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The moral of the book is that: Men are strong beings: we are constantly fascinated by new ways of doing things, challenge each others theories, participate in politics, world views etc Look at the participants in K-talk and are constantly developing our wits but because of social conditioning women have taken a back seat and discuss trivial things, gossip that only benefit them go to Kilimani mums etc, their intellect atrophies as a result- most not all So the reason why women get into marriage is 1. For their own priority first;1. to raise their social status in front of their friends, they care more about the opinions of other women not yours 2. to be dependent on you- you do all the thinking they don't have to do it,,,,,,,, so usijidanganye 'your woman plays a big/major role in your success or failure story, be it economic or social.....as much as i don't agree with some parts of the book, it makes a lot of points.....you can read the book and come to your conclusion
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This is an excerpt:
WHAT IS LOVE?
Man has been manipulated by woman to the point where he cannot live without her and therefore will do anything she asks of him. He fights for his life and calls it love. There are even men who will threaten their idolized female with suicide unless she accepts him. Not that this is much of a risk for them - they have nothing to lose.
Woman, nevertheless, is incapable of living without a man. Like a queen bee, she cannot survive on her own. She, too, is fighting for her life, and she, too, calls it love. They each need one another, in fact, and it seems therefore that they share at least one sentiment. The cause, nature, and consequences of this sentiment however differ as much as do the sexes.
To a woman love means power, to a man enslavement. Love provides woman with an excuse for financial exploitation, man with an emotionally charged excuse. `For the sake of love' woman will do things that are of advantage only to herself, while man does only those things that will harm him. When a woman marries, she gives up her career `for the sake of love.' When a man marries, he will have to work for two `for the sake of love.' For both sexes, love is a fight for survival. But the one survives only by being victorious, the other only by being defeated. It is a paradox that women can also make their greatest gains during moments of utter passivity and that the word `love' endows them with a halo of selflessness, even at the moment of their most pitiless deception of man.
As a result of `love,' man is able to hide his cowardly self-deception behind a smoke screen of sentiment. He is able to make himself believe that his senseless enslavement to woman and her hostages is more than an act of honor, it has a higher purpose. He is entirely happy in his role as a slave and has arrived at the goal he has so long desired. Since woman gains nothing but one advantage after another from the situation as it stands today, things will never change. The system forces her to be corrupt, but no one is going to worry about that. Since one can expect nothing from a woman but love, it will remain the currency for any need she might have. Man, her slave, will continue to use his energies only according to his conditioning and never to his own advantage. He will achieve greater goals and the more he achieves, the farther women will become alienated from him. The more he tries to ingratiate himself with her, the more demanding she will become; the more he desires her, the less she finds him desirable; the more comforts he provides for her, the more indolent, stupid and inhuman she will become - and man will grow lonelier as a
result.
WHAT IS LOVE?
Man has been manipulated by woman to the point where he cannot live without her and therefore will do anything she asks of him. He fights for his life and calls it love. There are even men who will threaten their idolized female with suicide unless she accepts him. Not that this is much of a risk for them - they have nothing to lose.
Woman, nevertheless, is incapable of living without a man. Like a queen bee, she cannot survive on her own. She, too, is fighting for her life, and she, too, calls it love. They each need one another, in fact, and it seems therefore that they share at least one sentiment. The cause, nature, and consequences of this sentiment however differ as much as do the sexes.
To a woman love means power, to a man enslavement. Love provides woman with an excuse for financial exploitation, man with an emotionally charged excuse. `For the sake of love' woman will do things that are of advantage only to herself, while man does only those things that will harm him. When a woman marries, she gives up her career `for the sake of love.' When a man marries, he will have to work for two `for the sake of love.' For both sexes, love is a fight for survival. But the one survives only by being victorious, the other only by being defeated. It is a paradox that women can also make their greatest gains during moments of utter passivity and that the word `love' endows them with a halo of selflessness, even at the moment of their most pitiless deception of man.
As a result of `love,' man is able to hide his cowardly self-deception behind a smoke screen of sentiment. He is able to make himself believe that his senseless enslavement to woman and her hostages is more than an act of honor, it has a higher purpose. He is entirely happy in his role as a slave and has arrived at the goal he has so long desired. Since woman gains nothing but one advantage after another from the situation as it stands today, things will never change. The system forces her to be corrupt, but no one is going to worry about that. Since one can expect nothing from a woman but love, it will remain the currency for any need she might have. Man, her slave, will continue to use his energies only according to his conditioning and never to his own advantage. He will achieve greater goals and the more he achieves, the farther women will become alienated from him. The more he tries to ingratiate himself with her, the more demanding she will become; the more he desires her, the less she finds him desirable; the more comforts he provides for her, the more indolent, stupid and inhuman she will become - and man will grow lonelier as a
result.
though the author barely gives solutions I think i can personally conclude from the book that:1. Don't let marriage be your ultimate destination in life or define your sense of security, self-worth happiness, success, contentment, 2.you are responsible for your own success-financial, career,psyche etc and happiness, find other things that give you meaning in life, 3. Don't depend on a woman to make you happy you will never find it and you will be disappointed 4. Heavily weigh the pros and cons you will gain and give in marriage and demand your needs be met as much as you are giving out, do not be a sacrificial lamb
Will search for and read the whole book. But even from the excerpt she seems to agree with my point .
Now listen son, the many years I have been in this world I have seen well doing men or men with potential to succeed being destroyed by their women. I have equally encountered hopeless men who seemed to have no iota of hope in life being turned into success stories by there women. Choosing your partner is one single decision that must be carefully done for it will make or break you.
Now listen son, the many years I have been in this world I have seen well doing men or men with potential to succeed being destroyed by their women. I have equally encountered hopeless men who seemed to have no iota of hope in life being turned into success stories by there women. Choosing your partner is one single decision that must be carefully done for it will make or break you.
True trophy wives are a big problem, infact look at Donald Trump's wife and compare to Obama's wife, she has no intellectual or solid background, like what is common as described in the book she brings "love" and "sex' to the table in exchange for letting another man think for her and provide finances so that she doesn't have to work. So i think you should look at the brains and what they bring to the table, i bet Obama has recieved a lot from Michelle than Trump has received from Melania,though don't marry an ugly woman though LOL..too bad Melania will never learn, and Trump also has an upper hand that once her beauty fades Trump will look for another high, as Melania is his 3rd wife, and he has a history of 'grabbing ' and if you look at his last two wives who are divorced it tells a story,
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