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20 Red Flags On my YouTube channel, I often reference the phrase “She has more red flags then a Chinese communist parade.” In this chapter, I want to dive a little deeper into the riskiest red flags that men need to be aware of as they navigate their life around women. I’ve made plenty of these mistakes myself and have counseled hundreds of men who have made the same mistakes. Therefore, it’s essential, for your own wellbeing, that the red flags from this collection of shared experiences are not ignored. While reading this chapter, keep in mind that you can choose to pursue a deep relationship with a woman who displays any of these red flags. However, in my estimation, the juice simply isn’t worth the squeeze, and the risks far outweigh any reward. If you are a woman reading this chapter, and you identify with a red flag, then don’t get upset. Instead, like I keep reminding men: work on yourself, take ownership, and seek counselling. As many men have observed, the wrong woman can ruin your life if you let her in it. Therefore, learning how to spot red flags early, is a skill that is essential for men to master. Even though this chapter covers the twenty major ones that I’ve personally identified, plenty of others exist - so keep your eyes open. If you choose to involve yourself with any of these types of women, then my advice, unless otherwise stated, is to limit your interaction to a ‘friends with benefits’ (or, FWB) relationship and to keep spinning plates. As soon as one or more of these red flags are identified, limit her to plate status, or simply pass on them and make no further emotional investment in either her, or in a relationship with her. There are women out there that will add value to your life - if you keep the wrong ones out. I’m also approaching this chapter with the assumption that you are a man of purpose that values his own masculinity, strength, and traditional male competency skills. Beta men constantly make concessions and excuses, while accepting red flags. Whereas an alpha male of high virtue, will chase excellence and his purpose in life. He doesn’t let problem women interfere with his life’s mission. Red Flag #1 - Daddy Issues If she doesn’t have a good relationship with her father, or had an acrimonious relationship with him growing up, then she likely has some degree of daddy issues. Whether her mother pushed her dad out of her life, or that he was absent, or perhaps he was disinterested in being a dad and instead, acted as a piece of furniture in the house. Either way, any woman that didn’t have a good, solid, relationship with a strong, masculine, and virtuous father in her life isn’t going to value a masculine, virtuous, alpha man. If she didn’t value her father, what makes you think she will value you? I’ve counseled far too many men that have tried far too hard to rescue women with daddy issues. It’s never worth your time. Another area of concern with daddy issues is that it is often tied into Borderline Personality Disorder (or, BPD). Women with BPD frequently originate from fatherless homes, which breeds their fear of abandonment. This fear continues as they become adults, where they will presume that they will, once again, be abandoned. They then act out in such a way that will make abandonment certain. BPD women are so dangerous because they operate in extremes, they can be freaks in the sheets and then immediately act like a classy lady on the street. A BPD woman can go from hot to frigid cold very quickly and can hook a guy by creating the illusion of being a caring, loving, and nurturing woman. A BPD woman can create the false sense of perfection that makes you say “Wow, a woman who finally loves, respects, and appreciates me!”. Asking the question “Tell me about your parents growing up” early on helps you to identify, and then filter out, women with daddy issues. Remember that you have two ears, and one mouth. So, use them in that ratio - ask, then listen. She will tell you her story. I’ve had my fair share of experiences with women who had daddy issues and they are never worth your time, effort, or resources. A woman’s father is her primary role model growing up and provides the foundation that governs her belief system. As well as the lens in which she views both men and women, and how they should interact. However, the origin of her daddy issues is irrelevant. If she expresses disdain for her father, she is unlikely to value men in general. Single mother households, especially feminist ones, are a petri dish for today’s women with daddy issues. A feminist-identifying mother will instill toxic values in her daughter. Instead of being valued, you will be deemed as a privileged male and will be resented for your masculinity. After my divorce, I dated a woman who had three older siblings. Her mother was widowed before my ex was born. Instead of being a single mother of three, she optimized her hypergamy and sought out a beta provider. She eventually had a fourth child, my ex-girlfriend, with her second husband. My ex’s mother died of cancer while she was in her early 20s. When I asked about her relationship with her father, she claimed unforgivable indiscretions that her father was responsible for. She painted her mother as a feminist saint and her father as an abusive, misogynist cheater, and child abuser. While we were dating, my ex went almost twenty years without contact with her father. She unsurprisingly identified as a feminist, became a single mother of