Should you get a partner like you or opposite to you?

girlciki93

Village Elder
#3
I need someone who ain't like me. Am a serious and quiet person so I would prefer a loud and wild lady. If you get someone like you, you will have a very boring marriage.
but don't you think if you're the same you'll make less compromises and have less conflicts in general?
 
#7
Someone different from you and you will disagree on everything. They will find you boring and unaccomoditive. Kama hamuwezi enda mission yoyote without one feeling left out or simply bored about the whole thing it wont make.

Like if you are a guy who wants to spend the most evenings at home and the other is out there at office or wherever with people landing home earliest 8:30 amekula akashiba. You will eventually get bored-cheat-cheated on- bitterness-FAIL.
If you like the traditional woman who makes you food and cleans about while you provide stuff without being reminded, but your woman is ambitious keeps her money ignores what you think she should be doing it will fail. Tafuta tu msichana mwenye uko na amani atapika bila kuulizwa na bila kuchoka anajua ni domain yake.
If your woman does stuff for you unashiba kama nguruwe na unakuwa msafi hadi ngotha hadi unavalishwa nguo na unaexpect achukue significant share ya financial responsibilities it will FAIL. Anaexpect you take care of money stuff and she makes your other life comfortable. If she has to hustle na wewe ni wa nini? You need get that career woman mshindanange nani anapika leo you dont deserve a home maker.

You must share values. Otherwise you must have other things keeping you together. Maybe lots of money or something like that. Even friends you have kept for long are more or less like you. Huwezi kuwa socialization yako inafanyikanga clubs na pubs lakini your longtime bestfriend anashindanga conference na seminar za kanisa weekend na holidays zote. Unlikepoles attract achia magnets.
 
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Purple

Moderator
Staff member
#8
If you like who you are as a person then find someone who matches you. But if there are traits that you don't like in yourself, then get someone who will complement that area of weakness.
 

Prometheus

Village Elder
#9
1. Swim in your own pool. {This means if you are a nigga i Wanjigi's hood you only hook up with people there. A guy in a bed sitter will never sikizana with a mama who has 6 floor flets) Pole.
2. Same intelligence level. You need to get each other's humour.
3. Sexually attracted to each other.
4. Mwanume ni dominance.
 
#10
4. Mwanume ni dominance.
thats why they end up with 'slay queens' ama matoast coz they are easy to handle and control otherwise a proper woman with a brain to boot ain't that easy to manipulate,you need to be on the same wavelength in ideas and thoughts,but then again,too mundane ,you'll be too bored with each other hence opposite attract factor
 

Shemeji_x

Village Elder
#16
I don't know much about marriage but as a senior bachelor, I would like to imagine the ideal is choosing the right shade of gray that works for you. If the person is completely different from you or completely same as you complications might arise. So bottom line find some one different from you but with a considerable amount of similar interests. Or find someone like you with additional xtics or interests that you don't have they might introduce you to new things that you might have missed.
 
#19
If you like who you are as a person then find someone who matches you. But if there are traits that you don't like in yourself, then get someone who will complement that area of weakness.
but I don't think "complementing" is a real thing since kila adult can take care of themselves alone. Complementing is just fantasy
 

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