Have consistently observed that most of my disappointments in life arise when my expectations (both realistic and unrealistic) of something are not met. That promotion at work that I was passed n, that rela. who conned me of some cash, that chick who did not turn up or just ruined my well laid out evening plan because she did not look as hot as I had expected (re; tinder date); never mind that was one of the few evenings I officially had a visa to be out and bout :-).
The irony of life is that most times I obsess over this minor disappointment for a long time that I forget to look at the bigger picture…
Case in point, back them days I used to put a lotof effort to make it to the Carnivore for Sunday for Sunday Soul before 9:00pm so I can hit the no-cover charge entry time. I would be extremely disappointed if I did not make it on time. Then once I was in, I would hit the bottle and completely ignore the fact that I am spending more on alcohol than the money I tried to save (Kshs 300) and I’d probably be better served if I arrived at about 10-11 and have a short, sweet but meaningful evening.
I just read an article that SGR raised Nairobi-Mombasa fairs from 700 to 1000 and there is a small tinge of disappointment that I never got to enjoy this discounted fair yet the reality is I would spend probably 1k in a taxi to Syokimau and another 1-2k for my connections at destination.
And then there is this thing called hope …me stretching my hope too far into expectation territory without any data to back it up (Me winning Green card lottery or landing that dream job overseas just simply because I applied…knowing very well that probably over 10k other people -probably better qualified-also applied!). … and it this disappointment is especially bad when we desperately need something.
Do you have any experiences where you had a major disappointment simply because of your realistic/unrealistic expectations?
If I want to avoid a majority of my disappointments, I should temper down my expectations or at least try to eliminate most of them. This has been an impossible task for me… does anyone have any strategies they have tried on this?
Nothing alarming. You are as human as they come. Work on your irrationality and you’re set.
There was this time I was informed a company needed some upgrading work done and some serious companies had put in their bids.One of the people in the know briefed me about it and jokingly told me, why don’t you also place a bid.
After about some 3 days, in a moment of pure mischief , I wrote a proposal and sent it by email addressing it to no one in particular.
Some three weeks later, I got a call from the company telling me my proposal had been accepted and the job was mine.
I keep reminding people to internalize this question:
“What is the worst that can happen?”
So… in everything you do, put all the effort and dedication humanly possible - knowing full well that even the best laid plans do go awry. And then ask yourself, “If it fails, what is the worst that can happen?”
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[li]Uki apply tender, huenda ukaikosa (even after spending some crazy money preparing and greasing hands :eek:[/li]
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So… [COLOR=rgb(226, 80, 65)]What is the worst that can happen? Death? Even death may be an acceptable risk… sometimes!
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Mchina lazima alipwe.
No better feeling like a train from Guildford to London changinng lanes, you sway shwa shwa!
Tata ikuje itoe fair… kwa SGR fare increase
Clearly, three is your jinx.
kwanza ukisha kamua unatakaa aende tu