two herself, and subsequently had little regard for men and masculinity - unless it served value to her and her children. She then dismissed them once she capitalized on their value. While she constantly battled her internal conflict to seek out a top shelf man, she also resented masculine energy and claimed that men didn’t subscribe to her solipsistic feminist beliefs. She ran away from Canada after her mother died to teach English in Asia. She then partied through her young adult years with many men there, came back at her epiphany phase, married a beta male that pined for her at the age of 28 to fulfill her biological clock, and then promptly divorced him at 38 when she deemed that he no longer served any purpose to her. A popular video on my channel called “3 Women Men Should Avoid Dating” was a video that was based on many different women that I had dated that had: 1. Daddy issues, 2. Needed saving, 3. Fought with her children’s father. These types of women will never take ownership for their own lives. When I did that video titled “3 Women Men Should Avoid Dating” on my channel, women with daddy issues sputtered their insecurities in the comment section. The example below is a typical response: Red Flag #2 - Feminists I briefly touched on this in the previous “daddy issues” red flag. Many western women today either identify as a feminist or, have welcomed toxic feminist beliefs into their schools of thought. They’re indoctrinated to believe that men are privileged, that men hold women back, and that men succumb to the patriarchy. Thankfully, the devout lifetime feminists are usually easy to spot. They: • Avoid traditional feminine cues and instead opt for shorter, unnaturally dyed hair colours (think bright blue, purple, or red), • Mutilate their body with several tattoos and/or facial piercings, • Are often overweight and usually dress in ill-fitted clothes. Versus keeping themselves fit, well dressed, and groomed to maintain their physical appeal to men. Feminism preaches radically leftist political views that fight for unlimited free abortion, elevate single mothers on a pedestal, and claim that masculinity is “Toxic”. Feminists hate it when the state imposes limits on abortion and tries to force them to be mothers. However, they will more than happily utilize state family law to force men to be fathers. Feminism teaches women to vote for the welfare state, massive government handouts, huge tax rates on high income earners, and social programs that widely benefit a female primary social order. You will never be appreciated by a feminist or be valued for being a man. Feminism teaches women to be victims, and anyone with a victim mindset can’t find happiness. Today’s version of feminism is so toxic that it is anti-femininity. It encourages women to hate men, while simultaneously encouraging them to behave like men, and that they should ditch the notion of motherhood to prioritize their careers. Feminism doesn’t seek to make women better, or more feminine. Feminism seeks to make women into terrible versions of men. Ownership is a concept that most women generally struggle with. However, feminists are nearly completely unfamiliar with it, and everything will be the fault of the patriarchy. Therefore, avoid any woman that identifies as a feminist - at all costs. Since the #MeToo movement, we have seen several great men fall to the false claims of sexual harassment or rape, and the vast majority of these false charges originated from feminist women. Sadly, even feminine cues are not enough anymore. There are plenty of women out there that identify with feminist values that remain feminine in appearance and these are the ones you must be the most careful with. As they are on a transformational path to obesity, collecting cats, and eventually short, brightly coloured, hair. If you are getting into an LTR, or are even considering marriage, it is vital that you give yourself a good two years to watch both her behavior and her choices in life. Pay close attention to her before you do something silly - like marrying a woman that appears feminine, but internally idealises feminist propaganda. Red Flag #3 - The Unhappy and Unlucky Robert Green’s tenth law states, “Avoid the unhappy and unlucky.” If you haven’t read ‘The 48 Laws of Power’, do yourself a favour and read it. Always avoid the unhappy and unlucky. And while this doesn’t just apply to women, I note it here in this chapter as these types of women are a complete waste of your time. Their perpetual unhappiness will rob you of your joy. They always have some problem going on in their life that attracts the “Captain Save-a-Hoe” type of guys to swoop in and rescue them from their own shitty existence and choices in life. They often go from man to man draining them of their joy and fortune. They are a magnet for drawing in drama into their life, and ultimately yours. Only associate with the happy and fortunate. Red Flag #4 - She Competes with You A woman that constantly tries to compete with you might seem cute at first, but it’s a test of your competency as a man, and it’s an underhanded behavior that ultimately aims to reduce your worth to her. The female primary social order tells women that they are better than men, and it’s why we see the rise of the “Boss girl” on social media. I once dated a woman that competed with her brother growing up, and that competitive behavior continued into her relationship with me. It’s a red flag because when women compete against you, she thinks she is better than you. A