^^One character of being stingy:eek:
Saidia wazazi na roho safi buana. They made you who you are regardless of where they might left off. Appreciate them na sukari and shopping hivi not mere handouts every time. That said, I think you should make it clear to them of your financial situation such that they can keep their expectations in check
Wakijua you earn kcr from their stories watakasirika sana
x-trail
October 6, 2017, 12:09am
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Saidia hao na ukue na ujanja ujue mbinu za maside hustle
IsMundu
October 6, 2017, 12:15am
25
Because you can afford it and your family is probably not badly off… Kama hujawahi kulala njaaa then huwezi ku-relate. Get off your high horse!
At the detriment of your own sanity? I don’t think so, or maybe I was cultured differently.
give what you have and dont overstretch. simple!
Some parents simply give birth as a retirement pension plan. The burdens that those kids carry make them very responsible adults
WuTang
October 6, 2017, 6:07am
30
Did you get the gist of the story?
lawi
October 6, 2017, 6:44am
31
Lawyers are a cunning lot… You can get away with anything, be creative like one and maneuver your way through it
MBOMB
October 6, 2017, 7:21am
32
You are doing just fine, be proud of your accomplishments.
#ThisIsMyStory I am 25 but have responsibilities the size of a 40 year old. My dad retired while I was in class six, he is polygamous and we are the younger family. So my uncle took up the responsibility of educating me till form 3. My aunt somehow convinced him not to pay my fees any further. My form four fees were never paid. However, being in a Catholic national school, my principal allowed me to finish my studies and I only paid the fees balance in January 2016, many years later.
I joined the University of Nairobi to pursue a bachelor’s degree in law which I successfully finished, thanks to the HELB loan. My next hustle was to join the Kenya School of Law(KSL). Raising the 200 k fee was no joke. I got a partial scholarship from LSK and did academic writings to get the balance.
I struggled throughout my KSL life to make ends meet. Writing most of the time to raise money for rent, transport, food and other essentials. As if that was no small struggle, I had my parents and siblings asking for money each and every week with no appreciation at all. My parents believed that I am rich simply because I have law degree.
After KSL, I managed to secured pupillage at a law firm with a pay of 20k/month. Both my mum and dad were so excited saying that finally their struggles were over. My mom actually stopped doing the little jobs she did and specifically indicated that it’s high time she manages my money.
She asks for thousands every week. Sometimes I send her money and I am only left with fare to work and at least 10 bob for sukuma wiki, which I take every day of the month. I always feel that she manipulates me! I don’t know how to say NO to her. She can even pretend to be sick or my baby brother and sister so that I send her money. My two sisters and brother in campus also ask for money. I feel so frustrated. It’s a burden being a first born. I can barely support myself, sembuse familia yangu?
Thankfully, I passed my bar exams so I’m waiting for admission to the bar. I hope I will have enough money to meet all these responsibilities once I become an advocate.
In the meantime, how do I manage the financial pressure from my family? It has really weighed me down till at one time I thought of procuring a sponsor to meet their financial needs. I even take huge Mshwari loans in the middle of the month just to send money to my mum. I am frustrated even though my friends think I am always happy. I wish I could block all my family. Please advise.
PS: #ThisIsMyStoryCampaign lets you open up, anonymously, about your struggles & how you deal with them. To take part, send your story to [email protected]
#MarkMaish #TheBrokeBillionaire
OK my advice might sound harsh and callous but Zima Simu, Hama Nairobi and generally Ghost them for 3yrs or so.
Option ni hiyo. Trust me, family can kill you. I know.
First of all hats off for not giving up when the going got tough secondly. Hold a family meeting and be honest and explain the situation to them. I guess they’ll understand and you can agree to a send the amount that you are comfortable with.N/B Na usiende na kiburi.
Lemah
October 6, 2017, 9:34am
35
tell them you’re addicted to heroin. they’ll denounce you
kitu ya kwanza stop sending money weekly coz u are not paid daily…tell them u earn 10k per month…apo unatuma 2500 montly…
if u continue been manupilated utajipataa nyali bridge ukiruka…
have a seat down with them…communication is key
halafu tafuta lanye ya kusafisha izi trouble zote…u dont have to be loved by everyone
no need to lie,waambie ile iko,ile unatumia bills,fare and food and miscellaneous ile inabaki kata mara mbili,nusu emergency nusu patiana
system
October 6, 2017, 11:03am
37
Exactly what I’d do as well. Hata workmates singewapa, labda mmoja tu with instructions to never share it.
Hamkumbuki @Tarantinoh akitwambia walimnyang’anya mwenzao simu just to get the leeching relatives off his back?