What is it that you saw in your wife that made you marry her?

For those people who are married what is it that you saw in your wife that made you want to settle down.Maybe i need a paradigm shift of what marriage is or i don’t need one.I get into relationships every now and then but i do not see a reason of committing at all. From the moment you bend one on knee you are demonstrating a symbol of being controlled by another human being.‘Love’ and sex are tools of manipulation.You are going to hear the word WE need to talk but everything is going to be ‘ME,ME,ME’.I see a lot of men being turned into goofballs once they stay in marriages for some time.A lot of women are not givers-I noticed that while still living in my father’s house,he would work hard,make time for you if you had issues,fix things, on the other hand the other three females were glued to their phones 24/7,never did much in the house, only mixing things in a cooking pot and getting out of the kitchen like they have discovered how to split atoms and i would find myself cooking and sorting things around the house,was the chauffeur and did all fixing around the house.Apart from sex?what is it that the woman brings.I always finding myself laughing when they start moving into my house and pretending to be cooking and being of value when it turns out i cook better than them and i always end up telling them that they are getting into my personal space too much.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cw32Ufq-YYY

Once you start looking at your family members same way you see kungurus of outside, you probably need to seek some counseling.

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Look for someone like your mum’s personalities.

Women will just take advantage when they can. Thats why they are naturally the subordinates if things are to work.

My story,

I met my wife when I was just finishing high school and she was in her first year in high school. August 1996, I had escorted my cousin who was dating her elder sister, as fate would have it the two of us were left together with nothing to talk about coz we had never met. A few more meetings in 1997 before I went to college in Mombasa and we fell in love. For the three years I was in Mombasa she literally spend all her free time with my mum. When I came back from Mombasa in 2010 she was already my wife even though we had never discussed it. There were no mobile phones so our communication was through letters, to answer your question, I married my wife coz of 2 things, one, loyalty, and two, love. We men are capable of loving anything and switching of the next minute but when a woman loves they give it their all.

Hiyo loyalty ndio wanawake wa siku hizi wanakosa.

Rephrase the question to,“What did you see on your wife.”
Hehehe.

1997-2010. may I say that this is legendary? ulijaribu kunguru ngapi hapo kati kati kabla umkubali?

I have said here before and I will say it again, my wife was my first girlfriend, I went through high school without a girlfriend.

May I add that I was in Mombasa poly for 2 years bila girlfriend, nilihanya bibi yangu after kuoana.

Cleanliness.
Nilikuwa mlevi tu wa kawaida and even though my place wasn’t that dirty, it still had the usual lingering smells associated with bachelor cribs. The 1st time she visited my place she did an amazing makeover. I think it was only the mattress and a blanket that were left unwashed. I was even almost afraid to get into my own bed to sleep.
I decided there was something there that isn’t commonly available and I had to keep it to myself.

On a city hoppa bus to KNH, i sat next to a very graceful and neat lady. Handbag on her lap, hands folded . Noticed she didnt have any rings, bracelets on her hand, only a simple ladies watch. When we got to community she looked outside and i got an opportunity to quickly glance at her face. No pierced ear therefore no earings, natural hair held together by a hairband and above all zero make up. When we alighted at KNH, i followed her and told her she was the most beautiful girl i’d ever set my eyes on. Aliniangalia ka sanamu and sneered as she went her way. Mwanaume ni bidii my friend.

So form 1997 to 2010 ulikuwa loyal at a time you were young yourself.

True.

The consequence is that you lost one ball. but seriously thats a huge feat.

Then… is she your wife?

Maliza hekaya mabachelor tunatake notes

Malizia paruanja

Just personality and maturity looks weren’ so important but from the pictures I saw of her before we met , she was ok. Love grows and blossoms over time.
Having have dated a couple of girls before, you learn what kind of person you want to settle down with.

Effects of blue balls back then made you lose a ball recently