The recent avalanche from Kenyan men to a certain female ‘celebrity’ because she said that she wanted a man with a fit relationship with money. Aki what is a fit relationship lakini? Btw what is a good relationship with money? I need to google that. Thing is Ive realised men are extremely touchy about money. If you want to be insulted to death please go on public record and say anything that has men and money in the same sentence. You will be in trouble maybe for the rest of your life. Ive never understood why men are so bitter about this issue because if a man could pick between two women with similar traits but one has more money than the other they’d prolly pick the one with money. Who doesnt want to be with someone with chums? I dont know anyone. For men thats fine but if a woman picks a wealthier guy she’s a gold digger, but if say a man prefers a younger prettier woman he is not a beauty digger but if a woman prefers a wealthier man she is definately a gold digger,she is not a good person,she is vain, she is superficial and she is HYPERGAMOUS. There’s a question I ask my ‘male friends’ , if your mom had a choice between a rich guy and a poor guy to pick to be your dad , who would you have liked her to pick. Let’s just say , its never the poor guy. Like Richard? Kiyosaki - Rich Dad ,Poor Dad - looks like kids can also be pretty hypergamous or golddiggerish huh?
I’d never really realised how big a deal money is till I started working and I could see lovely wives of poor men being serenaded with money and being used by these ‘Big men’ because these women had no money and their husbands didnt have much either. One househelp I had who was a Christian had to sleep with a guy she worked for whose wife had died of HIV because her husband and father of her three kids had no job. As a woman when you have no money, you are very vulnerable. This is worse if you have kids and you really struggling to provide. I can tell you for free that about any woman in this world will sooner go out and prostitute herself than say watch her child die because the child is sick and she has no money to pay for medical care. Men can walk out and look the other way even if it means the child dying or not going to school or eating but a mother never. This is why women cant afford to be poor . They cant .When shit hits the fan ,men can walk out of their kids and never look back. I know plenty who’ve done it, personally I dont know any woman yet even the ones on streets who will dump a child and never look back.
I have apologetically said that women shouldnt see poor men because they need space to focus on getting their money right. Secondly men’s identity comes almost entirely from money, so a man without money, is basically a guy who is very unhappy because he doesnt have a secure sense of identity. This is why majority of these murder cases committed are of men who are not financially stable. Many are students , others have lost money or a job. So basically a poor is a very insecure, angry man, a frustrated man and a dangerous man. I dont know what this lack of money thing does to men but they cant handle it. Women can be poor and not have a poor self esteem because of it but finances affect a man’s self esteem more than anything. So if you dont want to deal with a moody person , a person who always suspects you of cheating , a man who turns into a bully for no reason just avoid any man thats poorer than you.
Wealthy guys are great but if you as a woman are completely dependent on them. They tend to be tyrants. Like if you disagree with him or ask him why he never came home , he can deactivate the car he bought you ,throw you out, beat you to a pulp and you still will crawl back because first of all you are used to the ‘lifestyle’ ,you just cant imagine downgrading and you have no money of your own so basically the man’s bitch. I know a few men who are wealthy but very modest and disciplined but majority black men especially younger generation when they get rich they lose it completely and go on a rampage like Kori Karue - the guy who’s wife was killed by his mistress. So you can be sure more money more problems more cowives. Name it. I visited a former schoolmate of mine who discontinued school after 4th Form to marry a very wealthy guy,she was a housewife , the lady cried on my shoulder for 2 hours. She was miserable.The guy would beat her up, throw her out at night and even bring women to their matrimonial bed. A few years later she had the courage to leave,go back to college and make something of her life. She took back control of her life.The world can be very rough especially when you dont have your own money as a woman.
So the best thing is to just have your own money, have your own money, dont do joint investments with the joint name of Mr and Mrs So and So like Linturi’s wife Keitany because utarukwa like this was just a woman who I was housing as a friend.Invest for yourself , have all the land or property you buy in YOUR name because even if you are a couple you need individual assets, if your partner isnt down with this, do it behind his back. Its about your financial security and that of your kids no compromise here, you cant depend on someone esle’s goodwill for something that serious. Secondly never ever spend a single coin of yours going to build a palatial home in a man’s ushago, like Ms.Keitany who built Hon. Linturi a Kshs 54M house at his shags,same goes to taking loans for men and joint accounts , have boundaries to secure your finances. Ive seen enough women who did this and lived to regret it.Kama ni pesa uko nayo mob, inua flats and put them in your mother’s name in trust for your kids. You can never invest too much for your kids. Dont go falling in love hadi you sabotage your financial future and that of your kids because a man can waltz out and go start a whole other family and forget your kids exist. I know a woman whose husband went to work in SA and completely disappeared …just like that. It’ll all be on you so if theres anyone who needs a head start on financial security that would be you the woman , the mother.
Financial independence is a pretty good insulator.Poor people are vulnerable and more so if theyre female and have dependents. Poor people dont have choices.Money insulates you as a woman from alot and it gives you power. The power to choose. You can leave a bad job,a bad or abusive marriage, a bad neighborhood if you have the means. Being a woman makes you pretty vulnerable because as we all know its a man’s man’s world. Women are vulnerable biologically,physically,financially name it. So the best thing you can ever do for yourself as a woman is just ensure that you are financially secure in and of yourself. Not via a man or even a job. Seek to be financially independent and secure as early as you can in life. Get your money right early. Dont get into pyramids and joint investments with brothers and husbands and boyfriends try to be as independent and as conservative an investor as you can. Get your education early. Go as far as you can. Opportunities are there but you have to be prepared to meet them. Cant change the fact that the world is hierachical but you can do alot to protect yourself and your posterity , when you are considered to belong to an underclass for whatever reason. Just ask Oprah. She’s a woman and she’s black yet many white and many men cant even dream of the life she lives.
Why did this black americans used to call white people - THE MAN???