Subaru Boys- Get broke ndio ujue GF wako ni malaya

Just to educate a few.(based on a true story)

Before Mrs. Rona came, I had a stable job, used to earn slightly above 100k, I was in a private company. Mrs. Rona came, I lost the job. I a girfriend, call her a fiancee coz we have visited both our homes and she has my ring(engagement). We were planning to get married soon enough. I had enough savings to cater for us before I would secure a job. She is working but whenever she requires some money I always give her, I cater for everything whenever we are together(despite me not working). Even earlier before losing my job, she would reach out to me(hey nikopeshe 30k will refund, 10k will refund, 5k will refund~ none of instances I denied her money, but she has never refunded even a penny). The job was lost in April.

After two months of losing my job, she begun detaching from me, communication went down, she begun being arrogant, unajua madharau huja with some ladies when you are financially down, she gets angry about me for nothing? Just to test her, I have on two occassions told her to buy some food stuff(something not even costing 100~say milk, vegetables, bread) and she refused, she said she can’t do that. I go and buy, then she would ask where I got the money from, I just keep quiet. ~ not that she has no money, she is a civil servant, earning a net pay of 53k a month. Last month I told her we settle down this Dec, she said “get stable first”~ those were her exact words, I told her fine. We are still together ile “just there” but she keep on avoiding important topics. Whenever I raise something about us, she comes up with something else. Frequency of us seeing each other has reduced, since April, we have met only thrice. She has on many occassions told me “si uende nyumbani ukae huko since you are unemployed”.

Now, a break-through has come this August, my parents made some efforts and secured me a very well paying job, a government job, paying more than I used to earn. Am reporting in Sept. I haven’t told my so called fiancee, she is still avoiding me kimadharau tu and am not intending to tell her, let her continue avoiding me,. I have told my parents not to tell her either. And I have too instructed my sister to remain mute about it~ coz they do talk. Things I have seen, wacha tu. I’m 32 and intending to start over again, we have been together for 4 solid years.

This is a true story not fiction . Sometimes, it’s good to “know” your person~ your boyfriend or girfriend well because some of these so called partners are just with you when it’s sunny on your side.

The red flags are always visible. You live, you learn.

tunajuanga wanawake wako hivi lakini angejifichia kidogo kama hayuko sure anataka kuhepa. ningesema uwachane naye tu sababu ni mjinga. usioe mjinga. she lacks emotional intelligence. even men who have ugly wives they married because of their submissive (wife’s) nature dont run away from them in public or even deny them when they are out there. those men are intelligent enough to keep it civil and sweet. otherwise pia wao ni wajinga na bibi ataleta hasara kwa njia moja au nyingine.
kwepa mtu mjinga. ni balaa tupu.

:D:D:D hapa ndio unajuanga wanawake have no grain of loyalty in them. You are simply utilities even Married men.

Huyo ni mbeta meo mushienzi. Hakuna mahali anaenda, hiyo kunguru imemkalia chapo. Mimi sigwes earn 100k na nisupport ghaseer inalipwa 53k. Call me stingy, lakini sigwes.

Huyo boyz ajisoteshe kabisaa hata apeleke gari kwa beshte yake aaambie dame amepeleka car yard anataka kuiuza. Aombe dame 5K ya kujishikilia. Msichana ata ghost kama moshi which will be a good thing. Saa hi akipata ka fununu amepata job atakua mzuri hadi mwanaume asahau the kind of snake she is

Why do u guys think I am 40 and single?

Lakini watu wengine wana wazazi wapoa. Respect your parents.

Poin taken. So disengage her completely and look for another woman

True

Tupe uhondo…

This are things men are blinded to when dating…dame kama anafanya jobo na kila saa nikuomba pesa na harudishi that’s a big red flag. When dating usiwaitaka ata dame ajue your financial capability otherwise you will just attract gold diggers

I hope utamsare kabisa. One thing I tell people, never use your savings na mtu hujaoa ata kama amevaa engagement rings mbili. I assume my savings ni za kujenga nyumba ata kama sio za kujenga. This helps me not to touch them. Shida kama Corona just go home while planning sth else or whatever.

Best advice from @Laibon Ninja Jifanye uko down kabisa. Tell her you have not paid your crib for the last 3 months. See if she will bail you out. If she changes and decides to support you for at least 2 months stick with her. If she enters the forest, wachana nayeye kabisa…wacha mpatane kwa streets aone uliomoka after akuwache kwa mataa

Why do people spend money on watu hawajawazalia? :D:D:D. Hizo vitu za girlfriend, fiancè ni umeffy!
Hiyo description ya huyo mdem iko na red flags mob sana. Kama hamuezi agree financially na dem, hiyo relationship imeoga. Huyo mguys asonge kama injili

i would advise too that you keep a low profile and show her umefilisika kabisa while you are thinking of moving out and get a better home for yourself…you might be thinking NAWALT but ukijiingiza kwa mchezo kama hiyo tena stress itakuua…wewe jipange and accumulate wealth and if possible just ghost that crow…FOR GOOD…!! ata baba yake akuje ati muongee…

Gosha you must must be 45 coz you were 40 in 2015…

Eat and move on

Ofcourse

You failed to read the signs. A working woman that loves you and wants to settle with you should at least cater to some of the little stuff in the house. Its a sign of selfishness when she can’t even buy milk, it makes you wonder why is she working anyway!?? These are telltale signs of a lady who thinks you need her more than she needs you. In any relationship, don’t ever let your woman think you’ve no option. Sometimes you even fake a conversation with a very beautiful girl just so that she knows she is not the only option. A lady should need you more than you need her, and this is what makes them go the extra mile in the relationship because if that was the case she would have remained loyal to you in your difficult time in the fear of losing you when things go back to normal. I faced a similar experience, and my woman catered for the bills because she knew with my experience and skills I wouldn’t take long to go back to my feet, and back I went, and to add to that I gifted her big!
Your lady seems entitled because for some reason you’ve put her on a big pedestal. Has she ever caught you in an affair?
I think as much as she is selfish, you are also very soft on her. And how come you’ve never settled down 4 years down the line. That’s too long, and maybe she thinks you’re indecisive. It won’t be a surprise to find out that she spends her money with a mother dude. A dude that probably trash talks her and fucks her like she wants to tear her pussy. Buddy, if you don’t change your attitude, you might get another lady that will treat you in the same way.