Cases of women hiring gangs to eliminate their husbands are on the rise. Obviously, most of these murders rarely come into light but all too often, you hear about gangs executing a man while he awaits his gate to be opened. In most cases, nothing is stolen. Most if not all of these cases involve women hiring criminals to kill their men. But why?
Rarely will a woman married to a ‘Mjengo’ man hire a crook to kill her husband. On the contrary, most of the victims are normally well off.
The modern woman is conditioned to believe that in marriage, just like in life, she is entitled to everything that her hearts crave for. Life is supposed to revolve around her. Man must offer real deal if she is to even date him. In short she must have her way. When such a woman gets married, she views her husband as a biological ATM. And, yes, the husband’s wealth is meant to satiate her desire for luxuries. If her man owns rental buildings, the income generated is meant to afford her the best that life can offer.
Now, many men who have struggled to build their fortune will be naturally very cautious with their wealth. Unnecessary luxuries are a no no to these men. So, you’ve got a situation where the wife sees the husband as an obstacle to her desire to enjoy the best of life. ‘ If my husband’s apartments generate 700k per month, why the f*ck should be he alive. What’s the use of him anyway’, the wife reasons.
In no time, a gang dispatches the man to the world of his ancestors.
This all boils down to people getting married for all the wrong reasons: if your wife fell in ‘love’ with you because you own a Nakumatt, why do you think she wont eliminate you in order to enjoy the ‘nakumatt’ alone(or possibly with that young stallion)?
If you’ve got 300m in your account and you are not spendthrift, your wife will mostly plot about how to enjoy that money alone.
So, at the end of the day you’ve got cemeteries full of men whose only crime was being wealthy and marrying the wrong women.
I always tell people that marriage will only regain its glory when people will start getting married to their real friends of opposite sex and NOT ‘lovers’. If you look carefully, most stable marriages are between childhood ‘friends /sweethearts’ not these relationships that are entered into on the basis of one’s earning capabilities.
Before people fall in ‘love’ they should first be genuine friends. As it is now, very few women consider their husbands to be their friends and vice versa. If your wife is your best friend, very rarely will you spend time hanging around ciru, that barmaid at your local; similarly if your husband is your best friend, you as a woman will rarely seek solace in these swindlers called pastors.
If you marry that woman simply because she is pregnant with your kid, you are just entering the mansion of misery. If you get married to a man because of his wealth, you will, along the way, be tempted to eliminate him in order to enjoy his sweat alone.
Whenever a rich man dies in a suspicious manner, common sense demands that the wife should be treated as the first suspect.
Many men make the mistake of assuming that the bonds between them and their wives are stronger that flesh and blood. No. In most marriages, the bonds between men and their wives revolve around the future of the kids. That is why the wife hangs around. Today, if all kids disappeared mysteriously, many married women would walk away from their marriages the following day. If you as a man have apartments that can cater for your kids’ future, you are nothing to your wife. So don’t get surprised when that bullet dismantles your heart.