“Mama yenu (your spiritual mum) Pastor Sarah nampenda hivo na amesoma hadi Class 3. Sio Kizungu, sura au figure huleta ndoa,” he said.
The 45-year-old man of God added: “Nyota ya ndoa utaolewa hata kama mwanaume hataki na hutabembeleza mwanaume. Atakuita babe, sweetie…”
“When I wanted to marry Pastor Sarah, some of my people told me ooh she didn’t go to school. She can’t speak English. what if you marry her and big people come what will they say? I looked at my wife and didn’t see English but a beautiful woman who can take care of a ministry. English can’t take care of a ministry!” he said.
There is this misconception that university girls will be troublesome. Go ahead, chukua an uneducated girl from the remote parts of Kenya or even uneducated girl from your city uniambie kama iyo nyumba mtakua compatible intellectually. I wanna see what you will be discussing and if after a month you will be satisfied by the progress of your relationship.
Let me summarize; your research is based on heresy and not from own background. Oh you never had grandpas i bet.
Back then, it was easier to find one partner way educated and their marriage ilikuwa vizuri. Actually rarely, could they discuss story za job other than vituko za siku all the way past midnight.
Byro ni nini unaweza niambia about relationships when you married a single mum, which is a cardinal sin in this village?? Where was your grandpa when you was marrying your single mum??
What do you need intellectual compatibility for exactly? Urembo na character pekee yake ndio muhimu. I think even intellectual incompatibilty is advantageous.
That is because back then the line between uneducated was very thin. The world is increasingly getting globalized, you need a woman who will understand what AI is without getting deep .
If all youre after is sex then youre right. But long term companionship…
order elder! ORDER! Ugwespiga talker sliding tackle hivyo after a long day ya maandamano! This is wrong!
While I think that Ezekiel anakula kadri ya urefu wa kamba yake, naungana na mkuu @Jimit hapa.
My $0.02:
Study your uncles who married uneducated second wives and learn buana. Those are the women who were married because they were “soft meat” ama had the beauty and matako to match. 90% of them are mostly lazy and have the capacity to run any business down within a matter of months, however big. Those are the women who start blackmailing your kids with threats like “nilikubeba miezi tisa” if their kids do not remit black tax because when your uncles were alive, they did nothin more than sit pretty and look beautiful in the house. Maybe kazi ilikua kuenda liev band kila weekends.
That sounds stretched for most people but if you can, marry an educated woman who can think on her feet, sio mtu akili itagoma kufikiria in case you die and leave her with your kids and property. Marry someone you are sure will easily step into your shoes and run your biz successfully, sio kutupa threats and dimming the future of your kids by making them cough half their income to continue her legacy you kukaa tu ndee.
Byro committed a capital crime in the village. Engaging him is akin to entertaining a treasonous fella. His opinions are therefore null and void. Alafu akuna mtu ako excited na theatrica kama wewe kinembe ya siafu
Kitu inakutanisha bibi na bwana ni kuzaa, ambayo haina discussion…story zingine kando…Kama jamaa is smart upstairs, being the head, he can guide the wife accordingly.
The world is changing. AI is taking over, meaning those that will survive in the foreseeable future need to have some serious skills. The best gift you can give your offsprings is a mother capable of discerning how the world is changing and deploy necessary skills to adapt.
Warias don’t marry the so called educated and emancipated women and their marriages are always successful.
If I was to marry today, I would go for a woman with a diploma or KCSE education at most. If I need intellectual talk, I can get it from other men and forums like this one.
Women tend to respect men they look up to. Where they see equality with the man, respect is often less than expected.