Just to educate a few.(based on a true story)
Before Mrs. Rona came, I had a stable job, used to earn slightly above 100k, I was in a private company. Mrs. Rona came, I lost the job. I a girfriend, call her a fiancee coz we have visited both our homes and she has my ring(engagement). We were planning to get married soon enough. I had enough savings to cater for us before I would secure a job. She is working but whenever she requires some money I always give her, I cater for everything whenever we are together(despite me not working). Even earlier before losing my job, she would reach out to me(hey nikopeshe 30k will refund, 10k will refund, 5k will refund~ none of instances I denied her money, but she has never refunded even a penny). The job was lost in April.
After two months of losing my job, she begun detaching from me, communication went down, she begun being arrogant, unajua madharau huja with some ladies when you are financially down, she gets angry about me for nothing? Just to test her, I have on two occassions told her to buy some food stuff(something not even costing 100~say milk, vegetables, bread) and she refused, she said she can’t do that. I go and buy, then she would ask where I got the money from, I just keep quiet. ~ not that she has no money, she is a civil servant, earning a net pay of 53k a month. Last month I told her we settle down this Dec, she said “get stable first”~ those were her exact words, I told her fine. We are still together ile “just there” but she keep on avoiding important topics. Whenever I raise something about us, she comes up with something else. Frequency of us seeing each other has reduced, since April, we have met only thrice. She has on many occassions told me “si uende nyumbani ukae huko since you are unemployed”.
Now, a break-through has come this August, my parents made some efforts and secured me a very well paying job, a government job, paying more than I used to earn. Am reporting in Sept. I haven’t told my so called fiancee, she is still avoiding me kimadharau tu and am not intending to tell her, let her continue avoiding me,. I have told my parents not to tell her either. And I have too instructed my sister to remain mute about it~ coz they do talk. Things I have seen, wacha tu. I’m 32 and intending to start over again, we have been together for 4 solid years.
This is a true story not fiction . Sometimes, it’s good to “know” your person~ your boyfriend or girfriend well because some of these so called partners are just with you when it’s sunny on your side.