Apparently, Meghan Markle; the latest addition to the dysfunctional family that is the British royal family is a self confessed Feminist.
What is a Feminist?
She is a divorcee and chances are we might see a black baby waving back at us from the upper balcony of Buckingham palace! (I’m sure there are plenty of Brits who are hoping their babies don’t come out in the wrong shade of black!.. kikikikkkk…)
In Kikuyu culture, there is a saying or rather a description for impregnating a woman before marrying her.
" Kuuna mburi kuguru"
Loosely translated, it means Breaking the Goat’s leg.
It means damaging and devaluing goods for sale.
It means that an interested buyer will not fork out the asking/going price of the said commodity and in all honesty, the buyer has an upper hand in negotiations because he is paying for inferior quality goods.
So how does a modern, Educated Kenyan woman in 2017 reconcile being a Feminist and then going through with being “bought” in the name of Dowry?
Never mind the double standards, but is any woman today worth paying dowry for?
I can only speak from a Kikuyu cultural point of view.
In my grandfather’s time, the potential bride had to be a virgin and of good reputation for her to even be considered marriage material.
Today, the average 21 year old woman strutting their behinds on the streets of Nairobi has slept with more men than they count on all their fingers and toes!
They demand respect and claim to be independent and empowered.
They might even have a sprog or two!
But they still want you to “pay” for them in marriage.
Isn’t it what Dowry is ?.. Payment?
In Kikuyu marriage is traditionally described as " kugurana" … - Purchasing.
@MaryJane , @Purple etc… how do you justify allowing your parents to accept any payment or reward in exchange for you as an independent human being/woman in 2017?
And is it not ridiculous that any woman today would even consider themselves Empowered if her parents accepted any form of dowry for her hand in marriage?
There is no such thing as Feminism.
There is just a whole new generation of selfish women who want to have their cake and eat it too.
And they won’t let culture, religion or morality get in their way.
Personally, I don’t know any woman that is worth paying dowry for.
In an age of equality there is no place for dowry.
Women are traditionally and religiously supposed to be Helpers of the man.
And that is why I choose to invest in a Mboch rather than a wife.
#resistdowrypayment
#savetheboychild