You would think that this is common sense but to most women it’s not thanks to societal brainwashing with the fairytale stories since childhood about prince charming and beauty and the beast and frogs turning into princes after kisses.
Having a man in your life as a woman is alot of work. ALOT. If you are not getting what you want out of the relationship, you need to stop putting in so much work or just get rid of the liability altogether. The man isn’t doing you any favors. You are putting in ALOT of work, way more than him, so there should be irreducible minimums you get out of that relationship otherwise if you are the only one who is giving, you have a pet, not a man. What you have is a ceremonial husband or boyfriend. Majority of women are in these types of relationshits where it’s always them giving and getting very little in return. Relationships are a two way street, give and take. If he gives less. You also give less. You are not running a red cross operation. You also need to benefit from the relationship.
A man isn’t doing you any favors by being with you, same way your employer isn’t doing you any favors hiring you. They didn’t hire you because they felt sorry that you had no job in this economy. They hired you because you have something that will benefit the company, so they have to pay you for the work you do for them. I don’t know any employer who doesn’t pay their employees then tells them, do you know how scarce jobs are? So you should be grateful that I gave you this job and so I won’t pay you a salary. Lack of jobs notwithstanding nobody will stay at any job where they are not being paid. Even if they don’t have options. Just to tell people oh but you know I have a job but you go to work every day, spend time and energy, incur costs on the commute then get nothing out of it. People would be like this is a nutcase. Yet this is the life of so many women. You are married you are paying rent, fees, all the bills in the house, your husband takes his money to a real woman who knows her worth aka MWK. Like am tired of these stories of exploited women. Why are women so desperate to be in relationshits that add no value to their lives? Can’t they do bad all by themselves? Women give men too much power. It needs to stop. If he’s not bringing anything to the table, you are not his mom, if you want a dependent you can adopt a child or but a pet. It’d be less work. Have you ever seen a man stay in a relationship where he’s cheated on, beaten, abused and the woman won’t do a darn thing for him? I have never. No matter how much they’re in love they won’t put up with being disrespected, used and abused. A man will never marry a woman beneath his class. I have never seen any, yet women marry jobless men, men who can’t provide, abusive men from lower class families with lots of dependents, men with kids. A man won’t marry a single mother even if he himself is a baby daddy. That’s how much men love themselves, they won’t even marry a woman who is like them they want to upgrade and if it’s not possible they don’t saddle themselves with a woman who is a burden, they leave it alone, unless and until they can get what they want in a woman. Why is it always women making all the compromise. Why don’t we hear how a wealthy 20 year old son of a billionaire falls in love with a broke 55 year old woman with 5 kids from different men? Who will say that’s love? Nobody.Everyone will think he’s bewitched and insane. Nobody will be like fawning all over social media, like look how happy he looked. Yet Tecra and Ali Lali or whatever his name was what true love looks like. Can you see how brainwashed women are to accept any garbage in the name of true love and happiness.
End of rant.