woman that thinks she is better than you will not respect you and will, ultimately, try to undermine you. For a woman to satisfy her hypergamy, she must feel like she is with a man that, in her eyes, has at least 1-2 Sexual Market Value (or, SMV) points than she does. Women don’t try to compete with you when she believes your value is greater, but instead will admire you. Remember, women want to be with a giant. She wants to look up to you and hypergamy never seeks its own level; hypergamy can only be satisfied if it does better than itself. A woman constantly competing with her LTR, or husband, is always a prelude to a train wreck. Red Flag #5 - Keeps Men from Her Past Around Women like to have options. A recent survey showed that almost half of all married women admitted to having a back-up (guy) plan. If you are getting into an LTR and she wants you to abandon your sexual strategy of unlimited access to unlimited women, then she needs to burn the ship on the shores of her new life with you and cut all emotional ties with other men. Now, some women end up as an “Alpha Widow”, which is loosely defined as when a woman pines for a high value alpha that didn’t commit to her in her earlier years. She may not be in contact with him anymore. However, if she still see’s him as the one that “got away” and she keeps a place for him in her head, and her heart, then she doesn’t see you as her best option. Genuine, burning, desire for you matters – a lot. You don’t want to be seen as “just good enough”. You want to ensure that you are getting her very best. Trust me when I say that no good ever comes from her having lunch with ex boyfriends, or other male friends, and you certainly do not want to be the guy she “settled” for. If you are a man chasing excellence in his life, then you don’t need distractions like your woman seeking attention from, or still pining for, other men. Men and women don’t have much in the way of common interests. Other than men wanting to have sex with women and women want to extract attention or resources from men. There should be no room for male “friends” in her life if you are in an LTR. Women like this should be a plate, until they can prove that they are over their past. Red Flag #6 - Poor with Money Some of you may know this already from my videos, but I’m well versed on financial services from my past businesses, and when women are bad with money, it’s often serious trouble. If she is an adult and doesn’t have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of, then she is not to even be considered for an LTR. I’ve seen far too many men trying to play “Captain Save-aHo” and bail out women with horrendous debt and terrible spending habits. Despite the lie feminism has told women that women only earn 75 cents for every dollar a man earns, women have every opportunity to earn a good living today. Yet, women still choose to pick careers that pay less than men, while going into deep debt by overspending. Ultimately, if she can’t manage her monthly cash flow and has nothing but a pile of handbags and shoe collection to show for her debt, avoid her for anything more than a FWB, because she will make her financial problems your problem. Red Flag #7 - Violent Women Women that have violent tendencies are a massive red flag. Early signs of violence are as small as a punch, or shove. However, I’ve counseled many men that have dodged knife attacks or even objects being thrown at them from their angry woman that was having a hissy fit. Men are physically stronger than women, so when there is a domestic violence call into the police, even if you are the innocent party making the call, or defending yourself, it’s likely that you will be hauled away in handcuffs rather than her. In the majority of domestic violence cases, men are immediately presumed guilty and women are protected, even if she was the one initiating the physical abuse. I’ve seen peaceful men, during a divorce, removed from their own home and children, because a violent woman accused her husband of domestic violence that never happened. Violence from any women towards you, for any reason, should never ever be tolerated, and is grounds for terminating the relationship immediately. To protect themselves, men must use their cell phone as a shield, and record a video of her erratic behavior as proof for the authorities. If I haven’t made my point clear enough yet - avoid all violent women at all costs! They aren’t even worth a FWB arrangement! The juice truly isn’t worth the squeeze when it comes to violent women. Red Flag #8 - Extreme Jealousy Women want to be with a man that other women want to fuck. But, they don’t want their man fucking other women. This dichotomy of female nature is something that men will always struggle with. A degree of jealousy, also known as competition anxiety, is a very good thing when it keeps her desire for you strong. But it becomes undesirable when women that are so insecure in themselves that they always make her problems your problems, distracting you from your purpose. They will be like a predator drone always keeping watch on you. She will constantly text, scan through your receipts to see where you’ve been, what was ordered on the receipt, look for hairs that aren’t hers, she’ll want to look in your phone, creep on women that follow and like your social posts, and count the number of condoms in your nightstand drawer. It’s exhausting. She will drain you of your sanity, joy, and dignity. Jealous women have work to do on themselves, and it’s honestly