Becoming a step-father is shooting yourself in the foot

[King_Robert_Baratheo]

@Makiadi

Enda uwaulize.

It’s called a hypothetical question bonobo, but sarcasm always flies over the heads of Plebs like you.

[Mugumo]

@K-LIST DON DADA

Thou shall not raise other men’s bastards unless they are your slaves…

Waah

[Yuletapeli]

@chap

Yeah the juice is never worth the squeeze, you will be tasked with taking them out, spending time with them, shopping for them, basically at that time “they are our kids” but dare not try to raise your hand on one of the insolent bastards you will be told “never hit my kids”

…alafu unapata huyo bastard is very intelligent na watoi wa step dad ni bure…na step dad analipia step child fee… Matha akikosana na step dad… Matha anamwambia… Wewe ni mjinga kama watoto wako… :D:D

[tombayeye]

@smokin_gun

A good example is Obama who barely acknowledged his step-father

step-babake alikua beach boy looking for a green card after mama aende kutafuta kuni indonesia so,yeah

[Mchezaji]

mashida zenu beta males, ukiamua kujikaranga jikarange bila kutulilia

[Makiadi]

@King Robert Baratheon

It’s called a hypothetical question bonobo, but sarcasm always flies over the heads of Plebs like you.

Wamesemaje?

[Finest_wine]

@smokin_gun

This is not single mother bashing, but just a reality-check.

I will not dwell on single mothers, but just for a minute imagine you’ve settled with a single mother and became a step-father.

For a start, you will never be acknowledged as the real father.

A good example is Obama who barely acknowledged his step-father but he tried to bond with his absent father who he only met twice.

I’ve read cases of children who came from sperm banks and raised by step-fathers, yet they still go an extra mile to search for their real father who just nutted in a bottle.

Sure, most men have no problem if they’re not acknowledged.

But here is the twisted part: Everyone (both the mum and the child included) expects you to act like the step-child is yours, take on all parental duties but when it comes to decisions, you have absolutely no say in the matter.

The same can be said about step-mothers.

But even if you don’t make those major decisions about the step-child (especially when it comes to discipline) and something goes wrong, you will still be somehow blamed for it.

It’s just too much headache for a coochie.

In a few short words: You won’t have authority, and neither will you be respected.

The onus is always on the single mum…to do the right thing. Keep your kids from your love life. Always ends in tears. Kama unapiga umalaya for survival keep it away from the kids.
Let us learn from Virginia Wangari the mother of 12 kids. Alifukuzwa akaenda kuwa mama nguo. Sasa ako mbali na amepeleka watoto wake mbali sana in the faith.
Women don’t bring strange men home to your kids. Their biological fathers cannot be replaced. Same case applies to men. Don’t bring women home to raise your kids. Step mothers are v dangerous species.

[Old_Monk]

@smokin_gun

Of course, people will say “But you know what you’re getting yourself into”,…You think you do but you really don’t.

As a step-parent, you will be sacrificing more of yourself than your partner ever will.

How about those men who can’t have a child but desire one in a nuclear family setting?

[Haiwesekani]

Shida iko wapi, na tulisema hakuna kulea burukenge in any event? Pambaneni, sijui eti step-what.

[Kumbaffu]

@Old Monk

How about those men who can’t have a child but desire one in a nuclear family setting?

That’s a different circumstance entirely. But if you’re a capable man with a high sperm count, it’s better to bring your own kids. For the sake of your mental well-being.

[count_dracula]

@Old Monk

How about those men who can’t have a child but desire one in a nuclear family setting?

Kumbe unakuaga monk as in you have balls issues?

[Lonely_Lover]

Wacha tu niseme hivi na ni from experience…mi natoka from a large polygamous family with all sorts of characters in different situations.

1. Blood is thicker than water…sawa…usijaribu ku mix the two…coz upende usipende the kids wataskizana only to the point of where the parents are alive…wazazi wakisha dedi inaweza kuwa fracas mbaiya…mnafikiria hawa watoi hawajui their origins.
2. These kids are angels until the point they become adults…then kama wakona any raw emotions towards anyone…ndio their fangs and claws zitatolewa…utapenda.
3. These step kids pia wana eye mali ya mzee…after all si unadinya mama yao make her promises here and there uki whisper sweet nothings to her ears…dont think the kids arent in the loop…when they grow up wataku kumbusha kila uliambia mama yao then watakudai…utapenda.
4. Now imagine both you and the woman both have sons and daughters…sawa…the number doesnt matter…then your biological sons die and the womans sons are alive and well…male ego will push some if not all the womans boys to domineer over your boma…juu wanaona hao ndio wanaume kea boma…you will have condemned your biological daughters to hell…hile mchujo watapitia under the hands of these boys…you will regret and your own kids might hate you for hii tamaa yako ya wanawake.
5. At first it feels like your doing just right and alls well…but slowly from where umekaa as your aging and getting weaker kama kuna some rifts in the blended family…your in too deep to reverse anything and your too weak kids are grown up and strong and no one listens to you…you will face open challenge and oposition…your home will not feel like a home anymore…na utakuwa more comfy huko nje away from your boma…soma my point 1 vizuri…hutaki old age misery my friends…usijitie mzigo huwezani nayo.

