of thumb when it comes to
relationships: assume nothing.
If he hasn’t told you, or most
importantly shown you, that he
loves you, don’t assume he
does. If he hasn’t mentioned a
future with you, don’t assume
that the two of you will get
married, have kids, and live
happily ever after. More
importantly, if you are the one
developing or creating the
relationship don’t assume that
he actually wants to be in it.
Sometimes it can be quite
difficult to not force something
when we want it badly; but
forcing someone to be in a
relationship or love you is a
recipe for total disaster.
Surprisingly, some people don’t
even realize when they’re
forcing love. They go through
the motions, making excuses for
why the other person isn’t
reciprocating their actions. The
reality is if you are always on
the giving in of love and never
receiving it, it may not exist in
the other person.
Consider these six signs to
ensure that you’re not forcing
love or a relationship that
either doesn’t exist or simply
isn’t meant to be.
1.You Do All The Planning
Date #1…Your idea. Date #2…
You asked him out. Every other
plan has been made by you. He
simply accepts, and at times
declines, your invitation.
However, he never makes the
arrangements. If he wants to
see you, allow him to make
arrangements some times. It
can very well be a case of him
not having to do anything
because he knows that you will
take care of it. So to be on the
safe side, allow him to have an
equal say in when the two of
you see each other. If he
doesn’t initiate a date or make
time to see you, then don’t
force the issue.
2.You Always Have To Ask How
He Feels ALL THE TIME
If you’re constantly doing a
‘how do you feel about me?’
check with your significant
other, either he doesn’t’ care to
share, doesn’t’ know, or doesn’t
want to hurt your feelings.
Either way it’s the signs of an
unhealthy relationship. When
you’re unsure of how your man
feels about you and he never
cares to share, it’s important to
not make up feelings for him
that actually don’t exist.
3.He Never Mentions Your
Future
You’ve mentioned marriage.
He’s said nothing. You’ve
mentioned having kids. He
gives you a blank stare. If he
never mentions a future with
you, he may not have thoughts
of a future with you.
4.He Disregards Serious
Matters
Unless you’re dating a child
and not a grown man, at times
your relationship will call for
serious conversations and he
should be ready to discuss the
matters at hand. By nature,
women may want to ‘talk’ more
than men, but if he’s always
changing the subject when
you’re talking about your
future, how to make your
relationship better, or anything
that calls for a serious tone,
you may want to evaluate the
relationship.
5.You Initiate The
Communication 80 % Of The
Time
If it were up to you, the two of
you would talk multiple times a
day. If it were up to him, he
would be fine speaking to you
once or twice a week. If you
find yourself being the only
one sending good morning or
goodnight texts or the only one
in the relationship doing a ‘just
checking on you’ call, you may
be forcing something that is
not really there. If a man wants
to speak to you, he will make
time; and keep in mind just
because he answers your calls
doesn’t mean that he can’t live
without you. If he’s just as
serious about you as you are
about him, he would initiate
texts or call more.
6.You Hear No More Than Yes
No one likes to feel rejected,
especially if the rejection is
coming from someone that you
care about. If you’re in a
relationship and you’re
constantly met by rejection, it
may be time to reevaluate the
situation. If your significant
other is not willing to
compromise or at least allow
you to have things your way
sometimes his “no’s” may say a
lot about how he feels about
the relationship.