I think kama ulikuwa dry spell in uni, a place full of dumb bimbos, maybe there is something wrong with you.
I mean madame wa uni don’t even care about money if you are a fellow student. Don’t use money as an excuse of not getting laid in campus.
They are more understanding than you think.You just have to be a breathing human being and approach enough women.
It is a numbers game. You can’t approach two girls an entire semester and expect a lot of action.
Hata huku nje, if you are serious about dating, you will have to approach more women because it is still a numbers game. Rejection isikustue, every man has been rejected or aborted a mission at some point.
In the real world you will approach like 5 women, two reject you cold because you are not their type or whatever. One takes you in circles and wastes your time. One takes too long to give out the cookie and you cut your losses. The fifth one accepts your approach.
Every man has a hit rate. Those that fail just don’t approach enough women. Sure, men have different hit rates. A gremlin could have a 1 in 50 hit rate. Adonis may have a 1 in 3 hit rate. If you are a gremlin, approach more women and develop a thick skin.
Kuna time nilikuwa nadunga works kwa muindi industrial area, manze nilikuwa naingia 7am natoka 7pm for 6 days. Ile doh nilikuwa nayo imepimwa kama dawa hadi end month, ningepiga hesabu vibaya ninge trek hadi works.
Without time, without money na uchovu dry spell ilinikaza mbaya sana.
Ile siku muindi alilipa saloo nilicombine off day na one leave day nikaita mama fua ya mutaa nikaikula saaaaaana na kuipea 1k. Later PNC ilitwanga mimi vile niliona hiyo mama fua ilikuwa imebeat.
Mimi uona wasee huku wakisema mama fua wanakuanga fwain najua ni dry spell inasumbua
98% of men after being rejected repeatedly just give up or think they are not attractive enough. They just resign to fate. Real life is not motivational speaking. It involves real people with feelings. It takes a lot of mental planning for a young man to approach an attractive woman. When rejected after expending all that mental energy, it is very demotivating.
I think why people become lonely is because they overestimate who they are and what they can achieve. For instance, in a college, you find there are a small number of pretty girls. All men fancy them and always strategising on how to fck them. 99.99% will get no chance yet majority of other less pretty girls are available but nobody wants them simply because they want something trophy. Hiyo machungu yote ya rejection ndiyo unaone watu kama @uwesmake are fcking prostitutes to revenge against fate but they never heal anyway, it is a bottomless pit
Nikiwa msoto uni I had a different problem. Wasichana walikuwa lakini my self esteem was extremely low because I needed at least some money to feel good. When your girlfriends have more money than you, it does something to your self-esteem. You can imagine eating hapo kwa mess ya uni only for girls to bring you food kwa hostel. I felt like a total charity case buana.
Uko dry spell na bado uko na standards. At this point you’re a beggar. I’m sure there are some 4s to 6s who’ve shown you some interest but unataka 8s to 9s. Start with hao 4s, women tend to want you when you’re in a relationship with another woman. Ukipata huyo 4 utashtukia ma 5 na 6 zinaanza pia kushow interest. Upgrade consistently until you start hitting the 7s or 8s. That’s why unaona some really ugly mofos with pretty girls unashindwa hapa kuliendaje?
Every man has a strike rate of about 10-15%. Even those you think have lines. It’s like a cheetah. He’s the fastest living creature. But he is only successful in 15% of his hunts. 9 out of 10 times, those Impala show him dust and he fails. It’s a natural number. A natural phenomenon.
Truth is you don’t really need lines to score. When you try throwing lines, a woman’s guard goes up. Just be friendly to women. Very casual conversation alafu when you develop some repoir, ask her what you want. You will be surprised.