not your job to be their therapist. Red Flag #9 - Party Girls Most women under the age of 27 that have never been in an LTR are in their party years. If you met your girl in a night club, bar, or other social event, and she claims to be relationship material, but still continues to party several nights a week, you have two options: 1. Tell her that women with boyfriends don’t go out partying and if she continues, you walk away, 2. Keep her in only as a plate. The “party years” aren’t exclusive to women under 28 either. In some cases, she was married young, had kids, and got divorced in her 30s and missed her “party years”. So, it’s not uncommon to see women in other stages of her life trying to relive that missed party era as an older woman. You can’t be in an exclusive LTR with a woman if she is going out partying with her friends regularly. The process involves two hours of preparation time in her hair, makeup, and clothes, just so she can market herself to other men. If she is going out selling herself to others, she is not your woman. Men have evolved to require fidelity from the woman they have invested it, as a step in ensuring paternity. This is not jealously. Most men instinctively want to know that his woman is sexually exclusive with him. Do not fall for the new age beta male narrative of polyamory. It is a mating strategy for weak beta men that must resign himself to sharing a woman with alpha men. When there is a conflict between what she is saying and doing, and she is acting single when she goes out to party, then believe the action, never the words. Actions always speak louder than words. I dated a few party girls, and their phones would always be going off at 2am from guys looking to hook up. Avoid party girls for LTRs and never limit yourself to one woman if you are dating a party girl. Only spin her as a plate. Red Flag #10 - Heavily Tattooed and Pierced Women I realize some men prefer women with some ink, and there will be men that will debate me on this. However, my experiences have taught me that their placement and frequency matters. One tattoo hidden in her bikini line isn’t much to worry about. However, if she has a tramp stamp, or more than one visible tattoo while wearing normal clothing, then you might want to ask yourself what she is saying to the world. Tattoos all over a beautiful woman is like putting bumper stickers all over a Lamborghini. You just don’t do it and it shows a lack of taste. I’ve never met a woman with several visible tattoos that didn’t bring at least three or more red flags, mentioned in this chapter, to the table. Heavily pierced women are another red flag. Draw the line at earrings, and if you want to push the limits, a nose ring. But, if that piercing is on her septum, nipple, clitoris, and eyebrow, or she even has multiple ear piercings up one ear, then keep in mind that you are dealing with someone that enjoys mutilating their own body, which is a red flag. Red Flag #11 - Big Notch Counts The most attractive quality in a woman is when you know she hasn’t been with everybody and won’t be with just anybody. Setting aside the higher probability of her having an STD, multiple conducted studies have proven that: • The younger the age a woman loses her virginity at, and • The higher the number of men she’s slept with (aka: her notch count), Results in her being far less likely to monogamously bond to a man in a healthy way over a long period of time. For example, a woman that lost her virginity at 14 and has slept with 30 men, is far less likely to monogamously bond to you over the long-term. Compared to a woman who lost her virginity at 23 and has only slept with two men in long term relationships. If you want to get into a monogamous LTR, or take on the risk of marriage, then do it with a woman with a low notch count that lost her virginity later on in life. Research conducted by the Institute for Family Studies revealed that a virgin has a 5% chance of divorce after five years of marriage. Whereas, a woman with 2 previous partners has a 30% chance of divorce. The data stopped at 10 partners which indicated a 35% chance of divorce. Promiscuous women that have had many partners and/or have been sexually active from a young age DO NOT make good long-term partners. It’s not to say they can’t, or won’t, try to be a girlfriend or wife. But the statistics reveal how undesirable these women are long term, and that’s why they should be treated as a FWB - and nothing more. Women with a higher notch count are more likely to report depression, become single mothers, have personality disorders, and have abortions compared to women with lower notch counts. Women must preserve their value. Men must create their value. It’s why throughout history, women’s virginity was so prized. Whereas, a man’s value comes from his ability make something out of himself so he can provide, preside, and protect. It should be noted that woman will never reveal the truth about their notch count to you, so don’t bother asking to get an authentic number. Some may volunteer it. But, be wary of any number they throw out due to women living in fear of being slut shamed. Women only usually factor in relationships as part of their notch count, and they often disregard all the one-night stands, threesomes, lesbian encounters, or FWB relationships that they had in the past. At a bare minimum, double whatever number she gives you. The lifestyle, and company a woman keeps, reflects her notch count. A woman that you meet at 30 that claims she was in an