So there’s a series called Gigolos about male escorts whose clients are women. It’s a reality show. The men are not anything to write home about but it is a true culture shock to see role reversal and quite a few of these women procuring these services are married, sometimes it’s the couple procuring the services.
Either way I hear feministas are all about sexual liberation or what they call sex positive ofcourse feministas are not homogeneous so kuna mute go wa sex positive, prochoice, pro sex work and the opposite too.
Now, assuming that sex positive or sexual liberation is emulating male sexuality which is just chaotic and has run amok, how does this empower a woman exactly? To my mind having penis addictions the same way men have pussy addiction isn’t being liberated its being enslaved because if you look at men especially on here, these people are not liberated by any stretch of the imagination. They are enslaved to sex like an addict is addicted to drugs, they will do anything to get the drugs, they will risk their life and to hell with their dignity, if they are in jail and the urge hits, they will have sex with a man.
I have never understood why women want to emulate the worst parts of men such as their sexuality. Why not emulate positive attributes and shun the bad side? Anyway, frankly I don’t know where the world is heading and now women who were the level headed ones in matters sexuality are now like if you can’t beat them join them.
The society is too hypersexualised and girls lose their innocence very early nowadays. I don’t know how being sexually objectified or being reduced to a sex object is liberation. I really don’t. Risking pregnancy, aboution diseases, taking harmful family planning that is giving women cancer, in which world is that liberation?
To me liberation is the power to chose. To chose to avoid what is not good for you, short term gratification at the risk of your health and your life. Peace of mind. No worries that your boyfriend will give you a disease because you don’t have one. Not being compelled to dish out sex when you don’t want to because it is a conjugal right. You are not a sex vending machine. And often even in marriage that’s what women become sex dispensers. You can not control your own body and sexuality, it is all at the mercy of a man. Liberation is having the autonomy and agency as regards your body and sexuality. You are not a sex slave. Not for love, not for money.
I heard a story one day of a woman whose husband is a pastor, the lady who was a young mom of twins had she got home late from work. So tired she couldn’t even eat. Her husband was counseling with some of his members at that late hour. When he was done, he went to the bedroom and found her sleeping in her work clothes, she was so exhausted that she couldn’t even change. He changed her and then tried to ask her for sex. IMAGINE. A woman who was too tired to eat, shower or change into her nightwear.
To me, the life I live is the true definition of sexual liberation. I have complete autonomy and ownership of my body and my sexuality. I have zero risk of catching disease of the reproductive organs. If I miss my period or it’s late I won’t be having sleepless nights agonizing if I am pregnant and will the man take responsibility or should I procure a termination for it.
WOMEN have alot of dignity and the world is nothing with out us. Even James Brown said it, it may well be a man’s world but it would be nothing without a woman in it. Let’s avoid toxic lifestyles in the name of liberation. There’s no liberation there. It will mess up your emotions, your hormones, your health and your peace of mind. Is it worth it? I don’t think so. Don’t fall for Okey doke. You have your own life to live not doing what is wrong because its what everyone is doing. If everyone jumped off the golden gate Bridge would you do it too? Remember that at the end of the day, you are an individual and even God will judge you as an individual. Do what is right for YOU based on your values. Do not be trying to prove anything to people. They do not feed you so live your liberated life and chuck out of the matrix of deception.