Wadau there are basically two kinds of marriages: a traditional conservative marriage and a modern marriage.
A traditional conservative marriage is a marriage based on 100% traditional ideology, well-defined gender roles etc.
Now majority of you are likely to be having modern marriages to varying degrees, an effect of global modernization and following of Western culture.
Modern marriages trying to challenge a well-established setup that has carried humanity since our great ancestors for centuries and millenniums experience lots of problems
One of those problems is that in a modern marriage mtu mmoja lazima akule nje: kama bwana hakuli nje bibi anakuliwa nje. Men who are not increasing their conquests wanakuliwa bibi huko nje viproper. Conquests refer to normal women not prostitutes, where a man uses skill & charm to conquer.
Why is that the case?
Now increasing your conquests as a man ensures your testosterone remain high which women can naturally sense. It also ensure you remain vibrant.
Now in traditional conservative marriages there is never anything like a ‘boring’ husband.
But there are countless modern wives complaining of being stuck with ‘boring’ husbands. You know the husband does his normal job of providing, tries to please her even shares chores in response to feminist claims but in fact the situation worsens.
The reason is that the man was a loyal beta male who would have been cherished, worshipped so much by the traditional woman but never by the modern woman.
Modern women are women who have passed through the damaging dating world where they were scrambling for the partying fun guys but had to settle with those guys who had jobs who happen to be the guys they were rejecting earlier on.
Now this bored wife atakuliwa dry fry huko nje. This is even a punishment for a man neglecting his evolutionary role of not spreading his genes.
When you see a woman in a modern marriage who is very happy then it’s because she married an alpha male who’s increasing his conquests regularly.
The last thing that a modern woman wants to see is familiarity, predictability, non-charming etc. You have to keep your charming skills up to date and ensure they don’t rust otherwise utakuwa unakuliwa bibi dry fry with that charming coworker or gym guy.