LTR from the time she lost her virginity at 23, probably has a low notch count. But women with an absence of any drama free LTRs in her past, that lived on her own, traveled a lot, and you met her at 35 could have a notch count approaching triple digits, or more. It’s not uncommon for women in their party years (20-27) to rack up a notch count of 25 or more men. Never forget, women become the average of the five people she spends the most time with. If five of her friends are, or were sluts, then she will have been the sixth. Red Flag #12 - Single Mothers Do not be a cuck. Do not raise another man’s child. There is absolutely nothing in it for you as a man. You do not pass on your own DNA, they do not have your last name, and you are shackled with 100% of the responsibility as a parent, but have 0% authority. Some men choose a FWB arrangement because it’s low hanging fruit. However, I’ve dated single mothers when I was blue pilled and trust me: DO NOT DATE, LIVE WITH, OR MARRY SINGLE MOTHERS. It’s not worth it. See my video on “Why Men Shouldn’t Date Single Mothers” on my YouTube channel. Look, I’ve counseled hundreds of men that have made the mistake of living with a single mother in such a way that the state views as a marriage. Guess what? They have been on the hook to paid child support for kids that they didn’t even father. In one case I counselled, a man was married for less than two years, he paid off over $100,000 of her debt, and she brought two special needs kids to the table with her, and she was taking him to court for child support for life. Do not be a cuck. Red Flag #13 - Women Seeking Validation Social media is a staple in today’s world, and almost all women are on it. However, women who use public social media to gain attention from men should be avoided. While there are no “good girls” on social media, the better ones will use private accounts. Meaning that only ‘friends and family’ can see their posts and they aren’t posting provocative pictures fishing for likes, comments, and direct messages from men providing loads of attention and validation. Public accounts using social media to sell a product or service and treating it like a business are okay, but understand she will still have men flirting with her. The women posting daily provocative pictures of themselves on public accounts, with thousands of thirsty beta males following them, are selling something too—their sexual agency. Women like this are looking to openly optimize their hypergamy. If she is with you, but is still posting pictures for attention, then she is asking herself if you are the best that she can get. Most women can become drunk on social media attention. So, if you decide to consider an LTR with a woman that is constantly seeking attention online, then you need to continue to exercise your sexual strategy, and date her non-exclusively until such time as she abandons her open hypergamy. A woman’s sexual strategy is open hypergamy, and when she is seeking attention online, she is actively on the ice, trying to score a goal. Your sexual strategy as a man is unlimited access to unlimited women. Therefore, do not even consider monogamy until she abandons advertising herself. Do not take these women seriously. They are to be limited to plate or FWB status only. Red Flag #14 - She Was a Sugar Baby In a book by author B Rob titled ‘Salty’, the author shares his excursion into sugar dating as a “salt daddy”. He also figured out how to identify if a woman has ever been looking for money in exchange for dating as a “sugar baby”. You will need to search in her email for the term ‘seeking’ and see if there are any emails sent from the site in her past that show up. This is going to require that you look into her private life. But, if you are looking for LTR material, then you need to take this step to ensure that you aren’t going to make a whore a housewife. If she was a sugar baby, she is to be limited to plate status only. Red Flag #15 - Pathological Liars Everyone, women included, lie. Many women, however, can’t help but to lie in a pathological way. For some, their entire world is a house of cards, and they can’t even tell when they are speaking the truth or not. These women are not LTR material, because they aren’t trustworthy. Fortunately, these types of women usually out themselves over time, simply because they can’t keep up with their own bullshit. A girlfriend I had at 19 lied about everything and anything. I rode sport bikes at the time, and she told me early on how she had a sport bike at her mom’s house an hour away. Although strangely, it was never available for her to ride, or it was locked up in storage. There was always a story about how she rode, and enjoyed the experience, but excuses as to where the bike was. I was becoming suspicious of her stories. Knowing it cost me $9 to fill up the tank of my bike at the time, I asked her casually how much it cost to top up her bike tank when she rode. She responded with $25. Right there I knew she was a pathological liar, and many of her other stories collapsed shortly after that. Pathological liars are dangerous, they will tell you they are on birth control, when they aren’t, they will lie about things that will put you, or your health, at risk. If you are attentive, and poke at her stories, these women are easy to spot. Red Flag #16 - Baby Rabies This is an interesting term I came across after I got divorced, and re-entered the dating pool around 39. I had this annoying feeling that most of the childless women in the