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Why do women get married?

#1
Every day I come across women online and IRL who are miserable bcz of men.I wonder. Is it really Compulsory to stay in relationships that add no value and take away your happiness? If something doesn't work for you why insist on it? Why don't women love themselves? I really wonder. Upewe stress na government of Kenya and then you go home to more stress in the form of a man?

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Please my dia pray for me 10 good years in marriage but Sina amani laani last year ndio imekuwa wazi kabisa imeanza na hii mwaka......naomba 2 muniombee amani kwa ndoa yangu mme wangu arudi in normal senses kutoka mipango ya kando na anipende vile mwanzo........ please Ni maombi 2 nawaomba kwa ndoa yangu.......nimelia miaka mingi Sana......Sasa I need peace from God please .
 
#2
Are there people here who are in marriages but they feel like they are single mums?Ok so this is the situation,Mimi na hubby tunaishi separate juu ya job but lately he is not supportive at all.. we've been together 5yrs with a 3 yr old but kila kitu ameniachia...all bills from rent to maid to shopping..I mean everything..even if my son falls ill natumia my own NHIF kumtibu.its been 3months Kama hajatuma hata one bob yake kwa simu yangu..he comes during the weekend,,anakula analala na kuenda..if he leaves hata simu hapigi the whole week.sometimes he is online hata mpaka saa tano but he'll never text..pia Mimi nilisema to hell,,,I don't bother him either..najifanyia tu mambo yangu..what hurts me sasa Ni my son loves him more despite him being away akija tu my son hataki hata kukaa na mm.he prefers his dad na Ni copyright..I always wish vile ng'ang'ana tu kivyangu kumlea at least awe close na mm..This man ananiudhi tu yaani hata mtu akiniuliza Kama Niko single najiita ka mkutano najiuliza Kama kweli Niko married or not..so juzi a man akanikatia..he is kitu 45yrs mi Niko 25..naeza sema Ni sponsor tu.so this man akasema he is married but anataka tukue in a relationship..so nilimpima nione kama atakuwa asset ama liability.nikamwambia my rent is in arrears of 4 months that is 40k..akaniambia nimpee 2hrs..to my shock the man sent the money.nikaeka kwa account.so he is saying we meet on Sunday tuongee further lakini huyu zuzu wangu most probably atakuwa hii wknd sijui nifanyeje coz I told the man my job is not well paying nataka 100k nianze side hustle..akaniambia tuta discuss tukimeet na niandike application letter nimpelekee na certs zangu on that day of our meeting.sijui nifanye aje coz huyu hubby so ati namwongelea vibaya but hanisaidii na hata bedroom all over sudden he has become poor in bed.na hataki nimtembelee huko kwenye anafanya job..advice
 

Masgwembe

Village Elder
#3
Men should man up and publicly marry more than one wife. It is very much okay and preferred to be polygamous than these silly-boy-hide-and-seek games with disastrous kwesekwese.
 
#4
Hi, assume you are married and ukona mtoi and meanwhile ukona ball then you come to know that your hubby has an outside affair and he definitely move to that place of mpango wa kando. The mpango wa kando knows well that the guy has a family. But she decides to insult you every time and you choose to remain quite. The situation worsens and the only option left is to go back to your parents house. Calling the hubby at least akusupport anakushow yy akona majukumu kwenye ako (the mpango has a 6yr old gal) na anakwambia ata mimba unaeza kunywa majani itoke then usiwai mpigia simu na utafte mwanaume akuoe. And upon going to your knees before 2weeks ends yule mwanaume akupigie phone akuulize mbona ulinyamaza , umwambie 'you told me never to call you and I honoured " then akwambie uwe unamcall na yy pia atakua ana call... Na atakuja muongee yy ameacha Yale mambo alikufanyia, what can you do?? Mm hivo ndio niliona hii Dec and it was date 6/jan when he called me na nashangaa, niache hasira na nkue namcall na akikuja tuongee and make our things up again am a,?? I still love him, he is my husband and father yo our son and the unborn child.... But pia your reasoning will be highly appreciated..
 
#5
Wasichana ebu kujeni hapa nkona swali... Mbona hua mnakaa in a toxic relationship, unachapwa kila siku to an extent ya ku miscourage, kila siku unalia but again uko tu hapo ka kinyangarika ati in the name of nampenda???
 

Cheza juu

Village Elder
#6
Women discussing their marital troubles on social media are themselves a problem too.

Am sure if you look into the past of those women, somewhere they are the problem,or,the problems they are facing must come up because of there past lives.men too.


They are not divorcing because of how much they are invested in that marriage.

Also,God hates it.
Malachi 2:16 (NKJV):
16“For the LORD God of Israel says That He hates divorce,For it covers one’s garment with violence,”Says the LORD of hosts.Therefore take heed to your spirit,That you do not deal treacherously.”


people get into marriages in one way or another clothed in treachery
 
#7
Men should man up and publicly marry more than one wife. It is very much okay and preferred to be polygamous than these silly-boy-hide-and-seek games with disastrous kwesekwese.
Exactly man....todays dating failures (cheating i.e mipango ya kando and infidelity) is a clear indication that monogamy will never work...but the modern woman is so empowered and entitled she'll never accept this fact...a man is capable of loving different women at the same time
 
#8
Women discussing their marital troubles on social media are themselves a problem too.

Am sure if you look into the past of those women, somewhere they are the problem,or,the problems they are facing must come up because of there past lives.men too.


They are not divorcing because of how much they are invested in that marriage.

Also,God hates it.
Malachi 2:16 (NKJV):
16“For the LORD God of Israel says That He hates divorce,For it covers one’s garment with violence,”Says the LORD of hosts.Therefore take heed to your spirit,That you do not deal treacherously.”


people get into marriages in one way or another clothed in treachery
The context of that Bible verse is the character of men to divorce a woman over very trivial things based on the flimsy reasons given during the Mosaic era. Actually it's not a woman leaving an abusive marriage rather it was a tyrannical man abandoning the wife of his youth at a time in history when divorce meant economic social and even religious destitution.

Malachi 2

Breaking Covenant Through Divorce
10 Do we not all have one Father[b]?(AB) Did not one God create us?(AC)Why do we profane the covenant(AD) of our ancestors by being unfaithful(AE) to one another?
11 Judah has been unfaithful. A detestable(AF) thing has been committed in Israel and in Jerusalem: Judah has desecrated the sanctuary the Lord loves(AG) by marrying(AH) women who worship a foreign god.(AI) 12 As for the man who does this, whoever he may be, may the Lord remove(AJ) him from the tents of Jacob[c](AK)—even though he brings an offering(AL) to the Lord Almighty.
13 Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears.(AM) You weep and wail(AN) because he no longer looks with favor(AO) on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands.(AP)14 You ask,(AQ) “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness(AR) between you and the wife of your youth.(AS)You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.(AT)
15 Has not the one God made you?(AU) You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring.[d](AV) So be on your guard,(AW) and do not be unfaithful(AX) to the wife of your youth.
16 “The man who hates and divorces his wife,(AY)” says theLord, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,”[e](AZ) says the LordAlmighty.
So be on your guard,(BA) and do not be unfaithful
 

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