You will be disappointed as a parent. I would advise you to guide them but don’t make decisions for them. ile rebellion utakutana nayo utashangaa. Bookmark this comment and save it on your phone or write it somewhere in your diary.
Is it true (wo)men who spent most of their youthful years screwing anything that moves can also transform into honest & faithful partners after marriage?
Would you consider arranged marriage?
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Good.
Only as far as guidance is concerned but choice is personal, older people tend to be wise and can see a problem before it happens.
Am a very democratic mother. If I deny my kids something, we discuss their side,I give mine. Not in a commanding way. This approach is not to force them its to give pros and cons, dialogue the caliber of men on the market especially with the pills cult influencing young men, I will not force them,I will give them an offer they can’t refuse. Theyre sharp like their mother, they know our marriage was arranged and we’ve role modeled a good example as a couple. After all the drama and heartbreaks and dangers frought in the current dating scene and the horror stories, our option will be an easy sell. I don’t believe in any kind of dating,I believe in short courtships and marriage! But if they insist I will let them see the madness out there. But am sure after just one relationship with the high standards Ive instilled in them they will be disillusioned and ask to be rescued. Mtoto wako hawezi kukushinda maarifa.
Sometimes parents arrange marriages for their own gain, especially financial gain. Kuoana na hamjuani seems odd in this era. In an arranged marriage it’s likely for one to forget personal goals and ideals, aspirations and feelings; one may feel their life is unfulfilled and develop resentment and frustration. But… things can be different, like in your case apparently.
Promiscuity is an unfortunate phase and those who do engage in it be they male or female abandon it completely once they realize that its got no benefits only dangers,disease,heartbreaks and baggage! Such pple make the best spouses because theyve come back to their senses and know the truth. Promiscuity holds no allure for them and they value marriage more than most pple.A guy called Neil Strauss who taught men how to be womanizers by manipulating women is now the most faithful and loving husband after being a master Casanova. Even former pornstars make great spouses and parents bcz they feel lucky to have another chance at life and to have a family!
@GeorginaMakena thnks for posting short story atleast nmesoma…
Wouldn’t like an imposed wife.
Hapo kwa sex before marriage I agree. As much as my fiancé and I are not virgins we’ve decided to wait. He insists on waiting for the climax of a relationship is demonstrated on the wedding night.
Hmm
Hii ni Upuusi wa hali ya juu
Arranged marriages means me picking you and offering your parents sufficient number of goats and cattle and you are sent to me. Its you who must cope.
Anyway thats a stupid discussion on impossibilities. Society moved away.
kunguru hafugiki.
let me disappoint you. food engineer @Kihii Kiaganu sai anapanga vile atafanyia Atieno akikam later tonight. Na usitudanganye, si you are getting monster cock in the States?
I agree! Ive seen my relas who refused their dotas bf of 10 yrs from a good Christian family who were even well off bcz they wanted to marry her off to a prominent Meru family. She left her gud jobo in 254 to go live with him majuu, they had a dota,she fell into depression and bcm alcoholic,the husband kicked her out and his family filed for sole custody of the kid. She’s now very unhappy. If my gals would bring us a good man, after we verify he’s genuine ,we will give our blessing! The goal here is to help them get good spouses so whatever will achieve that goal is fine. The problem is that especially for very beautiful girls,from good family, who have everything,their beauty and wealth attract the worst types of men! And so if as a parent you are not proactive and vigilant to guard and guide and monitor your innocent child,will be taken advantage of by wakoro - smooth operators. And they will be completely ruined. And there goes your posterity and your key investment in life.All bcz you as parent left your innocent sheltered childs destiny at the hands of this treacherous world and just sat back and hoped for the best. Like Arungas parents knew their dota had been duped severally by conmen who knew she was from an affluent family and had a well paying job, masquerading as suitors yet they didnt take steps to help her find a suitor but just left her in a vulnerable state bcz she had decided she must get married. So at the end she fell into the hands of a psychotic occultist. Would you buy a prime plot then not fence it and guard it to protect it. Why is it that our main investment who are our children the custodian of our posterity and family lineage we leave them to the elements and to fate then we sit back and hope for the best? Isnt tht the height of irresponsibility and abdication of our parental obligations. I mean even in the Bible,Abraham made arrangements on his deathbed to have his servant find his son Isaac who was a grown man a wife. Why dint he just let Isaac chose for himself! Bcz he knew the types of girls there were not good for his son so he didn’t say to hell isnt he an adult? He sent them to a land with good girls and asked for God’s help in their endeavour but for us we imagine a good marriage is an issue of luck. Which is very irresponsible and foolish. Bcz we are older and we know how this generation is.So how do you go2all the trouble to raise your child well then let them in their innocence go out among ravenous wolves,drug addicts,womanizers, rapists, gangsters,married men who pretend to be single, HIV positive pple, pple using charms to hook ur child,sponsors, gold diggers,single moms pretending to be childless,escorts,cultists,women haters,atheists, arsonists,occultists name it? I mean its a jungle out here. How can you leave your kifaranga at the mercy of a society full of such? And imagine theyll have the ability to see thru intricate ruses some which have been drilled into them in a woman hating ,anti family values,anti marriage cult like that no good demon of a cult called red tablets I mean red pills which promotes promiscuity and abuse of young gullible women thru manipulation for years.
Nobody forces you you can say no. But atleast im.arranged you are sure of your partner’s background, family and past as well as values. Rather than people you don’t know from Adam who you met in Nairobi here masquerading to be what theyre not to trap you.
You will be surprised how much arranged marriages are gaining tract due to disillusionment in the dating scene
In that case, there is hope for many of us:)