UNDERSTANDING MEN?

Good afternoon talkers,

I recently(one-month ago) met this guy during a night out with one of my friends. They are apparently very good friends from childhood. We sat down sipping drinks and chatting the night away from politics, married people,relationships etc just the usual drunk banter. This guy that i met through my friend was quite interesting and we seemed to gel and at the end of the night he took my number and since then we have always been talking. He always videocalls me every night before we sleep. The guy however mentioned the other day that we are quite different because of the age gap .He is 36 and I am 25.

We definitely have different priorities i. E he wants children. He mentioned that he would want to date me and he is proposing that I quit my job and move in with him.He also wants me to consider giving him a baby which I vehemently refused esp because I would like to do it the right way(marriage then babies). He says if I could give him children we can always get married after.

The guy lives away from Nairobi however he has a house here in Nairobi. Another thing I expect an older man to lead not making me make decisions for us. I’m already very insecure with the fact that he is not a leader and does not take charge.He sometimes will mention that I am too young to understand his priorities.

My question is why would a grown man want to rush things this much and also why would a man tell a woman to quit her job to be a housewife?. Is it because he is insecure? Is this age gap a good thing or bad thing? I feel like he is also very insecure eg when he video calls and I get a message he will say something like ‘seems like many men want you’ which I find annoying.

Another thing he insists on calling me on whatsapp call and i honestly prefer being called on my actual number. I don’t see why a doctor cannot load credit and call my number .When i call him and my credit runs out he will return the call via whatsapp call.This got me thinking that he probably cannot maintain me or he is just a stingy man. Help me understand this man.

FYI: we haven’t had sex(he says he will wait for as long as it takes ) and he says if I quit my job he will provide everything

Also he has no baby mammas and he barely drinks. I mentioned that I was going out sometime and we would not video call and he said ‘who is taking you out’(as if I would not catch a drink with my friends and pay my bill) . He even asked whether I sleep with my guy friends.He seems to not trust me already.He also says that I always strike him to be high maintenance o_O since the very first day we met.

Forgive any grammatical errors

Nipewe kiti priss, nategea comments…

Run baby girl, run.

Fungeni shuka saaaa ya saloon hapa !

Had to run to the Front page and yep @GeorginaMakena hana thread then this one pops back…
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fuck boy huyo

When you talk about leading what exactly do you mean?setting dates ama

Eg he says I’m young and I should decide the direction of where this is going then next thing he is saying we should move in together.The calling aspect (whatsapp calls don’t cut it for me) .Older guys have hit on me before and they always would hang up my call if i called them so that they can call me back and we would have long conversations without the call being interrupted by credit insufficiency. This guy calls me and his credit just ends in like 20mins(that’s the longest he has called without his credit running out:eek:) , I’d call him for 3hours straight.i dont mind calling him but I’m here wondering why he doesn’t have credit.even during the day he calls via whatsapp call. :eek: it is a HUGE TURNOFF

You did not have to open my thread

Can I open your legs?

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That is the sad thing about the whole deal and you not getting my post
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I bet you have read, watched or heard news about jealous lovers killing their partners in horrific ways and wondered why the victims didn’t bolt when they realised they were dating psychos, right?

I always think wewe ni mwanaume

Never been one

I thought I was overthinking this whole situation. Thank you

He barely drinks… teetotallers are usually vitombi, meaning they have to maintain many pussy holders, meaning they are usually inexplicably broke, meaning they want to spend the least amount possible on what could turn out to be a bad investment ( considering you haven’t fucked yet and you could withdraw the offer any moment). You also don’t expect him to make decisions for all his pussy holders, do you? He’ll barely have time for anything else!
Don’t mind me, just thinking out loud.

Skimmed through your hogwash and from the little that I read, I grasped that you need to be creampied and analised soonest possible.

That is a beta male. An educated beta male. Mtu anakwambia usare job yako ni moto wa kuotea mbali. Also, fear men who don’t drink…wengi ni maumbwa. The normal man will drink like a fish today like there is no tomorrow. He will ask for sex as soon as he can. Mtu ako willing kungoja kuma halafu apate umepeana àtakuuwa juu ya possessiveness na wivu.

Thank you makes sense:)

True. I already feel like he feels very entitled because I’m talking to him. He did not seem pleased that I wanted to miss his call to go out:rolleyes: Thank you I will cut communication before it is too late