by the Church. Virtues such as beauty (taking care of your physical appearance), wisdom, moderation, resilience, strength, courage, clear speech, equanimity of mind...A man should never have any more than three faults in my opinion - and they should be faults of his choosing.

The reason why men are having a hard time with women and turning bitter is because they think they are owed anything by the world. You find a man who is indecisive, unambitious, poor, ugly, spendthrift, degenerate gambler, promiscuous, lazy...and then the guy is surprised when he is cheated on by the next high-value male that his woman encounters.

If you refine your character, a woman will not care if you are less educated or less financially stable than her. In fact, the highest virtue of all is wisdom. If you are wise, your woman will always see you as the anchor in her life. She will come to you for everything, including what to do with her money, how to progress in her career and so on. The question of who has more or is better will never occur to her. A man of refined character will always be better than the next man, regardless of the size of his pocket. Any man, no matter how rich, trying to take your woman from you will be embarking on a fools errand. That of course is assuming you chose your woman wisely, which is a given for a man of high virtue and character.
 
#48
In my humble opinion if you want a good relationship, romantic or otherwise, your primary goal should be the pursuit of virtue. And I mean virtue as the Greeks understood the word which has been corrupted by the Church. Virtues such as beauty (taking care of your physical appearance), wisdom, moderation, resilience, strength, courage, clear speech, equanimity of mind...A man should never have any more than three faults in my opinion - and they should be faults of his choosing.

The reason why men are having a hard time with women and turning bitter is because they think they are owed anything by the world. You find a man who is indecisive, unambitious, poor, ugly, spendthrift, degenerate gambler, promiscuous, lazy...and then the guy is surprised when he is cheated on by the next high-value male that his woman encounters.

If you refine your character, a woman will not care if you are less educated or less financially stable than her. In fact, the highest virtue of all is wisdom. If you are wise, your woman will always see you as the anchor in her life. She will come to you for everything, including what to do with her money, how to progress in her career and so on. The question of who has more or is better will never occur to her. A man of refined character will always be better than the next man, regardless of the size of his pocket. Any man, no matter how rich, trying to take your woman from you will be embarking on a fools errand. That of course is assuming you chose your woman wisely, which is a given for a man of high virtue and character.
This comment is full of great points, that is how it should be in an ideal world. I always preach the message that watu wajuane as much as possible during courtship.
Just a shame there are no pink handlers around to air their views.
 
#49
What people forget is that people are different.What works in my house may not work for maybe @mikel .There are women who never cheat and those who will cheat for anything.There are men who like being "in control" of their wives and when they get a woman who wants 'freedom' like say @Mrs Shosho their relationship will never work out.The same man will be very happy when he gets a woman who can not think without the help of the husband and they will have the best relationship.
What I am saying is try understand your spouse and all will work out just fine.I dont believe in love.Just 'compatibility' between man and woman.
 
#50
V true. In Kyuk we say 'ndiakaguo ta ya wakineee'. I like and value my freedom but have always made it clear from the get go. So if a dude ni mtu wakuuliza maswali mia tano as in where were you as if I had not told him my movements for the day? who is that on the phone??...apana hiyo issa no no no. Ikifika hapo it is time to bounce . It does not help that I have more male friends than female. Na pia mimi siulizi maswali shupit and I have no interest na simu za wenywe!If someone is going to cheat, they will find a way.

I dated this guy in my singleton days. He used to beg for goods in Kyuk...Mr ukahe reee...anyway he was so insecure, that he used to hover outside the ladies washrooms nikienda huko....had to dump him Asapish.
I don't believe in love either. You don't eat love. You just need to be compatible and communicate freely kama watu wazima else how will you raise the kids?
 

S.P

Village Elder
#53
Funny way of presenting your own 'facts'.

What if you marry that 'dumb bitch' and she gets a good job, gets promoted, pays for her own further education and does not need a cent from you?

Oh, never mind, you are wired to date down, low as hell, to ensure that she never stops seeing you as her sole provider.
This is golden brother!!
 

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