Nimewa spare a hekaya…but one day i might just fill you in…DONT DO STEP DADS AND STEP MUMS MANENOS.
I am talking from experience. It is not worth it.
You will die a bitter frustrated resentful burdened old hag if the Lord keeps you long enough.

Elders msijaribu…dinyana usonge mbele.

[J_Blackman]

@Chiefkiumbe

Admin note in books, hapa tuko na Paedo.

@administrator please act on this tujue what’s your stand on paedophilia.

[Terrorsummit]

@Lonely Lover

Wacha tu niseme hivi na ni from experience…mi natoka from a large polygamous family with all sorts of characters in different situations.

1. Blood is thicker than water…sawa…usijaribu ku mix the two…coz upende usipende the kids wataskizana only to the point of where the parents are alive…wazazi wakisha dedi inaweza kuwa fracas mbaiya…mnafikiria hawa watoi hawajui their origins.
2. These kids are angels until the point they become adults…then kama wakona any raw emotions towards anyone…ndio their fangs and claws zitatolewa…utapenda.
3. These step kids pia wana eye mali ya mzee…after all si unadinya mama yao make her promises here and there uki whisper sweet nothings to her ears…dont think the kids arent in the loop…when they grow up wataku kumbusha kila uliambia mama yao then watakudai…utapenda.
4. Now imagine both you and the woman both have sons and daughters…sawa…the number doesnt matter…then your biological sons die and the womans sons are alive and well…male ego will push some if not all the womans boys to domineer over your boma…juu wanaona hao ndio wanaume kea boma…you will have condemned your biological daughters to hell…hile mchujo watapitia under the hands of these boys…you will regret and your own kids might hate you for hii tamaa yako ya wanawake.
5. At first it feels like your doing just right and alls well…but slowly from where umekaa as your aging and getting weaker kama kuna some rifts in the blended family…your in too deep to reverse anything and your too weak kids are grown up and strong and no one listens to you…you will face open challenge and oposition…your home will not feel like a home anymore…na utakuwa more comfy huko nje away from your boma…soma my point 1 vizuri…hutaki old age misery my friends…usijitie mzigo huwezani nayo.

Nimewa spare a hekaya…but one day i might just fill you in…DONT DO STEP DADS AND STEP MUMS MANENOS.
I am talking from experience. It is not worth it.
You will die a bitter frustrated resentful burdened old hag if the Lord keeps you long enough.

Elders msijaribu…dinyana usonge mbele.

Wah!

[formeradministrator]

@Chiefkiumbe

Admin note in books, hapa tuko na Paedo.

Banned

[Freyja]

@JM. Pombe

@administrator please act on this tujue what’s your stand on paedophilia.

Huyo shida zake zilianza Kitambo.
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[King_Robert_Baratheo]

@Makiadi

Wamesemaje?

Monaco tunasija

[Sambamba]

@Lonely Lover

Wacha tu niseme hivi na ni from experience…mi natoka from a large polygamous family with all sorts of characters in different situations.

1. Blood is thicker than water…sawa…usijaribu ku mix the two…coz upende usipende the kids wataskizana only to the point of where the parents are alive…wazazi wakisha dedi inaweza kuwa fracas mbaiya…mnafikiria hawa watoi hawajui their origins.
2. These kids are angels until the point they become adults…then kama wakona any raw emotions towards anyone…ndio their fangs and claws zitatolewa…utapenda.
3. These step kids pia wana eye mali ya mzee…after all si unadinya mama yao make her promises here and there uki whisper sweet nothings to her ears…dont think the kids arent in the loop…when they grow up wataku kumbusha kila uliambia mama yao then watakudai…utapenda.
4. Now imagine both you and the woman both have sons and daughters…sawa…the number doesnt matter…then your biological sons die and the womans sons are alive and well…male ego will push some if not all the womans boys to domineer over your boma…juu wanaona hao ndio wanaume kea boma…you will have condemned your biological daughters to hell…hile mchujo watapitia under the hands of these boys…you will regret and your own kids might hate you for hii tamaa yako ya wanawake.
5. At first it feels like your doing just right and alls well…but slowly from where umekaa as your aging and getting weaker kama kuna some rifts in the blended family…your in too deep to reverse anything and your too weak kids are grown up and strong and no one listens to you…you will face open challenge and oposition…your home will not feel like a home anymore…na utakuwa more comfy huko nje away from your boma…soma my point 1 vizuri…hutaki old age misery my friends…usijitie mzigo huwezani nayo.

Nimewa spare a hekaya…but one day i might just fill you in…DONT DO STEP DADS AND STEP MUMS MANENOS.
I am talking from experience. It is not worth it.
You will die a bitter frustrated resentful burdened old hag if the Lord keeps you long enough.

Elders msijaribu…dinyana usonge mbele.

Leta hekaya ghaseer. Let people learn from other’s experiences

[Vinnywaf]

@Freyja

Huyo shida zake zilianza Kitambo.
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Pseudonym I was a kid too