Tell me how do you discipline your kid
Reward good behaviour and withdraw privileges when they misbehave. You have to do this repeatedly so that they are conditioned to accept that when you say no you mean no. Growing up is a process that requires that parents–and teachers, some of who are parents too-- adapt to the changing needs of children at different stages of life.
You cannot give anyone the right to beat your children. They may do it still, but making it legal is absolute folly. It’s oppressive, it damages people emotionally, and the anger it creates is an extremely dangerous thing in a group. Think what you could do to someone who once beat you for nothing because you were helpless. Think what would have happened if you had the strength to hit him back. Mistakes happen, and you could punish a student who is innocent. You can’t take that back, and he/she will not forget it.
At this point in history people already understand corporal punishment is a human right violation. In short, it is physical assault. You really need to be living in the clouds to think that is a sane solution to any problem. Worse, to even think it should be legalized is madness, as Sossion said.
I still remember one grey haired guy who pinched my ear till it bled when I was in class one because I got a sum wrong. Now, you want me to respect such a SOB? I would honestly have done to him something unspeakable if I could, but I was so small. And parents of our time didn’t have some of the advantages of a rights-based education that could help them raise those issues. But I do. So no. Not in my life. I will never support corporal punishment, and I will actively oppose it if doing so is the only thing I’ll live for.
but these shitty teachers understand that of 50 canes at a go…thats not discipline…huezi chapa mtu ni kama unaua nyoka…be reasonable 3-4 canes is sufficient enough.
Who looks after the children during the holidays?
No caning in the schools I went to. There were other methods of punishing us. Kneel infront of the class, stand outside, slashing the grass, parents called in and in my case ujue kuitiwa my mum utakipata jioni…
The work of serious disciplining belongs to the parents.
So if you lived far away you don’t get a chance to attend alliance or any other high end school?
I hated boarding school and I think it’d have worked better as a mix between day schoolers, boarders and guys who went home in the weekend.
How many parents out there understand the rewarding of good behaviours and punishing the bad ones bearing the kababa nonsenses
I agree parents are failing to discipline their children the question is,what should teachers do?
You have raised a v valid point. About good schools far from one’s home. Sigh! The whole education system would need a complete overhaul…
This is a quagmire. We have a generation of slay parents in their 30s. They were not disciplined by their parents so they don’t know the benefits or even how to. They don’t even know their children. Some even employ mboches who are educated enough to help with the homework.
I really don’t know but I don’t think caning this generation will help much. They will gang up and beat the teachers.
Sina hekaya but the usual: Terrible and little food,bullies,beatings,bully teachers,cold,home sickness,more caning,preps at ungodly hours,rampant theft,harsh prefects… ni mingi sana which outweighs the good.
Spare the rod and spoil the child.
spoil the kid .
In my view, parenting is where the problem is. Some children go to school already hardened and bad mannered. Teachers just don’t have the time and the capacity to step into the shoes of mothers and fathers of tens, even hundreds of students. The child needs to be already receptive and disciplined enough to listen and even
ask questions. For that to happen, an atmosphere of calm and respect is necessary in the classroom. Kids must be taught to listen from home. If they won’t listen to parents they’ll give everyone else a headache.
Only the fool responds positively to physical pain. If you hit me even when I was a kid, I could see the injustice in it from a very early age, and if I didn’t hit you back it’s only because I couldn’t. But I found ways to stay out of trouble. I don’t think I’m an indisciplined or crude person. But I’m very firm and principled. I hate pain, and all forms of injustice, so if you hit me today, you’d have to look for a hole in the ground to hide in. I’ll become something you’ve not imagined. My sense of self preservation is very strong. I want kids to be happy, well behaved and safe, so I’m not spoiling the child.
Vestiges in of our colonial school
Sisi watu wa st. Andrews turi tukae upande gani.
Anyone who’s been to public…and some private schools knows that canning is happening. Only by select teachers (headteachers, discipline master na deputy).
Anyone who has been a parent knows that older generations were never taught parenting. They crawled around in the dark. Now you are taught about positive parenting. Even then, that is a luxury many are not able to come across.
Few of you arguing here understand the role of school in society. It is every human being’s second socialisation agent. School environments and climate can undo some of the good or bad you have encountered in life. It is in schools that some behaviours get affirmed-unprotected sex, substance use, gang activity and crime, fancied self-harm, stealing, corruption…all the vices you can think of…are affirmed due to negative school environments and climates. Today, kids spend 2-3 years with their parents then get started with daycare. And yes, if you can afford to stay fulltime with your kids, don’t think millions of other parents can afford that. Daycare to Preprimary…and so on.
In pre-primary, where the education system can start righting some wrongs in kids upbringing, teachers hawaelewi fully child development. Those who do are overwhelmed.
Schools are overcrowded right from pre-primary to university. The teacher to learner ratio is crazy. How does one teacher attend to 60+ learners?
Do you know that kuna class imejaa hata teacher hana space ya kumove around akifunza? Such is already a negative school environment due to poor infrastructure.
So yes, parents have a role in setting their kids on the right track. But any school worth it’s name plays a role in affirming and maintaining positive attitudes and behaviours. Kuna people hii kijiji who owe their discipline and who they turned out to be to their schools and teachers.
Kwa hiyo forest iko hapo karibu na shule yenu
Are you suggesting that parents should totally hand over their parental responsibility to teachers?