dating pool were desperate to get married and have children. Some of them were so thirsty to get married and have kids, that they would even ask if that’s what I wanted before asking me anything else. Sometimes it was even in their opening message on a dating application. It felt like they were looking for a dutiful beta with sufficient provisioning ability, and decent genes to settle down with. Women exhibiting desperation to get married and reproduce are not into you and will not support your mission. They will not complement your life but rather, they will want to be the focus of your life. Any women attempting to rush you into having kids and getting married, without allowing for a two-year vetting period, is a big red flag. But, if you get the feeling that you are just an accessory to fulfilling her biological imperative to reproduce, or that she is counting her eggs every month, as they dry up? She has baby rabies. Simply move on and don’t let her problems become your problem. Many of these women put degrees and careers ahead of their prime child-bearing years. As they approach their mid-thirties, they grow desperate. Remember, men can quite capably father healthy children well into their forties, for women their prime childbearing years erode rapidly after the age of 30. Red Flag #17 - Hissy Fits Some women never learned the social maturity required to process their emotions, so they resort to hissy fits to deal with their differences in a relationship. When my daughter was 3-years old, if something didn’t go her way, she threw herself on the ground, face down, then proceeded to kick and punch with her limbs at the ground while screaming. This is the toddler version, and it’s excusable in a child, because they don’t know how to process their emotions with maturity when something doesn’t work out for them, so they just kick and scream. In an adult woman, hissy fits are an unacceptable red flag and come in many forms. Rather than approaching the issue head on like an adult, she’ll commonly start by passive aggressively go on social media post something provocative and sexy, behave erratically, or make underhanded posts about you. One says, “Hey fellas, I’m over here, and my man pissed me off, look at me and shower me with validation and attention.” The other, is a passive aggressive maneuver to shame or ridicule you, usually with some covert statement or meme. Hissy fits cover a wide range, including but aren’t limited to overtly stating something like: “Just leave my shit on the front porch” when things aren’t going their way. Or using actions like hiring a male personal trainer you know she was fucking in the past, and posting a picture on social media of themselves together, with some trite caption about how, “This girl is going to get her body back” just to push your buttons. These outbursts by women are bad news, and I’ve noticed that there is often a correlation between her hissy fits and daddy issues. I’ve seen fathers set logical, and reasonable boundaries for their daughters to preserve her value as a woman, and she broke them in a rebellious and dangerous way in protest. For example, a traditional European father will often set limits on when his daughters can date, and in what cultures. A woman with daddy issues that can’t respect the boundaries set by a man will go out, and throw a hissy fit by seeking out, then intentionally have plenty of dangerous sex with, men from cultures that she knows her father would vehemently be opposed to. Even if it could result in an STD, or even an abortion. Hissy fits should be dealt with head on, and treated as unacceptable behavior, otherwise you will constantly be dealing with them in your relationship. Also, do not argue with women. They will not let a thing like logic or reason get in the way of their emotional hissy fit. You set the boundary, then cut off all contact (called a soft next) with her for about four to five days to let her think about it. Remember, attention is the coin of the realm for women, so when you remove it, they lose their mind and will usually automatically fall back in line. She will either comply, or it’s goodbye. Most women, because of their own solipsistic nature, will not recognize it as a “hissy fit,” even if you spell it out for them. So be resolute. You will get out of life what you tolerate. Do not argue with her about her hissy fit. Men are deductive, rational thinkers, and women aren’t. A soft next will allow you to return to the table with a boundary you set, and if she doesn’t like it, show her the door. A woman that has genuine burning desire for you, and is serious about sorting herself out, will do the work. A woman that isn’t, will resist, make excuses, and will constantly test your boundaries as a man. Red Flag #18 - Not Being in Control of Birth In Rollo Tomassi’s book, ‘The Rational Male’ he outlines his “Iron Rules,” and number five was: “always be in control of the birth.” As a man today, once your sperm leaves your balls, women make 100% of the decisions. If you knock up the wrong woman, you could be on the hook for around 20-years as her personal ATM. NEVER, EVER trust a woman you are not in a properly vetted LTR with when she says, “It’s okay, just go inside me, I can’t get pregnant.” You must have 100% certainty that there is effective birth control in play. Oh, and for the record, birth control pills are not sufficient. Many men have knocked up women who claimed to be on the birth control pill, only to discover she “accidentally” forgot to take them or weren’t even on them. Condoms (that you flush away afterwards), or an IUD, are your most reliable methods of birth control today. Remember, women lie. It’s called birth control for a reason, always be in control of it. Red Flag #19 - Drama Queens All, not some, women crave some form of drama periodically, and will periodically manufacture indignation in the absence of any issues in your relationship. Drama queens will choose random molehills, and then turn them into a mountain. This is also another form of a hissy fit. You will inevitably encounter drama with a woman at some point. But, if it appears more than once within the first three months of dating, or more than a weekly “thing” during your LTR, then she is flat out telling you that this drama will be a regular occurrence for life. Buckle up buddy, you’ll be in for a roller coaster ride if you don’t put your foot down and use a “soft next” to maintain boundaries. Manufactured indignation is really just a shit test, and it’s also about testing your frame as the dominant frame in a relationship. Remember, drama will happen with all women at some point. So decide early on what you will, and what you won’t, tolerate. Alpha men with plenty of options will tolerate very little to no drama, lesser men with few options will accept it as it comes. Red Flag #20 - Addictions Dependency to things, activities, or substances are a big red flag. Women that rely on alcohol, shopping, drugs, cigarettes, news, or reality TV to name some examples, can be highly problematic to a man that is chasing excellence in his life. Unhealthy addictions, if left unchecked, will dominate her life, choices, and conversations. Addicts eventually become self-destructive. You’ll know when they have an unhealthy addiction because it will start to affect your life too. A woman that has an addiction to a reality TV show will talk about the mindless drama between characters on the show non-stop. Alcoholics are always looking for their next drink, and anyone that’s ever dated a woman that’s addicted to anti-depressants knows how badly it negatively affects her body weight, and sex drive. Don’t let women make her addictive problems, your problems. Smart men do not get into an LTR with women that have addictions, it’s not your job to save or cure them. If they have acknowledged their addiction, and are working on their problems with a professional, good, let them. But keep her at arm’s length as a plate until she has demonstrated real progress for several months. Also, make sure that her addictive personality doesn’t replace one addiction with another. Conclusion As I stated earlier, you can ignore my warnings about these red flags, and get involved with these women. But, at some point, your life will become complicated and unnecessarily difficult. As a man, it is incumbent on you to shoulder the burden of performance, and to chase excellence. In life, women can either become an anchor, or a sail. Look for women that are a complement to your life and that gladly fill your sails with wind, and limit your interactions with anchors that hold you back. The Cold, Hard, Truth Don’t forget that: • It’s your responsibility to set, and always enforce, the boundaries that are meaningful to you. • Never date, LTR, or wife-up a single mum. Neither the mother, nor the kids, will ever truly appreciate you for your sacrifices. • If a woman ever becomes physically violent with you, then you must get the hell out of that relationship immediately. And if you have kids with her, then see an attorney ASAP. • If your spider senses are tingling and your gut is telling you something, then there’s a reason why. Listen to it. • A man who’s chasing excellence and making his dent in the universe will have the options and self-respect to drop any woman who’s complicating his life.
Lete summary omwami
TL,DR. also did not download pdf. Akuna summary list?
Finest swine has all the 20 red flags.I have warned you guys
I thought I had blocked this handle kitambo among your many others. But nota bene, I am not your woman and never will be. No matter how many times you switch handles. Have you got no dignity whatsoever, even a shred? each time you touch a keyboard I come to your mind and I am a happily married woman?
Ngui x100 blocking this one right away. I will keep blocking you till you get the message. And stay out of my inbox. Huna haya???I can never be caught begging like you are doing now.
[COLOR=rgb(65, 168, 95)]Anika uyo myamaa
This dude and another one have notoriously been on my handle since I joined this forum years ago. Gossiping about me on some other forums, multi handling which is allowed on KT…even after I told him off on the Adidas juu chini handle yesterday, he still came to my inbox to say I have wasted him…and that I should stop being so easily triggered.
Well my question is, can they both not leave me alone and have some dignity? mimi nikiambia na mtu, I have blocked you Shosho/FW…my joy…I will block you back because I respect the decisoon that you don’t wanna read my stuff!!! eeeeish kapish.
One of these days nitaangusha hekaya on these 2 individuals.
Captain Save A Hoe:D:D:D:D:p
Angusha hekaya Finest Swine
:D:D
Make it soon before COVID-19 has it’s way with us
[COLOR=rgb(65, 168, 95)]Hey paedo, what happened to your Jiminy Cricket?
Or you were raised on tele tubbies?
Nilichokea line ya tatu mimi!
should be now or never
Sorry not today. Today is Mother’s day where I am. So celebrations galore. Maybe next week. A big shout out to a few Mums on this forum.